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For a transgender person, it is difficult to find love offline. Social stigma makes them vulnerable to verbal and even physical abuse in the offline world. Therefore, the safest thing to do is to join a transgender dating site.

Moreover, when you are looking for love, it is natural that you would like to meet as broad a variety of people as possible. The offline world limits your options as you can only meet people through friends or acquaintances. But when you join a transgender dating site, you have the option of communicating with like-minded people from all across the world. And while this can be exciting and exhilarating, it can also make you vulnerable to all the wrong kinds of people.

So, it is very important to join a safe transgender dating site. When you come across profiles of stunning looking people from all across the world, it’s easy to get carried away. But you have to realize that many of these people can be scammers and imposters. And it can be very stressful if you have to be constantly suspicious of everybody you are chatting with on a trans dating site. It’s therefore important to make sure that you are registering yourself on a safe transgender dating site.

Here are a few tips that would help you decide how to choose the safest transgender dating site.

Always do a Thorough Online Search

Never join a transsexual dating site randomly just because you heard its name. You heard a few people talk about it and then without giving it much thought, you just jumped onto the bandwagon.

It’s important to do a thorough internet search before joining any trans dating site. Make a list of all the trans dating sites that are popping up in your internet research. Have a thorough look at these sites and then compare their features. Always read the review provided by their users. If a trans dating site has many good reviews on average, then you can safely conclude that it would be a pretty decent site.

Prefer Dating Sites that are Trusted by your Friends

This is the conventional and time-tested approach for determining the safety quotient of a particular transgender dating site. It is best to join a transgender dating site that has also been used by your friends. If your friend has had a positive experience using a particular dating site, then it makes sense that you can trust their judgment and consider joining that site.

If any of your friends are still using a particular trans dating site, then it’s ever safer for you to join the same. The two of you can keep a tab on any suspicious and fake profiles and discuss it amongst yourselves. More than anything, it’s just psychologically comforting to know that you are not into something entirely by yourself. There is someone by your side. It can be very intimidating for a transgender person to join a trans dating site that nobody in their circle has ever used before. So, if your friends recommend certain dating sites to you, those should definitely be on the top of your priority list.

Having said that, this does not mean you blindly follow the advice of your friends. When it comes to online dating, it’s best to use your judgment as well. Everybody’s experience with trans dating is different. So, it’s always advisable to do a thorough check from your end as well before joining any ts dating site.

Avoid Dating Sites that ask for too much Personal Information

The best transgender dating sites are those that understand the value of your privacy. These would not ask you to give out too much of your personal information. Of course, when you start chatting with someone, how much personal information to give out is totally your discretion. But the best transgender dating sites would not make it mandatory for you to spell out a lot of personal information.

So be suspicious of trans dating sites that ask for too many personal details at the time of registration. As a transgender person, your safety is what is most important. So as a rule of thumb, avoid trans dating sites that ask for too much personal information. The site might be having good intentions but it’s just not worth the risk. It’s not unusual to find transphobic people on a lot of transgender dating sites literally hunting for transgender people in order to potentially harm them.

So, your best bet is a transgender dating site that is not too pushy about your personal information and that lets you move forward at your own pace, with your own terms and conditions.

Prefer a Transgender Dating Site with great in-built Security Features

Now, this is something that you can figure out during the time of internet research. When you are checking out prospective transgender dating sites through the Google search engine, always pay extra attention to the in-built security features of these sites.

It’s important to know what kind of security mechanisms they have in place for weeding out scammers and imposters. The ideal tg dating site should also have a foolproof mechanism for safeguarding your personal information. They should be really proactive in terms of responding to the complaints made against any of the users.

The most important thing is that a great transgender dating site should have an excellent redressal mechanism. Even if after all the safety and precautions, you end up being verbally harassed or being abused by someone, the site should be able to immediately act upon your complaint.  You don’t want to waste your time on a dating site that doesn’t take your safety and self-esteem seriously enough.

Validate Personal meetups with the Administrators of the Transgender Dating Site

Now, meeting somebody in person through a transgender dating site is tricky terrain. That is of course the goal of online dating though. You talk to different kinds of people and if you find someone with whom you seem to be developing great chemistry, the two of you consider meeting each other. That seems like the most natural thing to do.

But as a transgender person, meeting someone personally is fraught with risks. You don’t want to expose yourself to all kinds of dangers by meeting someone you technically don’t know. It’s true that you have been chatting with your prospective love interest for quite a while and you get good vibes for them. And let’s hope it will all turn out beautiful. But it’s important to be cautious. Ts dating sites are full of smooth talkers who are looking to exploit transgender people for all sorts of underhand and shady activities. Then there are transphobic people who are literally scouting for transsexual people on these dating sites.

So, it’s important that the trans dating site you join should have some sort of a mechanism through which administrators can validate personal meet-ups before you agree to them. That is, the administrators of that site should be able to give you substantial background information about the person who has proposed the meeting and should be able to sufficiently warn you against the meetup if there are any red flags.

However, it is equally important to do background checks from your own end before agreeing to meet someone offline. You can search for information related to them through google. Try to find them on other social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram. If you find something suspicious, then it is best not to go ahead with the personal meet up.

Leave the Transgender Dating Site if you feel Uncomfortable

Now, of course, this is not an ideal scenario. When you are looking for love, you want to think positively and be optimistic. But if you feel that you have already taken many chances and are feeling a bit exposed and vulnerable, you can consider leaving that particular transgender dating site.

The whole idea of joining a dating site is to make you search for a partner smooth and hassle-free. But if it has started giving you undue stress and jitters, then it’s just not worth it. If you are feeling that you have given out too much personal information and you are not sure about the real intentions of the people you are talking to, then just relax and feel free to leave the site immediately.

Nothing is worth your safety and peace of mind. Maybe you are overthinking. But maybe you are not and there is some real risk that is lurking around the corner. So, in moments of confusion, just listen to the voice of your intuition. Leaving a trans dating site is not the end of the world. You can just give yourself a break and then come back to that site perhaps when you feel rejuvenated and positive again. Or you can even join another transgender dating site whenever you wish to.

Transgender dating has to be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. And for that, it is important that you always listen to your inner voice and emotions. You deserve the best in love physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s a beautiful journey full of serendipity. So, it is important to take it easy, not rush into anything and follow your inner instinct.

When you are in a relationship, there comes a crucial time when you got to introduce your partner to your intimate circle of family and friends. For a guy, introducing any woman to his friends and family can be intimidating. ‘Will they like her?’, ‘Would she be able to get along with them?’, all these questions preoccupy your mind. And if you are dating a trans woman, things can get even trickier.

Trans girl dating is no easy feat to accomplish, even in these so-called modern times. When it comes to certain things, most peoples’ minds are still stuck in the Middle Ages. If you are dating a trans woman, you have to be literally prepared for the worst of reactions from your family. So trans girl dating isn’t for the meek. You have to be super strong in your determination and in terms of your love and commitment to your partner that no matter what, you will always stand by her.

However, nothing in this world is impossible to accomplish if you try it out the right way with a cool head and a zealous, fighting spirit. If you discuss things with your trans girl at every step and proceed with a plan, then your family and friends might just accept your relationship. Just do not rush into making any impromptu revelations! Wait for the right time and chalk out a strategy.

If you follow a few basic tips, then the whole process of introducing your trans lady love to your intimate circle is just going to get easier and hassle-free.

Tell her that You Love her to the Core

The most important aspect of trans girl dating is mutual love and respect. As a guy, it is important that you take her fully into confidence before communicating your relationship to your friends and family. Your trans woman has to be ready for the whole thing. It is a big deal for her. She is about to be introduced to her boyfriend’s family. She wants to be her best version in front of them. But at the same time, her identity is very important to her. She has literally battled societal prejudices and censure to be able to live the way she wants to. So, it is natural that she is quite a bit apprehensive about the whole situation. So, you have to be constantly by her side and communicate your love and commitment for her.

It’s reassuring and comforting for her to hear it out from you again and again that you love her to the core. You got to assure your trans woman that no matter what, the two of you will be always together.

Your family will not quite layout a red-carpet welcome for the two of you once you tell them about your relationship. And you know that. So, while it’s good to hope for the best, be prepared for the worst as well. You have to reassure your trans woman that even if your family doesn’t accept the relationship, you will be with her. Tell her that irrespective of the way things work out with your family, your relationship will remain as it is.

The love between the two of you is what eventually matters. You think that it’s probably the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. But that’s about it really. The future of your relationship shouldn’t depend on their reaction. And that is why it is important for you to constantly communicate to your beautiful trans woman that your love for her is rock solid.

Consult her Before Making any Announcement

Now, this is the most important aspect of trans girl dating. You think it’s the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. Maybe, she doesn’t share your opinion. And you have to respect that.

Your trans woman has to be comfortable about it. It is a big step. You are choosing to make your relationship public and therefore, her comfort level is what matters the most. Talk to her clearly; give her reasons as to why you think it’s important to tell your family about the relationship at this point in time. And if she is still not convinced, it’s ok to postpone it till she feels comfortable.

The whole idea of taking this next big step of announcing the relationship to your intimate circle of people is to take it to the next level. Maybe you guys are thinking of marriage at some point in time. And that’s why you think it’s important to take it to the next level now. Whatever be the scenario, this shouldn’t become a point of conflict in your relationship. That is simply not worth it. If she is not yet ready to meet your friends and family, just postpone it for some time.

Plan it Out

It’s not a good idea to make the revelation to your friends and family randomly! You have to plan out the whole thing. The two of you got to figure out when is the best time to communicate this to them. Not just that, you also have to discuss what is the best way to communicate this to them.

If you already know that your family will be way too prejudiced against your trans woman, then you can’t just tell them everything bluntly in one go. You have to do some groundwork before you tell them the actual thing. Maybe, you can try and create a positive impression in their minds about trans people. Just try having general conversations about trans people first. The goal is to slowly reduce their prejudices. And then when the right time comes, you can tell them the exact thing.

It is also important, to be honest with your trans woman regarding your family’s attitudes. If you have specific family members or friends who would be vehemently opposing the relationship, warn your girlfriend in advance. Tell her candidly that these particular people might just be rude to her so that she doesn’t get so shocked by their reaction. However, her respect is of utmost importance so you have to draw the line somewhere. If you think their reactions will be too much for her to handle, it is best to make the announcement when your partner is not around.

You have to Stand up for your Lover

A guy who loves a transgender girl should stand up for her, no matter what. And this is true of any relationship. When you love a woman and have made a commitment, you have to honour that despite all societal disapproval.

You have made the big announcement in front of your family and friends. They still do not accept the relationship and some of them are way too disrespectful to your trans woman. Now, this has to be the saturation point for your tolerance. You have to tell them categorically that she is your lady love and disrespecting her is not ok. You have communicated to them all about your relationship and whether to accept it or not is their wish but that doesn’t change your relationship status with her.

If someone disrespects your trans lady love, you can’t just ignore the whole thing. You have to tell them firmly and strictly that you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour again. When you are in a relationship with someone, loving them doesn’t just mean making those ‘I love you’ declarations. You have to demonstrate your love in life’s circumstances. And that includes standing by her in all conditions, even if that has to be at the expense of a friend.

Keep up the task of Convincing your Family

If your family hasn’t accepted your relationship yet, that doesn’t mean they are never going to accept it. If they are being disrespectful to your trans woman at this point in time, then better keep her out of all this. But you should keep up the communication with your family from your side.

You have to be adept at the art of convincing. Many people who are completely against something the first time they hear of it change their thinking down the line. This is the way human psychology works. So, you just have to be patient with your family.

If nothing else works, just leave it on time. Time can do wonders to a situation. After a certain point, they will realize that what exists between you and your trans lady is indeed true love. They tried their best to dissuade you from dating her but that didn’t work. Your relationship became even stronger with time and despite all societal disapproval. So, your friends and family would eventually realize that nothing can separate the two of you. They might be hesitant of outrightly declaring it because of ego issues but they will slowly accept your relationship.

So, you have to constantly do a balancing act between your trans lady love and your family. You have made it clear to them that they cannot disrespect her. But you still have to keep the channels of communication open.

Trans girl dating is new terrain for most cis men.  Most of them have probably never ever thought of dating a trans woman as it isn’t something that fits into the typical societal Mould. And even if there are a few who are fascinated by the idea of dating a trans woman, they are scared of societal disapproval. Society is still very prejudiced against transgender people so they probably dismiss the idea thinking it’s not worth the risk.

But most men don’t have an idea about what they are missing on. Love with a transgender woman is a euphoric experience. It’s something that leaves you utterly hypnotized and transports you to a different land altogether! If you have only dated cis women, you have just touched the tip of the iceberg. The kind of passion and raw emotion that a trans woman can bring into the art of lovemaking, a cis woman can’t even get anywhere near that.

Dating a trans woman is like exploring an altogether new dimension of the universe.  And for those who don’t judge people on the basis of silly societal norms, it’s a great way to meet an amazing and beautiful woman who values her femininity to such a great extent. The whole idea of making love to somebody whom society technically doesn’t allow you to date is such a novel one in itself.  It is a rather sublime and beautiful transgression. And if you have the courage and guts to make this transgression, then the rewards will be great.

These days you can easily meet a trans woman through a trans girl dating site or a dating site for transgender woman.  

Making love with trans women is surely an experience of a lifetime. But it is important to keep a few things in mind while making love with transgender females. If you follow these points, then your lovemaking would surely have the kind of passion and intensity that most couples can only dream of!.

There are two kinds of Transgender Women

Coming out as a trans woman is a different experience for everyone. Most choose to undergo medical transitioning while some skip it completely. Many trans women undergo certain medical procedures but not all. So basically, some trans women have had vaginoplasty while some haven't.

Vaginoplasty is a procedure that creates a surgically implanted vagina. Now, this surgically created vagina is fresh and might even feel better than the vagina of a cis woman.  So, this is something you have to keep in mind while making love to a trans woman, whether she has had Vaginoplasty or not.

With the trans woman who has had vaginoplasty, your sexual experience would be quite similar to the one with cis women. When you stimulate her vagina in the act of foreplay and intercourse, it would give you the same pleasure as the vagina of a cis woman. However, in the case of trans women who don’t have a vagina, the entire experience of lovemaking is different. So, it might not be for you if you like lovemaking to be somewhat conventional in a heterosexual way. You would enjoy making love to a trans woman without a vagina if you are bisexual. Of course, even if you are not bisexual, you can still enjoy the whole experience if you are open to trying out new things. If you are the kind of guy who has a fantasy about anal sex, then this is your best chance. And the amazing thing is you are having anal sex with a woman. Even if the trans woman doesn’t have a vagina, she is still a woman so the whole experience is within the matrix of a man and a woman making love. You can meet a different kind of trans women through various trans woman dating sites or transgender dating websites.

You have to take the Lead

The stereotypes about trans women being masculine and aggressive are well, basically just stereotypes. That’s why many guys have this misconception that in lovemaking, it’s the trans woman who calls the shots and the guy is generally in the submissive position. This is just not true.

When you actually meet a trans woman through a transgender dating site, you will realize that she can be incredibly shy. In fact, it is advisable that while dating a trans woman, a guy should make the first move. Trans women have all those super feminine fantasies of her sexy, muscular guy holding her and taking her to the bedroom. She wants her man to take the lead. So, in that sense, she is quite similar to a cis woman. While making love to a trans woman, you also have to be very gentle as she still might be in the process of getting used to her new vagina.

Trans Women have Stunning Bodies

This is a big advantage when it comes to making love with trans females. She has a stunning body that is way more well-proportioned than the body of an average cis woman. So, it’s good to take her stunning body into account while you are ready to make love to her!

A well-sculpted, beautiful physique is not just great from an aesthetic point of view while lovemaking but it also increases your chances of being able to try out new positions while having sex. Your trans female with her gorgeous and super flexible body makes it a pleasure for you to navigate different positions and undertake some novel experiments in lovemaking!

Do not expect her to jump into bed just Because she is a Trans Woman

Now, there are many stereotypes surrounding transsexual people. And most of these stereotypes are just terrible manifestations of society’s general bigotry towards trans people. So, when you are dating a trans woman through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, do not judge her by any of these stereotypes.

For deciding when is the right time to ask a trans woman to take your relationship to the next level that is make it physical, follow the same rules that you do with cis women. Just because she is a trans woman, that doesn’t mean she is some kind of exotic kink to satiate your perversions. She is a woman like any other and you cannot presume things about her just because she is trans.

If you’ve met her through a trans dating site and you guys are out together for your first date, please do not straightaway announce that you want to sleep with her unless you get some very strong indication from her side that she is looking for some fun. She is a beautiful woman so treat her with the dignity that every woman deserves. Get to know her first and after a couple of dates when you feel that there is strong mutual attraction, make the move only then.

Lovemaking with a Trans Woman can be quite a Passionate Affair

Now you might say this can be true for any love affair where two people have great chemistry. But that’s just not the case, when you are making love to a cis woman, there is a certain frigidity about her that doesn’t allow her to open up completely. Your lovemaking might tick all the boxes technically but when it comes to passion, she is just not able to show you her wild side 100 percent because there is a certain hesitancy on her part.

With a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating site, you can be assured that there would be no such hesitancy. When you go out with her on a date, she will be all feminine and ladylike. And when it comes to lovemaking, she would certainly expect you to make the first move. But when the two of you are in the throes of lovemaking, you would get to see the wild, animal side of her.

When it comes to passion during lovemaking, no cis woman can get even dream of competing with what a trans woman is capable of. She is passion personified. So, when it comes to her sexual appetite in the process of lovemaking, you will be just left gasping for breath! That is the kind of ferocious intensity a trans woman is capable of.

Do not have any pre-conceived Notions about your Lovemaking

Just because she is a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating app, please do not harbour any pre-conceived notions about the kind of lovemaking that you guys will indulge in. Many men get influenced by whatever they see in transgender porn and they expect similar kind of stuff from a transgender female in reality.

If that is your intention of dating her, then don’t even bother. She has a lot of attention already and she doesn’t give two hoots to anybody who wants to use her to satiate their fetish. If you date her, respect the boundaries. Do not ask her inappropriate questions about her body parts. And when it comes to lovemaking, just follow the approach that you would with any cis woman.

The basics are the same. Lots of foreplay so that sexual tension between the two of you begins to build up and then take things from there. Just go with the flow. Do not treat transgender porn as some kind of manual that teaches you how to make love with a trans woman. Infact, get trans porn out of your head completely. You got to know that in those videos, there is a well-rehearsed and staged fantasy act being put together and offered for public consumption. It’s not reality. So, when it comes to lovemaking with a trans woman, you just have to follow the basic real-life approach. Just feel the passion and go with the flow.

To many people, the idea of gender transitioning might seem like a bizarre one. Most people equate gender with the biological gender that is assigned to them at the time of birth. And they pretty much think this is the norm. But there are people who do not identify with the gender assigned to them at birth. While growing up, they might begin to experience Gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is basically a term for the feeling of acute distress caused in people when they do not identify with their birth gender. Such people are generally referred to as transgender or transsexual.

Although both the terms are often used interchangeably, there is a slight difference between the two. The term transsexual specifically refers to a person who undergoes a medical procedure to get reassigned to a different gender. That is, they undergo medical transitioning and get a new identity altogether including a new name, an i-card with their new photo, all that. So, for example, there is a person who was assigned female gender at the time of birth but they identify themselves as male. If such a person decides to undergo medical transitioning to be reassigned male gender, that person is transsexual. Transgender, on the other hand, is more of an umbrella term that includes all folks who do not quite identity with the gender assigned to them at birth time. A transgender person might also be gender fluid that is they might have a strong urge to switch from one gender to another whenever they wish. And not all transgender people who strongly identify with the other gender choose to have surgery.

There are so many stigmas attached to the transgender community in society because people see it as an aberration. And they view it as something abnormal because they don’t understand it. History tells us that something which is not understood by society is ridiculed and even censored. It is the same case with the identity of transgender people. But things are changing now. There is a lot more awareness around trans issues. So many transsexual dating sites and transgender dating websites have come up. There are specific websites for trans girl dating as well. There are online transgender forums where trans folks can interact with others like them. Societal apathy is still there but trans people have somewhat begun to get the kind of recognition and respect they deserve.

With so many free transgender dating sites, the mainstream community is certainly getting more open to the idea of accepting trans people. Unfortunately, there is a lot of violence and abuse still but things are changing.

Understanding the need for gender transitioning is very important in order to take this dialogue about trans people forward in a positive way.

There are certain aspects that need to be understood when it comes to understanding the acute need for gender transitioning in trans people.

Need for Gender Transitioning can be felt Anytime

There is no hard and fast rule for when to come out as a transgender. This totally depends on the person concerned and their particular experiences. Some people come out in their teenage years only and undergo medical transitioning quite early. There are others who might even be married and trying to lead a mainstream life. They still quite haven’t figured out the source of their distress and discomfort. And such people tend to come out as transgender quite late in life. And that is fine too.

It also depends on the family’s support to a great extent. People who are bought up in conservative families find it difficult to accept the fact that they are transgender to themselves only, leave alone the family. That is why they stay in a situation of conflict for a long time, trying to hide their real emotions and identity. It is only when it gets too much for them to handle that they come out in the open.

There are other practical considerations as well. If the family is not supportive, it is difficult to undergo medical transitioning. It is expensive and the person just might not be financially independent enough to take this decision himself.

The Person Transitioning Might or Might not Choose to Undergo Medical Procedure

This is a very important point to remember. Not all transgender people undergo medical transitioning. Some undertake Hormone Replacement Therapy and Testosterone. But they skip the top and bottom surgery altogether. There are others who skip medical procedure altogether and start coming out as their desired gender simply through dressing up and behaviour.

However, most people who come out as transgender eventually undertake some kind of medical treatment. Medical transitioning makes it easier for them to live as their desired gender in mainstream society. It is especially useful for transgender folks who are into dating heterosexual people of the opposite sex through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site.

Transitioning is aimed at making the transgender person’s life happy and fulfilling. Many transgender people want to get their gender officially changed in their id card and official documents. This is very helpful from the point of view of living a wholesome life after assuming their new gender identity. Having your gender identity officially affirmed in your documents also saves one from potential harassment at school, workplace, etc.

Transgender People Have an Awareness of their Gender Identity from an Early Age

Well, they might not come out in the open for various reasons. Or they might just be confused about what they are feeling. Since society doesn’t quite encourage what they are feeling, it’s just perhaps difficult for them to figure out what’s going on in their head. But generally speaking, transgender people start questioning their perceived biological gender identity from a very early age.

There might be very subtle signs of their identification with the other gender when they are children. And parents might or might not notice these signs. For example, someone who is born a female biologically might be more inclined towards boy’s clothing. They might just start crying for no reason when they are decked up in girly clothes. They might just hate their long hair. All these are very subtle signs of not identifying with one’s biological gender. As a person grows up, these signs become more pronounced and a person is able to better articulate their thoughts and feelings.

But it’s not a transgender person who gets a dream all of a sudden that they want to have a different gender identity. Perceiving it like that would reflect a rather shallow and myopic understanding of trans people. In a transgender person, there are often manifestations of discomfiture with one’s biological gender identity right from childhood. If you go through a transgender blog or conversations on a transgender forum, you would well understand that. There are many stories of trans people accessible online in which they are talking about their childhood experiences.

Transitioning can help with Dating and Relationships

Medical transitioning can literally be a blessing for the romantic life of a MTF Transgender woman or a FTM Transgender guy, especially if they are into dating people of the opposite sex. It can be an immense help for those transgender people who are looking at heterosexual relationships post transitioning through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site. Medical transitioning with the right grooming and makeup can make such a huge difference to the person’s appearance that many MTF transgender women can conveniently pass as cis women post transitioning.

In fact, these days there are many trans dating sites or transsexual dating sites where one can check out the profiles of various transgender men and women and date them. Through such sites, romantic liaisons and even serious relationships have blossomed between trans people and cis people. Medical transitioning can really help a transgender person in terms of looking for a partner. When their body image strongly conforms to their new gender identity, their level of confidence increases by multiple times. And they can be more proactive and forthcoming in the act of seeking a romantic partner.

Uncomfortable Questions about Transitioning are to be Avoided

Now, this is more for people who would like to date a transgender man or a woman. You got to realize that you are dating a person so you have to treat them like one. If you have met them through a trans dating site or a trans dating app, do not ask them uncomfortable questions about their gender identity or why they felt the need for transitioning. It is not an interview. It is a date. You are looking for a romantic partner so just get to know them as a person – their hobbies, interests and all that.

Remember transitioning is a personal choice for everyone. If you have decided to date a transgender person, you have to be prepared to respect the boundaries as well. Slowly as the relationship will develop and they feel close to you, they might share things with you on their own. Or they might not. That’s totally up to them. Gender transitioning is a very personal topic for each individual and even as a romantic partner; you cannot be too intrusive into this aspect of their life.

A FTM transgender guy is someone who is transitioning from female to male. People who are assigned female gender at birth but they strongly identity with the opposite gender are FTM transgender. They usually choose to undergo medical transition at some point in time. But there is no clear cute norm with regard to that. There are some who skip medical transitioning altogether.

Irrespective of whether they have undergone medical transitioning or not, it is very important for a FTM transgender guy that society perceives him as a man. If that does not happen, it can aggravate the feelings of gender dysphoria that already exist in him. And this is not good for his mental health. It is also important from a romantic point of view since sexuality is deeply connected to a person’s gender identity. So, if he wants to join a trans dating site or a FTM dating service, it is important that he is confident of his manly image.

For guys who choose to undergo the Hormone Replacement Therapy, it is relatively easier to pass off as a man. They usually get bi-weekly injections from the doctor. Besides, there are numerous other ways of getting injected with hormones; it can be through gels, patches and many other ways. Some FTM trans guys will also get testosterone treatment which will work on their faces in a way that gives them a more masculine appearance. It would also make their voices somewhat heavy and manly.

Then, there are some who would choose to go even a step further and undergo chest reconstruction surgery. This surgery specifically flattens out the chest area to give the chest a masculine appearance. Then, there is the bottom surgery performed in order to remove the vagina and create a penis for the transgender man.

However, there are some who choose not to have these treatments for certain reasons. And for such trans men, passing as a man in public might be a bit more challenging. Then most FTM trans guys start coming out even before medical transitioning. This is important because you can’t just wait for the treatment to show effects and then come out. You got to tell society that you are a guy even before.

The whole process of coming out as a man publicly can be quite intimidating for a FTM transgender guys. But with certain tips, you can conveniently pass as the guy that you already are.

Use a Binder

The biggest source of gender dysphoria in FTM transgender guys is the chest area unless they have had the top surgery, of course. So as a trans man, if you haven’t had the top surgery yet and want to flatten out your chest area, the best option for you is to buy a medical binder.

Medical chest binders are easily available online and come in many different styles. There are also plenty of commercial chest binders available in the market these days. It is important to buy the right size though. If you bind your chest using a binder that is a bit too small, it might create difficulties in breathing and you will end up having pain in your shoulders and back.

Trans men who don’t quite want to go for a medical binder can also bind their chest using a sports bra. In fact, using a sports bra is quite a safe way to bond your chest with minimal risk of side effects or injuries. Some FTM trans guys would also use layering to bind their chest using a shirt or bra layering.

However, according to experts, you should not wear binders for longer than 8-12 hours. Also, you should avoid sleeping while wearing your binder. It is also important to have a day off in between once in a while. You have to make sure that you aren’t binding everyday in order to avoid any side effects.

Following these tips, you can happily use a binder to flatten out your chest area. And this will certainly increase your confidence and make people notice you as a man when you are out there in public.

Make use of the Packing Technique

Now, packing is a technique that trans guys make use of to give the illusion of a penis. It basically involves putting something in your pants to mimic the appearance of the bulge created by male genitalia.

Packing is a great way to enhance the self-confidence of a FTM transgender guy who hasn’t had the bottom surgery as yet and increases his chances of passing as a man. After all, sexuality is a very important part of your new gender identity. So, it is natural that you want to simulate the whole experience of having male genitalia.

These days there are so many commercial packers available online. These packers come in different materials and varieties including silicone. And the best thing is they are more or fewer replicas of male genitalia. However, for a trans guy who is new to the whole experience of packing, it is best to try a simple technique first. He can just use a rolled-up sock and place it properly at the right spot inside his pants. It’s way cheaper than using a commercial packer and he can try it out and decide for himself if he likes the whole experience or not.

Learn to Project a Masculine Appearance

This is the key to passing as a male in society. With pro masculine body language, your chances of passing as a man increase dramatically.

The first step of building this masculine image of yours as a FTM trans man is to get used to wearing a man’s clothes. When it comes to clothing, everyone has a different approach that suits them. Some trans guys like to go with oversized clothing to get that super manly look. If you perhaps wear a shirt size larger than usual, your shoulders might look bigger and slightly bulkier. But there is no rule really. Well, fitted clothes can also give the impression of a chiseled, toned masculine body.

The important thing is to find men’s clothes that go with your personality and eventually develop your own style. Once you start getting used to male clothing, behaving as a man will also start coming naturally to you. You can also check out profiles of trans guys on transgender dating websites and see what they are wearing.

Now again, there is no manual really that can teach you how to behave like a man. You just have to closely observe men in public places – the way they walk, the way they sit, how they move their head while talking, the tone of their voice while they are speaking. You can also interact with other trans men through a transgender forum and take their advice.

To begin with, one thing that a FTM transgender guy can focus on is sitting. Generally speaking, men tend to literally spread their legs wide apart while sitting. They sit in a very authoritarian position taking up a lot of space with legs as wide as possible. So, this is something that you can begin practicing as a trans man. It is easy to remember and also simple to practice.

Do not feel compelled to fit into a Box

As a FTM transgender guy, the way you want to protect yourself is totally your call. It depends on your personality and orientation. Many trans men have fluid general identities, that is they are Pansexual. Now Pan Sexuality can be defined as a sexual or romantic attraction towards anybody irrespective of their gender identity.  So, if you classify yourself as a pansexual trans guy, then you lay down your own rules. You don’t necessarily need to then get into the entire masculine discourse of heterosexuality.

A FTM trans guy can also prefer to date gay men. Or he may prefer to go the cis guy way, dating heterosexual women through a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app. So, one has to understand that even as a FTM transgender guy, one can have fluid gender identities and that’s totally cool. The way a trans man wants to project himself is totally his call. He might just want to meet single women through FTM trans dating site or a transgender dating app or he might just want to date gay men.

Get Inspired from the Lives of Well-Known Trans Men

There are so many trans men icons who have fought societal prejudices and stereotypes to emerge a winner and live a successful and fulfilling life. If you want happiness, you have to go through the grind and find it out. You just can’t run away from problems and struggles. A FTM transgender man can take inspiration from the lives of famous and successful trans men. This will do wonders to his own image as a trans man and show him the way forward. You can go through a transgender blog to gain insight into the lives of famous trans men.

So many movies have been made about the lives of trans men. There are also movies starring trans men. Most of these movies depict the problems faced by transgender youth. These offer a realistic peep into the world of trans men.

There was the iconic movie ‘Becoming Chaz’ that was released in 2011. This movie was based on the life of Chaz Bono, the son of Cher, who has also penned down a book on his multiple experiences as a transgender man.

Then there is the 1999 movie ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ based on the life story of Brandon Teena, a young trans man who was murdered in 1993.  And it’s so important to mention the contribution made by the legendary Buck Angle in the field of trans awareness. He is a filmmaker, speaker and advocate. He also stars in a documentary made about his own life.

Then there are other famous movies incorporating trans issues such as Just (2002), Call me Kade, Boy I Am (2006) and About Ray (2015).

As a trans man, it is very important to know all about various issues faced by transgender folks and how so many trans heroes have fought out these issues. As a FTM trans guy, you can also join an online transgender forum and communicate with other trans men.

All this will increase your awareness of trans issues and strengthen your identity as a trans man. Knowing that there are so many like you who have fought societal prejudices and emerged a winner, you will no longer be afraid to live out your identity.

As a MTF trans woman, one feels like they have gotten a new lease of life after sex reassignment surgery. It is a precious phase in a trans woman’s life. Her mind is undergoing a heady cocktail of diverse and confusing emotions and her heart is in a state of flurry. She is perhaps looking forward to joining a trans dating site or a transsexual dating site to look for the love of her life. She is definitely on cloud nine. But she is also somewhat anxious. A trans woman is anxious because she wants to be the best possible feminine version of herself. And sometimes she doesn’t quite know how to go about it. She has had a hard time literally battling for her identity. And now although she has come out in flying colours, there are things and aspects about being a woman she must learn. And in the process, she has to undo a lot of unconscious behavioural traits and characteristics that she has gotten so used to because of her past identity.

Being an elegant woman is not just about makeup, fashionable clothes, footwear, jewellery and accessories though. Femininity is a way more complex concept that takes time to understand and master. Of course, being super well-groomed and dressing like a woman is the first step towards cracking the femininity code. But just getting the feminine look right isn’t enough. A trans woman needs to internalize the body language of a woman, she needs to assimilate the essence of femininity at a rather subconscious level and that’s the challenging part.

But it’s not impossible. Following the right tips and suggestions, she can certainly grasp the essence of femininity and apply it to her own life. This article lists out a couple of points that a trans woman should keep in her mind during her journey towards embracing femininity.

Understand Femininity

Femininity has some tangible and some intangible aspects. Now, the tangible aspects are easy to crack. As a trans woman, you start wearing the right clothes that suit your body type and accentuate your femininity. You keep an eye on all the latest trends through fashion magazines and regularly check out your local women’s apparel stores. You learn the art of applying makeup and also master the craft of creating the right look by adding the right accessories to any given outfit. All these things you can learn. But the difficult part of femininity is the intangible aspects. And unless you have cracked those, it’s only half the battle won.

A woman is beautiful not because she has the right makeup on or because she is dressed up perfectly. She is beautiful because she feels beautiful. Even when she has just woken up, there is such a soft allure to her body and facial expressions that it can melt the heart of even the toughest of guys. Even while she is casually sipping her morning coffee and there is not a trace of makeup on her face, her smile can light up an entire room. Her beautiful tresses falling carelessly on her forehead can inspire poets and artists to madness. When she lifts up her head and looks at someone, she is loveliness personified. This is the essence of femininity that a trans woman has to imbibe. She has to feel from the core of her heart that she is feminine and beautiful. And then her entire being will begin to radiate with the aura of femininity.

Embrace the hidden Values of Femininity

Femininity is also about a lot of values that make the world a beautiful place to live in. Kindness, compassion, mercy, all these are feminine values. A trans woman seeking to appear more feminine should also learn to imbibe these hidden values of femininity in her day-to-day behaviour.

Let’s try to understand this through an example. A trans woman has met a potential love interest through a trans dating app or a trans woman dating site. She goes out on a date with that person. They go to some café and the waiter spills the food on her dress by mistake. This is of course an awful thing to happen but how she handles the situation will tell a great deal about her femininity. Now she can respond to the same situation in different ways. She can either shout at the top of her voice and abuse the waiter. Or she can take control of herself, appear calm and dignified and tell the waiter politely but firmly that it’s ok but he should be careful in future. Which of these two reactions would make her appear more feminine? Obviously, the latter one and her date would be impressed with her femininity and gentle behaviour as well.

There is no manual that can teach you how to understand these hidden values of femininity. You just learn along as you go deeper into your journey of embracing femininity. Just remember that kindness and compassion are eternally beautiful qualities that only a true woman is capable of.

Adopt Feminine Grace in Your Movements and Voice

This is something you can actually learn as a trans woman. You can go through a transgender blog or join a transgender forum where you can learn from other trans women the art of adding feminine grace to your bodily movements. You could even consider joining a grooming class where the basics of feminine body movements are taught. If you can’t find such a class in your local area, you could always try and find a virtual one.

The first thing that a trans woman has to learn about feminine body movements is that she has to learn the art of restraining her body movement. So, if you just barge into a room, it won’t appear very nice and feminine. On the contrary, if you walk as if you are just sliding effortlessly, your feminine aura and grace would be just noticed by everybody. There is a certain delicate rhythm in feminine body movements. A woman doesn’t just fall into a chair. She sits down gently and gracefully. Similarly, when she walks, her body movements have a graceful, almost effortless rhythm. She never sits with her legs apart. That’s one golden rule to follow. You should always sit with legs as close together as possible in order to appear more feminine.

A trans woman who has just gotten a date through a transgender dating site is also concerned about her voice. It’s natural that she wants to sound feminine and all but it’s not so easy to discard her old voice. There are specific voice training classes that a trans woman can attend where she will basically be taught tips and tricks on modulating her voice in a way that would make it sound softer and feminine. She can also consider practising singing. Singing wonderfully opens up the vocal cords and once you start singing the higher up notes, that feminine, sweet clear voice would just come to you naturally.

You can also practice your feminine speech with a friend. And it really helps if that friend is honest and they give you the right kind of criticism so that you can improve. You can also consider practising your feminine voice in front of a mirror or even with your phone selfie camera. This would also make your body language more confident and you would also learn to project the right facial expressions while practising feminine voice.

A Woman’s Handbag speaks a lot about her Femininity

A handbag is a very important accessory for a woman. You would rarely spot a woman without a stylish and ultra-chic handbag. So, if you are coming out as a transgender woman, do spend on a collection of cool handbags. Your handbag should mirror your femininity but you shouldn’t go overboard with experimentation, at least at the initial stage. It’s best to start with classic and chic handbags in solid colours. As you get used to carrying one, you can get more experimental with your choice of a handbag!

For a trans woman who has just started dating someone through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, it is very important to perfect the right look. Makeup, clothes and accessories can help her ace that looks. But the look is incomplete without the right handbag. The contents of a trans woman’s handbag are equally important. A lady’s handbag is a reflection of her femininity. If all items are arranged neatly within the handbag, it tells one a great deal about her aesthetic sense and neatness. On the contrary, if her handbag is shabby with all sorts of things literally spilling into each other, it speaks of an untidy and slovenly disposition.

Some ‘must include’ items in a woman’s handbag are hand sanitiser, lipstick or lip gloss, facial mist or facial wipes, deodorant, a compact mirror, feminine hygiene products (tampon), safety pins, a notebook and a pen and last but not the least, some cash.

Gender transitioning in a transgender person is a complex process. There are two main components at work here, social transitioning and medical transitioning. Social transitioning involves coming out as a transgender in front of society. It means asserting one’s new gender identity. So, someone who was born a male biologically will assert their gender identity as a trans woman and vice versa. Social transitioning often begins before medical transitioning. In fact, some transgender folks prefer to live out the life of their new gender identity without making any physiological changes. Instead, they adapt to their new gender by dressing up, voice projection and by trying to adopt the mannerisms and behaviour of the gender they feel they belong to.

But a vast majority of transgender people undergo some sort of medical transitioning. For a trans person who was assigned female gender at the time of birth but feel that they are male, medical transitioning can go a long way towards helping them balance their life and relationships. Having a body that stands at odds with the gender he strongly identifies with can be a source of acute distress to a trans man. This can induce feelings of gender dysphoria; a state where a transgender person’s biological gender becomes a source of agony to them and they even strongly desire a change in the sexual and bodily manifestation of that gender.

Medical transitioning can indeed offer a new lease of life to a trans man undergoing gender dysphoria. It can also do wonders for his love life and relationships. If he wants to date somebody through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating app, he no longer has to worry about her biological characteristics standing at odds with his new gender identity.

Whether you are a cis woman wanting to date a trans guy through a trans dating site or a layperson curious to know more about transgender people, it is important for you to understand the basics of female to male gender transition. Once you understand the kind of transformation a trans man goes through in order to embrace the male gender biologically and socially, you’d be able to appreciate and understand him in a much better way.

This article lists out the most important components of female to male gender transition.

Gender Reassignment Surgery begins with Hormone Therapy

There are different kinds of procedures and treatments involved in gender transitioning from female to male. Gender Reassignment Surgery is the blanket term used for all such treatments.

In female to male gender transition, medical transitioning usually begins with hormone therapy. During this therapy, the transgender person is giving the male hormone testosterone. Hormone therapy is used to induce physical changes in your body so, in the case of a female transitioning to a male, it will induce the biological characteristics of the male gender in their body over a period of time.

Once you are administered hormone therapy, you start noticing increased body hair growth as well as facial hair growth. You might also notice the loss of hair on the temples. Receiving the male hormone testosterone can also deepen your voice, giving it a more masculine texture. However, if you are into singing, your voice might start cracking for a while and you might lose your singing range while you are transitioning. Male hormone therapy can also thicken your skin, thus making you more tolerant of cold.

Testosterone would also stop your menstrual cycle. This would generally happen within three months of receiving your dose. It will also increase your sex drive as well as appetite. Experts say that if hormone therapy for female to male transition begins before the changes of female puberty start, then female biological characteristics like the development of breasts can be avoided altogether.

Mastectomy or Top Surgery

Mastectomy or top surgery is the most common surgical procedure for trans people undergoing female to male transition. In this procedure, unwanted breast tissue is removed in order to flatten out the chest and give it a more masculine appearance. Depending upon your body structure and specific needs, the surgeon can utilize a number of techniques to achieve the desired results.

Many trans people undergoing female to male transitioning opt for Mastectomy as the only surgical procedure. The reason for that is that it is a very safe procedure and one that can be performed by a relatively large number of surgeons.
 

Facial & Body Masculinization Surgery

Now, this is an optional procedure. Trans men who desire a close to perfect and well-chiselled masculine face can opt for Facial Masculinization Surgery. This surgery utilizes a range of techniques and procedures in order to give the face a more masculine contour. A combination of techniques like cheek augmentation, rhinoplasty, forehead lengthening, jaw contouring, etc., can be utilized, depending upon your specific needs.

Body masculinization surgery can be used by those who are looking for the perfect male physique. This surgery utilizes a broad range of techniques to target fat deposits in those specific areas where the female body usually accumulates fat like thighs, breasts, buttocks, etc. The liposuction technique is then utilized to transform your feminine hourglass figure into a masculine body type. The sought-after masculine body type involves broad shoulders, a super flat stomach and little or no fat in the lower part of the body. The surgery tries to replicate this kind of body structure for you.

Facial and body masculinization surgery can be great for trans men who are looking at dating someone through a transsexual dating site or a transgender dating app. Looking like the perfect guy you dreamed you always were can do miracles to your self-confidence. However, it is important to maintain this great body through proper diet, exercise, adequate water intake and ample rest.

Bottom Surgery

Bottom surgery is the final step in your transitioning process from female to male. Also known as Gender Confirmation Surgery, this type of surgery involves the construction of a penis through the procedure of phalloplasty or metoidioplasty. Before undergoing this procedure, a trans person might wish to undergo a hysterectomy. In partial hysterectomy, the uterus of the person concerned is removed. They can also opt for additional and more complex procedures in which fallopian tubes and ovaries can also be removed.

Bottom surgery is quite complicated and it is only a very experienced surgeon who can perform this type of surgery. Not all trans men undergo bottom surgery. It is also a very expensive procedure. The concerned person undergoes detailed counselling before they decide to opt for bottom surgery.

Medical Transitioning is just a part of Transitioning

This is the most important point to understand. When we talk about a trans person transitioning from female to male, medical transitioning is just a part of it. Transitioning is a complex procedure that involves social transitioning. Even before undergoing any medical procedure, a trans man begins to come out in the open by dressing up as a guy, by creating a bulge in the genital area by using a rolled-up sock or through various prosthetic devices and by wearing clothing that camouflages the bulge in the chest area.

A trans man closely observes the body language and mannerisms of other men around him and then tries to adapt accordingly. He regularly checks out the latest trends in male fashion and then picks up male apparel that is suitable for his body type. He also joins a trans dating site or a transsexual dating app to look for a prospective partner. In fact, he is always on the lookout for the best transgender dating sites. A trans man also goes through a transgender blog and becomes part of a transgender forum where he gets to learn from the transitioning experiences of other trans guys.

Medical transitioning is just a part of the entire transitioning process. What matters most is the confidence with which transgender guy can embrace the male world.

It’s all about Striking a Balance

Balance is the underlying principle of life. It’s the same with female to male transitioning. A FTM trans guy needs to find the right balance. Some trans men try to overdo the masculine guy part. They go all over-aggressive, domineering and try to feign insensitivity just to show how tough they are. That’s just not needed. Being a man doesn’t mean that you have to feign some kind of toxic masculinity. Just like everything, hyper-masculinity has some negative traits which need to be avoided.

A real man is all about empathy, kindness and magnanimity of heart and spirit. He is a tough guy on the exterior but his heart is soft and vulnerable. He can do anything to take care of his lady love and also has compassion for human beings in general. This is the kind of guy a trans man should want to post transitioning. And this is the type of guy any woman would fall for once she meets him through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating site.

During transitioning and after it, a FTM trans guy has to find his unique sweet spot and project a masculine image accordingly while he is dating someone through a trans dating app or a transsexual dating site.

Trust is the most important aspect of any relationship. Mutual trust can make a relationship beautiful and meaningful over time but the lack of it can make any romantic association go down the winding path. A trans woman is a special creature in the sense that her trust has been betrayed multiple times. A cis woman might have had it rough as well in relationships. But for a trans woman, it’s a different ball game altogether. Her life story is full of mental and psychological cuts and bruises. It’s not just her ex-lovers though who have broken her trust or hurt her badly. She has to face the hatred and censure of the entire society because of her identity. Her friends, neighbours, family, all have hurt her sensibilities at a certain point in time.

So, if you have just started dating her through a trans girl dating site or a transsexual dating site, you got to realize that a slow and steady path is just the right approach. Someone who wants to win the love and trust of a trans woman has to gently heal all her past wounds. And then she would slowly but surreptitiously transform into a magical, fairy-like creature, her eyes shining with love for her partner. Trans woman dating is certainly not easy but it’s a wonderful experience. She is a super-strong creature. And that’s a part of her appeal. She has been hurt and wronged so many times and yet, she hasn’t lost her faith in the possibility of love. She is scared, traumatized and a bit unsure maybe, but she still looks for love everywhere. And once you build that level of trust with her, she would reciprocate your love with the utmost sincerity and devotion.

You seemed to have met the woman of your life through a transgender dating site and now you just want to take things forward. This article lists out a couple of points that would help you understand how to go about establishing trust in trans woman dating and relationships.

Be Committed to Your Trans Woman

Commitment doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to go out of your way to prove something. It just means that one has to treat their partner with utmost dignity and respect. It doesn’t have to be larger than life gestures. On the contrary, it is the little things that matter most. When you plan out a date with your trans woman, make it a point to be always punctual or even before time. Do discuss the future of your relationship with her every now and then. Tell her about your plans for the future. This will instill a level of trust and confidence in her that you see the relationship as something serious and long term.

Show genuine interest in her life. Listen to her attentively when she tells you excitedly about her hobbies and achievements. And just be there for her when she tells you all about her fears and insecurities. Love is not just about the nice things, after all. It is about sharing everything together and that includes both the good and the bad. Once your trans woman truly feels that you care for her from the core of your heart, she will give you her trust lovingly and willingly.

Stay Faithful to Her

Loyalty is an important aspect of any relationship. Even if you are dating a cis woman, she would expect you to be loyal and faithful.  She would obviously want that as her boyfriend, your romantic interests are reserved exclusively for her. It’s just the same in trans girl dating. You have to be faithful to your trans woman partner. And once she becomes sure of your exclusive commitment and affection for her, winning her trust won’t be difficult.

On the contrary, if you are routinely unfaithful to her and frequently lie in order to cover up your mistakes, all hell will break loose. A trans woman is a super intuitive creature. Because of her past experiences, she has learnt the art of seeing through people and their pretences. So, you cannot bluff her for long. A trans woman is a beautiful creature inside out. She is an embodiment of femininity and love. So, if you are faithful to her and treat your relationship with the sincerity and devotion it so deserves, she will begin to trust you eventually.

Do Give Her Some Personal Space

Two people in a relationship spend a lot of time together. And that is so important for taking the relationship forward. But we all are individuals at the end of the day. In trans girl dating, you have to realize that your trans woman also has her own set of interests and ideas to pursue. So, you shouldn’t make her feel as if you are infringing on her personal space. Everybody has a sense of personal space. Some people like to be left alone when they are working on something. Others need some time by themselves every now and then just to recharge their creative and emotional energies. So, you have to respect that personal space of your trans woman and just let her be. Because if she feels like you are on her nerves all the time, she is just going to freak out. And this is not good news from the point of view of winning her trust.

Giving somebody personal space doesn’t just translate into leaving them alone when they want to be left alone. It also implies that you don’t constantly pester them to speak up on things they don’t want to talk about. Maybe you are just literally dying to know about her views on something. But perhaps she is in a different time frame. So don’t get obsessive and irritate her. Just give her some space.

In trans woman dating or any kind of dating, giving the partner some space can be super beneficial for the relationship in long run. In such a relationship, there is a greater degree of mutual understanding and respect. Also, there are no insecurities and jealousies. Insecurities crop up when you try to own the other person all the time. But if you and your trans woman realize and appreciate the fact that you two also have a life outside of your relationship, then your love and commitment get even stronger.

Be Honest in Your Intentions

Honesty is the building block of any relationship. When you’ve met somebody through a trans dating site or a transgender dating app and want to take things forward, it’s obvious that they want to figure out if your intentions are genuine. Your trans woman wants to know if you are looking for a serious long-term relationship or just a fling. Your interest in her has to be genuine. If you are just interested in her because of her looks or because you are fascinated by the fact that she is trans, she will see through your pretences right away. You cannot treat her like a fetish. Only if you are genuinely interested in her as a woman, she will reciprocate your interest and trust you.

So even as you are talking to a trans woman through a trans woman dating site or a trans dating app, just ask yourself this honest question. Are you genuinely interested in dating her or are you just curious about her identity? If you are confused about what you actually want, it’s better to back out or go real slow than hurt the other person. A trans woman has a history of guys being disrespectful to her or treating her as some kind of fetish. So please don’t jump onto that bandwagon. Take things forward only if you are honestly interested in knowing her as a person.

It’s just liked any other relationship. The woman you are dating wants to be valued for what she is and not for her looks, money, position or status. With a trans woman, there is an added possibility that some guys just want to date her because they want to know how it is like to be with a trans woman. That is just rude and disrespectful. She is a woman like any other, not an object of enquiry. So, in trans woman dating, the most important step towards winning the trust of your partner is that you have to be absolutely honest in your intentions.

You Got to Value Your Relationship

Mutual trust comes through only when both partners truly value their relationship. Valuing a relationship doesn’t mean that you try to impress your trans woman with sweet and romantic words day and night that how much you love her and all that. Sweet words come to nothing unless they are aided by concrete action. You have to invest time and energy in your relationship. Your trans woman has to get the feeling that she is a priority for you. Only then will she give you her love and trust.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, valuing a relationship means that you are constantly attentive towards the needs and desires of your partner. It means that you are always making new and exciting plans to make them happy, to bring a smile to their face. Valuing your trans woman means that it’s not a big deal for you to take a day off work and be by her side when she is not feeling well. Surprise her every now and then with a gift, chocolates, flowers or with tickets for her favourite movie. It isn’t about how much money you spend. It’s about the kind of time you are investing in your relationship and the effort you are making to make your trans woman feel special and loved.

Love is not rocket science. If you trans woman feels truly loved and valued, then she will certainly give you her trust and love with all her heart.

So, you have joined a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app and are looking forward to dating a gorgeous trans woman. You have probably started talking to a few and are trying to figure out the one who could end up as your soulmate! Sounds good but before you take the plunge, you got to keep in mind a few basics of dating a transgender woman.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, you have to adhere to certain basic principles. There are some things that you should do proactively while there are others that you should totally avoid. There is no rulebook as such but these are really just pointing from the old school book of gentlemanly code of conduct. It is like the rules you follow while dating a cis woman. In trans woman dating, you have to stick to those rules even more religiously because she has had quite a rough past already; dealing with societal prejudices during transitioning has not been easy for her. So, if you have chosen to date her, she needs your full support and that includes always being by her side, no matter what.

One has to also understand the practical nature of the situation. Dating a trans woman is like nurturing a rose, which is beautiful and divine but you have to deal with the thorns that come with it. You got to realize that your friends and family might not even accept your relationship. But that shouldn’t deter you from being with her. If you love her with all your heart and soul, then nothing should stop you from being together.

Below are listed some points that would equip you with a basic roadmap with regard to the things you should do while dating a trans woman and things and scenarios you should avoid. Whether you’ve met her through a trans dating site or a transgender dating app, following these rules would be good for your relationship.

DOS

Think through your Decision before Taking the Plunge

This is the most important aspect of dating a transgender woman. Before you commit to her, you have to be sure in your mind that you really want to date her. Please don’t take the plunge half-heartedly. Take your time and think through your decision. One has to realize that the journey of dating a trans woman will be full of societal apathy and downright disapproval. You have to be strong enough to deal with all that. Your own family might desert you at a certain point in time. Unfortunately, that is the kind of stigma attached to dating a transgender person. So, you have to tell yourself that you will muster up the courage and willpower to overcome all these obstacles.

Also, you have to sort out your own prejudices with regard to a trans woman. You have to accept the fact that she is a woman like any other and dating her won’t make you gay. It is important to be at peace with one’s own decision before taking the final plunge and joining a trans dating app or a trans dating site.

Take Good Care of your Physical and Mental Self

A trans woman is a beauty personified. She is a super well-groomed Goddess! It’s not easy to impress her. Only a guy who takes great care of his physical and mental being is capable of melting her heart. So, while dating a trans woman, just follow the basic principles of good overall grooming. Maintain personal hygiene, dress well and take care of your hair, skin and nails. Always make sure you smell nice, body odour can be a put off for any woman, trans or cis.

You have to also take good care of your physical health. Have some kind of a regular exercise routine. Hit the gym if you need to. When you’ve just started dating a trans woman through a trans girl dating site or a ts dating app, it’s tempting to make way too much effort in dressing up and go overboard. Resist that urge. You want to dress smart and chic but in a way that also seems effortless and casual. You don’t want to be meeting her on a date all dressed up like you were going to attend a wedding party!

Last but not the least, it is important to take care of your mental wellbeing. When your mind is at peace, your face shows it. A handsome face that glows with vitality and the aura of positivity speaks of an evolved and peaceful mind. Practice yoga and meditation. Relax yourself through regular massages or a spa session. Just make sure to unwind once in a while and give rest to your mind. This will ensure that when you finally meet your trans woman on that dream date, you will surely be at your best.

Compliment her Frequently

A trans woman walks that extra mile when it comes to taking care of her looks and appearance. She is always super well-groomed. You would never find her turn up slovenly for a date. Her dressing sense is stylish, chic and feminine. She has mastered the art of applying makeup.

She is well-read and has above average communication skills. Your trans woman is a thinking lady and she has an opinion on issues around her. She has worked hard to perfect her body and mind. So, she surely deserves a heartfelt compliment every now and then. Not that she needs it but hearing those great words from her man, again and again, would reassure her of his love and care.
 

You Have to Stand Up for Her.

This is the most important aspect of your relationship with a transgender woman. As the adage goes, “Actions Speak Louder than Words’. No matter how much you compliment her or give her flowers or gifts, what matters the most is your support to her in difficult times.

And a trans woman’s life is full of difficult times. So, you have to be tough enough to confront your family, friends and society at large for the sake of your love. Your family might say the most inappropriate of things about her. In such a scenario, it’s your duty to stand by her and tell your family firmly that they cannot insult the love of your life.

While you are dating her, it is possible that your social life might just go all haywire. Your friends might not want to hang out with you as earlier. It is possible that they avoid you or desert you completely. You still have to be courageous and never leave her side.

Once you manage to stand with her through thick and thin, your friends and family will also understand that they can’t separate the two of you and will eventually accept your relationship. But till then, you just have to keep going and support your trans lady love in every possible way.

DONT'S

Do Not Treat Her as a Fetish

When you have just started dating her through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating site, you have to be very careful about the way you treat her. Many straight guys want to date a trans woman only because they are curious about her identity and they want to experience how it is like to date a trans woman. You should never date a trans woman with that kind of motive. A guy has to understand that she is a woman like any other and not some kind of exotic kink or fetish to satiate your perversion.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, there are some boundaries that have to be always respected. When you are out with her on the first date, don’t bombard her with questions pertaining to her past life or ask her bluntly what organs she has. This is rude and disrespectful. A trans woman is a lady of dignity. If you treat her like this on your first date, chances are she is never going to see you again.

And it’s not just about the first date. Whenever you go out with her, treat her like you would any other woman. Connect with her at an individual level, ask her about her hobbies, interests, what she likes to read, whether she enjoys watching movies or listening to music, that kind of stuff.  

Once your relationship progresses to a certain level, it’s possible that she herself opens up about her past life and experiences. But that’s totally her call. You have no right to force her to do so. Just respect certain boundaries and you will definitely win her trust and love in due course of time.

Don’t Make Her Feel Uncomfortable

Many guys have a habit of treating a woman like a commodity. And when it comes to trans woman, they cross all boundaries of decorum and decency as they think it’s alright to say and do anything to her because she is trans. If you have met someone through a transgender dating app or a trans dating site and you treat them like this, chances are they would never want to see you again.

No matter how gorgeous her body is or how promising her assets look, you have no right to treat a trans woman as a mere commodity for your physical pleasure and gratification. Do not even talk about the physical aspect of love during the first couple of dates. You would just come across as creepy and desperate if you insist on that during the early stages of your dating. As and when she is comfortable with you, things will probably happen. But physical pleasure can’t be your ulterior motive in wanting to date her. Get to know her as a person. That is primary and everything else comes after that.

Respect certain boundaries. Don’t try to strike an amorous conversation with her. If she is feeling uncomfortable, just change the topic right away. Only if you treat a trans woman with dignity and respect, you can be hopeful of winning her love and trust.