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Awareness of multiple genders and sexual orientation has recently taken a limelight in the media, however misconceptions and stereotypes still linger because of this. Before we start to dive into this subject matter, it is important to know simple terms such as gender, intercourse, and sexuality. Gender is what people feel within themselves, according to cultural understandings. Such as girls are soft and compassionate, whilst men are less so. intercourse is a biological term which directly refers to the genitals one was born with. Sexuality is whom one is attracted to sexually and emotionally. This may or may not align with their gender.

Gender fluid is an identity that seems to be regularly mistaken. Gender fluid refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. It is a gender identity which can be described as a mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.  Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation. It is solemnly as what they feel like inside, and gender fluid people never seem to stick with a single gender identity.

Many celebrities consider themselves genderfluid, such as Miley Cyrus, Tilda Swinton, DJ Ruby Rose, and Andrej Peji?. Standards for each gender has been ever evolving, from more intense beliefs, to sneaky yet still beliefs.

One of the main misconceptions for people who are gender fluid is that their gender is nonexistent, however, an individual who is gender fluid experiences a constant shift between the gender spectrums. There are some people who fall under the Trans spectrum that do not feel dysphoric about their gender, but it is well known that most do. Gender Dysphoria is a feeling of your physical body not matching up with how you feel internally that it should be. Many people would describe the feeling of dysphoria in many different ways, though all of the ways that it is described make it clear that it is a negative feeling.

Many people who are gender fluid will date bisexual or pansexual people, those who are attracted to two genders or are attracted to people no matter what gender they are. Some people who are gender fluid will use pronouns other than he/him or she/her. Some will use the gender-neutral they/them, or another term that they choose and use regularly. Along with different pronouns, sometimes they will use gender-neutral terms for themselves while dating. Instead of having their significant other calling them their boyfriend/girlfriend, they will term such as “date mate” or even a term as simple as “partner” or “significant other”.

Many people who are gender fluid will often dress and appear as unisex or androgynous, though in some cases they will decide to mix objects that most would place within gender categories. A good example of that would be someone who decides to wear masculine appearing clothing, with makeup or another part of themselves appearing feminine.

It is recommended that when coming across a genderfluid person, that you politely ask what pronouns they would like to be referred as. Some people who experience fluid gender don't use the word "genderfluid" for themselves. Some people with fluid genders call themselves by a word such as genderqueer, bigender, multigender, polygender, or other words. This can be because the people haven't seen the word "genderfluid," or it can be because they don't think it describes them well. It's important to understand that each person has the right to decide what to call their gender identity and that they're the only one who can do that.

Some genderfluid people find that their environment does not influence their gender identity to change. They find that their gender fluidity is unpredictable and happens randomly. Other genderfluid people find that their gender changes depending on the situation, and is influenced by inside or outside sources. For genderfluid people who think their changes in gender might have to do with their menstrual cycle, they think it might be caused by how the natural hormone levels rise and fall during that cycle. It’s possible that a person might think that they tend to feel male during their periods even if that’s only rarely the case for them because the incongruence of that situation would feel noticeable and memorable.

The biggest thing to keep in mind for both sides of a relationship with someone who is gender fluid, whether that relationship is platonic or romantic, is being honest with each other about who you are and what you are looking for. Being open with a significant other can really be better for both people involved than one might think.

Society has now certainly become more open and receptive to the idea of people being different. But a transgender person still faces social stigma and discrimination. People would turn the transgender person into a fetish, treat them like a subject of enquiry and be fascinated by them in a very morbid, inhumane sort of way. But there still are very few people who would consider dating a transgender woman.

If you are one of those unique and courageous men who have decided to step into the intimate world of a transgender woman, it is important for you to know what impresses her and what does not. Just like every cis woman, a transgender woman admires an honest, truthful and chivalrous man. Chivalry never gets out of fashion. But there are certain things about which you have to be extra careful while trying to impress a transgender woman.

There are certain tips you can follow. And if you do manage to ace these tips, the transgender woman you have been admiring from a distance will certainly welcome you into her beautiful and feminine world.

Compliment her Frequently

There isn’t a woman in the universe who doesn’t love a genuine, heartfelt compliment. Just looking at her with eyes full of admiration is not enough. Women like it when men notice the minutest things about them and pay them a compliment. It could be about her hair, her smile, her eyes or even her wit and intelligence.

Even if you are just talking to a transgender woman on a dating site, pay her few compliments every now and then. This would certainly take things forward and build up interest from her side.

A transgender woman is an emotional creature. She is twice as likely to think about a man who compliments her appearance and mannerisms than the guy who just strikes a straightforward conversation.

When you compliment a woman, it is like giving her a signal that you notice everything about her. And that you admire her. A woman needs affirmation from your side before she starts opening up herself. It might sound clichéd but that is how it generally works. When a lady is confident that a man is genuinely interested in her, that’s when she too starts showing interest.

Be Creative with Your Plans

It is certainly not easy to impress a transgender woman. You have been chatting with her for a while on a trans dating site. It’s going good and now, you’d like to ask her out. Before you do so, have it all figured out as to where can you take her, how will you make your first date special and all that.

A transgender woman is independent and confident. She has faced a lot of challenges in her life and therefore, she admires a smart man who can interest and impress her with his dynamic personality and firebrand soul.

So, you can’t take her out just anywhere. Find out in advance what activities she enjoys and then surprise her with a date that involves all those activities. Incorporate something quirky and eccentric into your date. For example, if she is passionate about books, take her to a stunning library before you take her to other places. Or if she loves outdoors, surprise her with a fun date planned on those lines.

She will certainly more than notice the efforts you have taken in getting to know her hobbies and interests and planning a date for her accordingly. Not everyone would do that for a transgender woman, or for any woman for that matter. Most of the guys would just do the stock cafe/bar /pub outing scenario. Only a guy who is genuinely interested in her would do what you are doing.

Do not get Obsessed with her ‘Trans’ Identity

You are dating a transgender woman perhaps for the first time. Maybe, it’s a new experience for you so it’s natural that you have many questions about her life trajectory, her struggles and all that. But you have to save those questions for a later time or better still, not ask them at all.

You have to treat her the way you would treat a cis woman. Her transgender identity doesn’t make her peculiar in any way. You talk to her like you would with a woman and then if you guys do go out on a date, just get to know her as a person. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her views on life, what she likes doing, what are her hobbies.

Your transgender woman should not feel that it is not a date but an interview. It is extremely rude and disrespectful to bombard her with questions related to her identity and transitioning when you guys are out on a date. These things come much later. Suppose you two really get along well and end up in a relationship, then maybe you can ask her some things. But even then, it is entirely her prerogative to entertain your questions or skip those.

You have to understand that just because you are dating a transgender person, that doesn’t entitle you to treat them like an object of enquiry. You are not a journalist out on an assignment interviewing a transgender woman. You are a man falling in love with her, looking forward to being in a relationship with her. So, treat her with utmost respect and dignity.

Punctuality is Important

The first impression is indeed the last impression. Everything seems to be perfect. You have chosen the right place for your first date. You are looking forward to some great moments. But you are, let’s say 20 minutes late for the date.

Maybe, 20 minutes delay is not a big deal by your personal standards. But your transgender woman is punctual and she came on time. Just imagine a woman waiting for you for 20 minutes on a date. What kind of impression it would create? In all probability, she would never want to see you again.

Punctuality is very important when it comes to impressing a transgender woman, or any woman for that matter.

So, learn the value of punctuality. If you have a date planned, reach the venue even 10 minutes before the scheduled time. Just try and imagine an alternative scenario for your 1st date. When your transgender woman arrives at the café and sees you sitting there with a patient and alluring smile, she will be perhaps thinking, ‘this guy is worth it after all’. She will think so because you arrived before time. For her, it is a signal that she is important to you. Just remember, for women, it is these little things that matter.

A Gentleman Never Goes out of Fashion

Women across all times and epochs and ages respect and admire a gentleman. It is no different for a transgender woman. If you want to win her respect, admiration and eventually love, you have to be a thorough gentleman.

You cannot put up a façade of being a gentleman. It’s something that ingrained in your very being and reflects your basic values and thought system. You have to be nice and courteous to her. That goes without saying. But the gentlemanly code of conduct extends to all fellow human beings. You have to be compassionate to everyone around you.

One sure-shot way of figuring out a person’s true character is by observing how they behave with people who are below them on the social ladder. When you take out your transgender woman to a restaurant on a date, she would keenly observe how you communicate with the waiters and the serving staff. If you are not a gentleman, you will manage to put up a façade in front of her. But when it comes to your behaviour with people who are serving you, it will be outright rude and disrespectful. Your mask will fall off and your true character will be revealed.

On the contrary, if you are polite and courteous with people who are serving you at a restaurant and you go out of your way to help out people and make them feel comfortable, your lady will be impressed.

A transgender woman has a heart of gold. And she wants to see the same kind of compassion reflected in her man’s actions.

Then, there are some basic etiquettes of dating like a gentleman that you need to adhere to. If you are going on a date with her for the first time, you should pay the bills. It will be rude of you to expect her to split the bill on the first date itself, especially if you are the one who asked out.

However, on subsequent dates, the two of you can certainly build an arrangement for splitting the bills that suits you and your partner alike.

And finally, remember the good old chivalrous things. Offer to help her with her bags while the two of you are walking. Open the doors for her, draw out that chair for her. It’s not that she cannot carry her own bags or she needs your Favour constantly. It’s just that as a woman, she feels special and loved if her man constantly shows that he cares so much for her.

A long-distance relationship is not for everyone. It is for those who truly believe in love and are willing to walk that extra mile for it. They are willing to even undergo physical separation from their lover for the sake of love. Relationship with a transsexual is not everyone’s cup of tea either. When you have committed yourself to dating a transsexual person, you have already signaled to the world that you are a unique person whose choices are not dictated by societal dogmas and stereotypes.

Your transsexual partner is anyways tough enough to endure a long-distance relationship. They have already won the challenging battle of coming out in the open with their identity. And transitioning is an extremely difficult phase. So, if they have come out of all that victoriously, they won’t really let distance become an issue if they are in love with someone.

You have also battled societal stigma, disapproval and outright condemnation while making the decision to date a transsexual person. So, you are a tough cookie as well. However, this does not mean that keeping a long-distance relationship is an easy deal. On the contrary, it is extremely challenging to be in a long-distance relationship with someone and keep the love alive.

Regular communication is very important for a long-distance relationship. And so are a couple of other things. This article is going to list a couple of tips that can help you keep up such a relationship. If you and your transsexual partner follow these tips, then even distance cannot be an impediment in your journey of togetherness and love!

Trust

Trust is the foundation of a long-distance relationship. Well, it is important for any relationship. But in a long-distance relationship, its importance is doubly elevated. You guys don’t stay in the same town physically. So, you have no way of really finding out what the other is doing most of the time, where are they going, who are they meeting. And you probably also have a work-life, deadlines to meet, household chores to fix. So, you cannot just leave everything aside and constantly spy on your partner through phone or social media! That would also be mentally unhealthy for you and toxic for your relationship.

Therefore, the only thing that works is trust. You have to realize that you two are together for a reason and distance is only a temporary impediment. Trust is of course not built overnight. It requires regular communication. Even though your relationship is long-distance, you have to make your partner a priority. Make sure that the two of you talk to each other almost every day even if it’s for a short while.

Just a virtual hug or kiss from your partner before you are going to sleep can go a long way towards building trust. If any of you are super busy and cannot communicate for a while due to some reasons, just tell that your partner. Communication keeps everything sorted. And lack of it creates mistrust.

If there is something about your partner’s behaviour that is bothering you and if despite all the trust, you have started doubting something, just ask them candidly. A good, honest conversation is like a stress buster and trust builder in any long-distance relationship.

Make Time for Each Other

You both are super busy. And you both have your own life, your own circle of friends wherever you live. But you have to understand that being in a relationship; you have to be each other’s priority.

So, it is very important that you create time for each other on a daily basis. Most of us spend a lot of time on social media even while we are working. So, it’s super easy to slip in flirtatious text messages to your transsexual partner once in a while even during work hours.

Get creative with your communication mode. Send each other pictures and videos from your everyday life. If you are in a restaurant having a great time with your friends, maybe you can just shoot a small video using her phone, tell your partner where you are and you are having a good time but are missing them. These small gestures go a long way towards keeping the fire in your relationship going.

Do not do everything by a plan. That can get monotonous and boring. Be unpredictable every once in a while. Send her a text or a WhatsApp message out of the blue telling her what you ate for lunch today. The idea is to be a part of each other’s immediate universe even though you are not living in the same town physically. It is certainly challenging but if you make time for each other and think of innovative and fun ways of communicating, you can do it.

You Have to Keep the Love Alive

Now, this is the point where a lot of long-distance relationships falter. Lack of physical intimacy due to the distance factor can ruin even the best of relationships. Sexual love is a basic need for everyone and if they can’t get it from their partner, they start looking elsewhere.

So, it is important that you and your transsexual partner find ways and means to keep the fire of love and passion burning despite the distance. You can consider having phone sex. Tease each other with sexy photos and messages. Phone sex can get very close and intimate if you are into it. The two of you can constantly moan and breathe erotically while you are building up the erotic crescendo over the phone. If you can actually imagine yourself getting physical with your partner while the two of you throw in graphic details of what you are doing to each other, phone sex can get very real.

Now, love surely doesn’t mean only physical love. Emotional love is very important too. In fact, in any relationship, after a point in time, emotional love is the real thing and physical love becomes an expression of your emotional intimacy with your partner.

So, it is important to keep the romance alive. Maybe, have a candlelight dinner date through a live zoom conversation! Create that mood in your apartment with beautiful lights, candles, wine and all that. Ask your partner to create a similar setting where they live. And then the two of you can have a live date. You can even try out a similar kind of live dating session from a restaurant or a café.

It’s also good to get old fashioned once in a while. That is, you can surprise your transsexual partner by sending chocolates, roses, greeting cards, flirty lingerie or whatever gifts they like once in a while.

Last but not the least, a simple ‘I Love You’ in the morning after you get up and, in the night, before you go to sleep would make your transsexual partner feel your love like you are sleeping just next to them.

Make Plans to Meet Each Other Once in a While Despite the Distance

A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean that you are constantly making love only on phone! You have to make some sort of a commitment to actually seeing each other in person even if it’s for a couple of days in 2-3 months.

And you have to make sure that when the two of you do meet each other, that time is literally reserved for your relationship. When your transsexual partner is visiting you, make the most of that visit. Even if it means going a bit out of your way and postponing all appointments, just do it. Nothing is more important in life more than a loving partner.

A couple of days of togetherness can be like a lifetime for people who are in a long-distance relationship. So, you and your transsexual partner have to make each other a priority and try and make travel plans to one another’s city if and when possible.

Discuss the Future of Your Relationship

Now, this is very important. In a long-distance relationship, you go to figure out where exactly it is going after a point in time. That is, the two of you should have a concrete roadmap for getting together at some point in time. The distance is ok at the moment but there has to be some mutual vision of the distance ending sometime in future.

Have candid discussions with your transsexual partner on a regular basis. No one wants to be enduring distance infinitely. There has to be some light at the end of the tunnel. So, the two of you have to have a concrete plan as to when and how the two of you can be together in one place. And you have to constantly discuss the progress you are making on that plan.

After all, it is for the sake of love that the two of you are putting up with a long-distance relationship. And that love has to materialize in you being physically together at some point in time.

Transitioning is a very complex process. Every transgender woman has a unique transitioning trajectory. The approach that she adopts towards transitioning depends totally on her personality and her own priorities as an individual. There is no ‘one fits all’ method to transitioning. Every transgender woman has a distinct individuality and that is what guides her future life choices.

She might go all the way up to altering her physique and facial structure surgically as much as possible to look more feminine. That is, she might go for Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS). Or she might just opt for the Hormone Replacement Therapy and take it from there. But irrespective of whatever approaches she takes, a basic grounding in etiquettes of femininity would certainly help her in projecting that feminine image.

She is taking a leap of faith by choosing to live like a woman. She is a beautiful woman already. She feels like a woman inside out. It’s just that as a transgender woman, she needs to master some external manifestations of femininity in order to take forward her journey as a woman.

And it’s not just about fitting in or some stamp of approval from society. It is very much about her own desire to give a beautiful, sublime expression to her innate femininity.  Societal codes and conventions aren’t always binding and suffocating. Sometimes, they get us the kind of recognition that we have been craving for. Adhering to a certain etiquette of femininity would also make a transgender woman feel that her body and heart are completely in sync.

This article is going to list some tips that a transgender woman can follow for bringing out her innate femininity.

Dressing & Fashion

The dressing is more than just an external manifestation of femininity. What a woman wears offers a window to her soul. For a transsexual woman, it is important to choose stylish, chic, feminine attire that will complement her looks, personality and body type.

Whether she is wearing dresses or skirts, the colours and cuts should complement her body type and enhance her femininity. She should also keenly follow all the latest fashion trends. Of course, she should not blindly copy these trends. She has to eventually evolve her distinct style in accordance with her unique beauty and attributes. But it is very important to know about all the happening trends in the world of fashion. She should not come across as someone who wears beautiful but outdated clothes.  For a modern, feminine woman, looking contemporary and chic is equally important.

In fact, a transgender woman should read fashion magazines on a regular basis. She should never miss out on the ‘Fashion’ and ‘Lifestyle’ pages of the newspapers. Constantly checking out what celebrities are wearing these days gives one a perfect peep into the world of fashion and glamour. It will also give her innovative ideas on how to design her own wardrobe.

Yet another advantage of reading a fashion magazine is that it will give her an idea as to where she can buy the clothes from. She will get an update on all the latest and happening ladies’ apparel stores in the town.

Last but not the least, it is very important to check out what other women around you are wearing. You just have to walk around the street and observe the kind of clothes that women are wearing. This will give you more practical and hands-on tips for dressing up. Maybe, what a fashion model featured on the magazine cover is wearing is not practical for you to wear in day-to-day life. Maybe, it doesn’t suit your body type. But if you notice women around you, which will give you an idea on how to merge the high fashion sensibility of designer wear with the more practical sensibility of day-to-day wear.

Learning the Art of Applying Makeup

A transgender woman has to perfect the art of applying makeup. It might seem like the easiest thing in the world considering that most women apply makeup on a day-to-day basis. But applying makeup well is not that easy. It is a skill that can be mastered with constant practice and learning.

A transgender woman should always choose the right kind of makeup according to her skin tone and facial features. If her eyes are small, then she has to highlight her eyes using adequate eye makeup. If she already has large eyes, then the eye makeup would be somewhat different. If she has fuller lips already, then she has to be very careful while applying lipstick. If she has thin lips, then it is very important to enhance those through makeup.

A good way of learning make up is by watching YouTube tutorials on ‘how to apply makeup’. Social media sites like YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, etc. have amazing makeup tutorials. Depending on your skill and experience level, you can choose the kind of videos you want to watch. If you are a beginner, you can watch videos listing ‘makeup tips for beginners’’. If you as a transgender woman want to learn how to apply basic, nude makeup for an everyday look, there are specific tutorials for those. If you are interested in learning party makeup or more edgy, dramatic makeup, then there are tutorials for that too.

Practice is very important for perfecting the art of makeup. Just watching YouTube videos isn’t going to do the trick. One has to constantly practise what one has learnt.

Appropriate makeup that highlights her facial features will make a transgender woman bring out her gorgeous self in full bloom. And after all that makeup, do not forget to ace the look with that gorgeous, alluring smile!

Feminine Voice

Makeup, dressing sense, all these constitute the 1st step towards the external manifestation of femininity. But communicating in a feminine voice is equally important. And this can be tricky terrain for a transgender woman. The transition process is complex and multi-layered. Finding a feminine voice during and post-transition can be challenging.

But with a few tips and tricks, a transgender woman can simulate a feminine voice. Even if she has a deep, manly voice, she can make the pitch somewhat higher and the voice would sound feminine. If she breathes from the stomach and then speaks, it would help in getting rid of vibrations in the chest.

A transgender woman with a somewhat manly voice can also consider taking singing lessons or just practice singing by herself. She can try out her favourite numbers. Singing is an excellent way of training the voice in a way that makes it sound more feminine. Singing would add the high-pitched notes to her voice. It would also make her voice smoother. All this would certainly enhance the feminine quality of her voice.

If she wants to go a step further, she can even consider taking professional voice lessons. There exist professional voice training courses specifically targeted at transgender women to help them make their voice sound more feminine. A professional coach can give you numerous tips and tricks for voice projection that can make your voice sound smoother and sweeter. You could also try out YouTube videos that teach voice projection and offer lessons on how to make the voice sound more melodious and feminine.

Speak Softly

It’s not just the quality of your voice that makes you sound feminine. The way you speak is very important. A transgender woman should try to speak as softly and politely as she can. A soft, soothing deep, husky voice can also sound very feminine. On the contrary, a screeching voice, the kind of voice where the speaker is literally shouting can be very unpleasant on the ears.

So, she can step up her feminine quotient by speaking softly and politely.

Eyebrows and Shaving are Very Important for her Grooming

Eyebrows define the shape of the entire face. For a feminine look, it’s very important that the eyebrows are regularly plucked and in great shape. Messy, bushy eyebrows aren’t going to make you look all that feminine. Neatly plucked eyebrows with a bit of arch are what will do the trick.

It goes without saying that shaving is very important in order to get rid of all that stubble. Also, you shouldn’t shave in a hurry. Take your time and make sure you are doing it perfectly. Be gentle so that you don’t end up developing any rashes or infections by being too harsh and rough on your own skin.

Clear, smooth skin is the hallmark of ultimate femininity. And for getting that type of look, you have to be extremely meticulous and patient with your shaving routine. Waxing is of course the easiest and most convenient practice. But you can even consider electrolysis or laser hair removal.

Be Confident

Just as a woman cannot wear any makeup better than a smile, she cannot wear any attribute better than confidence.

A confident woman literally radiates with the unique beauty of her personality and she spreads her special aura everywhere she goes.

People are naturally attracted to a confident woman, they wish to speak with her, they want to be around her and take her opinions seriously.

So, a transgender woman should be confident in all spheres of life. When she radiates with the beauty and confidence of her innate femininity, absolutely nothing can stop her from conquering the world.

Dating has become a complicated affair in these times. There is a lot of hit and trial involved. And then to add to your woes, a vast majority of cis women have a major attitude problem. This is not to portray them in a negative light. But the reality is they are so much sought after by men and women alike that it seems like they have a never-ending pool of choices. The kind of overwhelming attention they get all the time makes them super demanding and picky. But have you ever thought about dating a transsexual woman?

Transsexual females are incredibly gorgeous, well-groomed, and sophisticated. They can also be super intelligent and witty. If you check out the pictures of transsexual females from various trans dating sites, you would know what I mean. They are as beautiful as any cis woman can be or maybe even more because they are extremely conscious of their femininity and value it way more.

Transsexual females know the value of struggle and therefore they are way more mentally evolved than your average cis female. There are many advantages of dating transsexual females. This article would list some of those.

She has a Strong Personality

A transsexual female has seen a lot in her life, literally so. Someone who decides to undergo transitioning cannot be a weak-willed person. It requires immense courage and determination to take that kind of decision.

The vast baggage of societal prejudices that she deals with on a regular basis makes her stronger with each passing day. I mean compared to the kind of apathy and collective societal disrespect that a trans woman has to go through, the life of any cis woman would be like a bed of roses.

Somebody who battles all that on a regular basis and comes out victorious has to have a super-strong personality. So, if you are looking for a girl with a strong personality, dating a trans female might be the best experience of your life.

When you are looking for a serious relationship, you want to be with someone who can keep their act together and possibly, help you keep yours too. A transsexual female can do that very well. In fact, with her strong personality, she can even act as a barrier between you and negative people who can potentially harm you.

It helps to have a partner who is strong-willed. They can push you towards discipline and dedication towards your own life goals. And what can be better than having a partner who can contribute to your personal and professional growth and development?

She has a More Balanced Understanding of Gender

This is a major advantage when it comes to dating transsexual females. A transsexual female has a more balanced and evolved understanding of gender as compared to your average cis female.

The kind of rigid and one-dimensional understanding that society has of gender makes both men and women suffer in innumerable ways.

A man wanting to date a woman faces innumerable pressures in terms of portraying a certain macho image and playing up to the conventional image of a man. A transsexual female, because of her evolved understanding of gender, can be definitely more understanding and supportive of somebody who has a more fluid conception of gender. That is, your transsexual female girlfriend would not judge you to be any less manly on the basis of little quirks or idiosyncrasies.

Being in a relationship with someone who has a more balanced understanding of gender can be more emotionally fulfilling. You can be your natural self with such a person. There is no need to constantly put up an act. And that’s such an incredibly beautiful and uplifting thing for a relationship.

She is Gorgeous and Super well Groomed!

Now you might say that even a cis woman can be gorgeous and well-groomed. True that but a transsexual female has somewhat of an edge over your average cis female in this matter. She has spent an enormous amount of money and mental energy in undergoing transitioning. Her identity as a woman is as important to her as breathing in fresh air for survival. It’s not something she takes for granted or is nonchalant about. Her femininity means a lot to her.

And that is why a transsexual female takes an altogether different level of interest in her appearance and grooming. Her femininity is a matter of pride to her and she does all can in her power to look super alluring and beautiful.

This is not to say that you should date a transsexual female only for her physical beauty. But physical attraction certainly is a very important component of any relationship. Only when you are attracted to a person’s physical appearance, you can consider taking things to the next level.

She is Sophisticated and Intelligent

If you are looking to date a sophisticated, polished woman who you can take out to the most happening and chic places of the town and talk perhaps even of literature and existentialism over a glass of wine, then the transsexual female is just the right kind of person for you.

She is articulate, intelligent, and knows how to conduct herself in a sophisticated and elite society. It is even said that transsexual females are twice as likely to hold a college degree when compared to the average cis woman.

Physical attraction is the first step of a relationship. The next step is mental compatibility. And for figuring that out, it is important that you should be able to have a conversation with your partner. An articulate and intelligent woman who can seduce you not just by her physical charms but through her wit and intellect as well is indeed someone special and rare.

Your Relationship with her Would be Great Sexually!

Now, let’s be honest. Physical love is a very important part of any relationship. On the basis of sexual chemistry and compatibility alone, relationships can be made or broken. All differences in temperament, the disposition can be conveniently put aside if things are good in bed.

And this is where a relationship with a transsexual female would give you that extra edge. Again, this is not to stereotype her but it’s true that female transsexuals are known to have the most stunning of bodies.  Her body is no less than a sculpture and she has those incredibly voluptuous curves that can distract anyone to the verge of insanity.

So, your sexual experience with her would be nothing less than amazing. A female transsexual’s breasts are usually firm, perky, and younger as compared to an average cis female. While dating her, you don’t have to worry about the fear of aging and sagging that comes with a conventional female body. You wouldn’t have to worry about her breasts sagging or about her abdomen accumulating fat over years.

In fact, if you start dating a transsexual female during the initial phases of her transition, you would realize that she is getting hotter and hotter with time. And it is an incredible thing for anyone to realize that their partner not only manages to keep the ravages of time at bay but also gets even more ravishing with time!

No Fear of Unwanted Pregnancies

A child is a beautiful entrant to your life. But only when you are planning one. Choosing to have a child with your partner is a major decision and you might not be ready for it yet. You might never want a child ever and that’s cool too.

With a transsexual female, you do not have to worry about the hazards of unwanted pregnancy as she does not have a uterus, and therefore, she can’t conceive. With a cis woman, unwanted pregnancy is always this danger lurking in the background; no matter how careful you are or whatever precautions you take.

Many a time such unwanted pregnancies can lead to even forced marriages. These marriages are forced because you were just in the process of knowing that person. Marriage was nowhere on your mind or her mind but an unwanted pregnancy popped up and you had no option other than getting hitched.

Dating a transsexual female will save you from that kind of scenario. When you are with someone without any fear or unwanted pressure, it’s even better for your relationship. You can be totally honest with each other and let your relationship grow with time. And after all, that, if it does reach that level where the two of you do want to get married, it will be totally worth it. You are choosing to get married because of love and not due to an unwanted pregnancy.

She is Emotionally Stable

The emotional stability of both partners is a very important component of any relationship. And in this department again, the transsexual female has an edge over her cis counterpart.

Being a transsexual woman, she has been dealing with prejudice, social discrimination, and outright bigotry all her life. And if despite all that, she has managed to live her life positively and well, it means that her emotional stability is rock solid.

An emotionally fragile person is a burden on their partner. There are people who get upset over the most inconsequential of things. Dealing with such a person and their day-to-day drama can get too much for anyone. But your transsexual female is so emotionally stable that she can handle your tantrums as well and teach you a lesson or two about emotional stability.

When you are looking for your soul mate, you don’t want to forcefully choose between a couple of people you met through friends. You probably have some specific qualities you are looking for in your future lover, you perhaps prefer a certain kind of look. So, it is natural that you want to talk to as broad a variety of people as possible so that the probability of meeting your soul mate increases.

And therefore, joining a transgender dating app or a transgender personal dating site might be the best bet for you. Online dating increases the likelihood of meeting like-minded people by many times. It can also be great fun as you can interact with different kinds of people from across the world. You would obviously not end updating all of them so it would be a mentally enriching experience. You will learn so much about different personality types and diverse cultural backgrounds.

If you would like to date a transgender person, then you should certainly consider joining a transsexual dating app or an online trans dating service. There are many reasons why online dating is a much better option than conventional offline dating. Let’s take a look at some of them.

You are Super Busy

That’s one of the most important reasons for joining an online dating site. You are always short of time. You are super busy with your work commitments, office meetings and at the end of the day, there is literally no time left to socialize. Every time you think of making that extra effort and going out, you just feel mentally tired and settle down for your couch and a glass of wine instead! Even if you do manage to drag yourself out, you simply don’t have the energy to talk to random people and make new friendships.

In such a scenario, a trans dating app or a trans dating site is literally your best bet. The biggest advantage of online dating is that you need to make very little effort in terms of meeting people and communicating with them. At the end of a long day, you can just relax on the couch, login a trans dating site and start getting connected with people.

Online dating is indeed a blessing for singles who just don’t have the time to go out and meet new people.

You are Shy and Introvert

There are people who are just not comfortable with face-to-face meetings, especially if these are of the romantic types. Shy and introverted people are somewhat socially awkward. So, if you are that kind of a person, it would be literally impossible for you to strike a conversation with random people at a party in the hope of finding a soul mate. Even if you are super attracted to somebody at a get-together, you just won’t have the courage to approach them and initiate a conversation.

In such a scenario, transgender dating websites are just ideal for you. In online dating, you can communicate with a person through just textual chatting. So, you don’t have to deal with the awkwardness of face-to-face interaction. On a trans girl dating site or a trans dating app, you can take the interaction forward slowly, at your own pace. Online dating is perfectly suited to the temperament of shy and introverted types. There is no pressure on you to go out of your way to talk to somebody. If you start getting along well with somebody and would like to see them for a face-to-face meeting at some point in time, then it’s great! But even for that, there is no pressure on you that you have to meet someone for a date outside. You can just keep things limited to the online medium for as long as you wish.

You are Afraid of Rejection

Now, this is a common reason behind joining transsexual dating sites. You are a self-conscious person and because of negative past experiences, you want to avoid meeting a potential love interest face to face.

Maybe, you have faced rejection in the past and are therefore scared of striking conversations with someone you are attracted to. Online dating then is the best and safest route for you to follow.

You Have Very Specific Criteria for the Kind of Person You Want to Date

When you are meeting someone through your friends, you have a limited pool of people to choose from. Even if you happen to be the charismatic sort and can confidently strike a conversation with strangers at a party, your options are still limited. Not everyone likes talking to random people. So, you will probably just end up being labelled as a freak by some!

On the contrary, if you join a transgender dating site or an online transgender forum, your chances of meeting the love of your life increase manifold. You have very specific criteria for the kind of person you are looking for. You are super-specific with regard to what their physical appearance should be like, what their educational background should be like and what kind of mindset they should have. Now it’s common sense that you can find such a person only after a lot of hit and trial. That is, you have to be able to converse with a really large number of people so that the chances of meeting that right person increase So, for you, a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site is just ideal.

Blind Dates Are Not Your Cup of Tea

Blind dates can be fun and exciting for some. But that’s only a very specific kind of crowd that likes going all crazy and haywire. It’s not for everybody. If you are not comfortable with the idea of a blind date, then online dating is for you.

Let’s accept it; a blind date is just a super bizarre phenomenon. Ok, you meet someone you don’t even know and then the two of you are super bored! It’s probably awkward and you don’t quite know what to say to each other because you just don’t have any prior connection. And love or even attraction requires some kind of a basic foundation.

 An online ts dating service or a ts dating app lets you precisely build that kind of foundation. You can spend hours, days, even months talking to somebody. You get to know someone slowly over a period of time. You figure out their likes, dislikes, temperament, everything. The attraction sort of grows on you with time. And then when you finally go out on a real date with your love interest, it would be nothing less than magic.

Online Dating Can Give You New Friends!

If you are the kind of person who likes making new friends, then online dating is just the right thing for you. Free transgender dating sites or transgender dating websites would enable you to meet such a fascinating array of interesting people from all across the world. And obviously, you can’t date all of them! Some of them become your good friends.

Looking for a love interest or a partner is the obvious reason behind joining an online dating site. But it has so many benefits you never thought about. It can even give you friends for a lifetime. And that’s such a beautiful feeling. Now, you would say that you can make friends offline as well. Of course, you can but it’s just not the same thing. The probability of meeting so many exciting and interesting people so easily is very limited offline.

Online Dating Saves Money

Now, this is a big advantage with online dating. If you are trying to look for your love interest offline, then you should be ready to part with a lot of cash! You will try out dating different people. Most of these will not work but you would have already spent a lot of money.

If you join a transsexual dating app or a transsexual dating site, you can literally save a lot of money. All you need is a computer and a decent internet connection. And you are good to go. Of course, when you do find your love interest, then money will have to be spent. But during the process of searching, you literally don’t have to spend anything. And that’s a huge advantage.

Your Personality isn’t that Great

A great personality is a prerequisite for impressing people offline. You have to be the kind of person who walks into a room and everyone’s eyes are on them. And it’s not just about looks. There has to be a certain magnetic pull, a certain irresistible charm to your personality.

So, if you think your personality is not too much to talk about and you just can’t impress people when you meet them face to face, then online dating is good for you.

Whether you have that magnetic personality or not doesn’t matter much in online dating. In such kind of dating, people usually have specific criteria about the kind of person they are looking for. It is more about your education, profession, hobbies or interests. So, from thousands of profiles available on a transgender dating site, you can select a few that match your interests. So, in online dating, you don’t have that kind of pressure to exhibit that magnetic personality or something. You just go with the flow. So even if you are an average looking person with an average personality, the chances of finding your soul mate are high.

You have undergone medical transitioning and now you are all happy and excited to live out your new identity as a beautiful and feminine trans woman. You would like to join a trans dating app or a dating site for a transgender woman. But before that, you have got to learn the nuances of the body language and social etiquette of a female.

You have a gorgeous figure; you know how to apply makeup well. You eat well, exercise and have an excellent skincare routine. All that is super cool. But you need to learn the art of feminine and graceful body movements.

Body movements play a very important role in accentuating the femininity of a woman. The way you walk, the way you move your hands while talking, the way you sit, all this tells a great deal about your feminine elegance and charm. Therefore, for a transgender woman, it is very important to learn the nuances of these body movements.

Of course, it is not something that you can learn overnight. It will require some time and a lot of effort and patience. But it is totally worth it. You can interact with other trans women through a transgender forum and get to learn about their experiences related to projecting a feminine image through body movements. You can even go through a transgender blog and read up information that is relevant to you as a trans woman.

The point is that the whole process of learning to feminize your body movements doesn’t have to be intimidating or boring. It can be exciting and fun-filled and you can even meet new people in the process. Here are a couple of tips that transgender woman can utilize to feminize her body movements.

Your Dressing Sense is Important

The kind of outfits you wear influence your body movements to a large extent. As a MTF trans woman, you should pay close attention to the kind of dresses you wear. If you are used to wearing jeans and trousers, chuck them off for something more feminine. The whole point is that you don’t want your body language to come across as too aggressive or masculine. So, wearing somewhat masculine clothes won’t help your cause. Go for more feminine attire like dresses and skirts while practicing body movements.

Now even with skirts, the kind of skirt you are wearing makes a huge difference. Long, flowing skirts look very elegant and feminine and also accentuate the delicacy of your body movements. Long flowing skirts with belts and a fitted top would do very well to define your body movements in a feminine way. A beautiful woman has walked straight out of a fairy tale; it’s a little bit that kind of a look.

Avoid short skirts if you can as you might not be able to sit appropriately and that will again make your body movements seem like somewhat not so elegant and masculine. Also, as a trans woman, one should avoid baggy or overtly loose clothes. You want your body movements to be graceful and defined and baggy clothes just won’t help the cause.

You could even check out various trans woman dating sites to see the kind of clothes other trans women are wearing and get inspired!

Keep your Body Movements Moderate

Many transgender women overdo the body movement bit in order to appear more feminine. You should avoid such exaggerated and over the top body movements. These will just make you look weird and not hot. For example, many trans women purposefully swing their hips way too much while walking. They think that if they do so, it will emphasize their hips and thus make them look more feminine. But it just looks odd. A transgender woman should just walk normally, gently with the natural in-built rhythm of a woman. Overdoing anything will not have the desired effect.

So, if you want your hips to be prominent, just follow the simple trick of putting on heels and walking normally. You would look much sexier and feminine this way.  And your hips would sway naturally and effortlessly.

You can also check out the body language of various trans women icons through YouTube videos or Instagram. Notice their movements, how they carry themselves and you will definitely learn a lot this way also. You can also join an online transgender forum and get to learn from the experiences of other trans women.

Pay Attention to your Body Posture

For an MTF transgender woman, her body posture is very important when it comes to projecting a feminine image. A great posture can accentuate her attractive figure highlighting the prominent bust, small waist and curvy hips. Therefore, it is very important to learn the art of maintaining a good body posture.

You have to carefully observe other women around you and then try and get the basic feminine posture right. Avoid slouching under all circumstances. It just looks unappealing. Slouching is a common mistake that many tall trans women make. They get conscious because of their height and resort to slouching to make themselves appear a bit shorter. You don’t have to do that. Tall trans women are just gorgeous. Just follow the usual, feminine body language. Don’t overdo any of the movements. For example, some trans women have this habit of arching their back so that their butt looks more prominent. Please don’t do that. That just looks odd and not hot.

Pay Attention to the way you Sit and Walk

The way a person sits and walks are the two most important indicators of their body language. You can practice all the fine-looking body movements and all that but if you sit awkwardly and walk strangely; your efforts will just not get you the desired result.

So as a trans woman, pay great attention to the way you sit and walk. This can of course be challenging as you have been used to the other way for a long time. And sitting and walking are such unconscious elements of body language that it might seem impossible to change these. But with a bit of effort, it is very much possible.

Always keep your knees together while sitting. Consider it a rule and follow it religiously. This is the basic principle of feminine body language that you sit with your knees together. Sitting down with your legs apart is a very ‘male ‘way of sitting. It certainly won’t be flattering to your feminine posture.

Hold your head high while walking. Also, your elbows should be tucked in while you are walking. Tucked in elbows bring out the fluidity in your feminine body movements.

Practice Stretching and Yoga

For feminizing your body movements, it is very important that your body is flexible. You must have noticed that people who do a lot of weight training sometimes develop very stiff, tense muscles. They look lean and have a lot of strength but they don’t have those graceful and agile feminine body movements. For a transgender woman, it is very important to practice stretching on a regular basis.

Stretching relaxes your muscles and also makes those more flexible. You can also consider learning yoga which is a complete body workout. The beauty of yoga is that most of the postures involve so much stretching that practicing yoga would give you that slender, feminine body type and also impart grace and agility to your bodily movements.

Yoga relaxes the body and calms the mind. A transgender woman who practices yoga gets even more intensely connected to her feminine core. Yoga also greatly improves your balance and posture. And all these things are very essential when you are trying to learn the nuances of feminine body movements.

The most wonderful thing is that yoga would also help you in achieving that super-hot, ultra-feminine figure. Regular practice of various yoga postures gives you those super well defined and yet natural-looking feminine abs. It would also accentuate your killer curves and increase your appeal by multiple times when you are dating someone through a a trans dating site!

Practice dance

Any dance form is the ultimate manifestation of flexibility and agility. There are dance forms that incorporate somewhat masculine movements but even those require a great deal of agility and flexibility.

For a trans woman, practicing any dance form is a fun way to make her body movements more feminine. You could pick up a graceful and popular dance form like Salsa that has such sensuous body movements and practice it with a friend or your partner. You could check out belly dancing videos from YouTube. Belly dancing is one of the most feminine and sensuous dance forms. The beautiful arm and hand movements in belly dancing could teach you a lot about delicate feminine expression and movement.

There are a number of dance forms you can try. You can even just listen to your favourite dance numbers, relax your body, and put your hands up in the air and just move. Dance is an amazing way to make your body movements more graceful and feminine. And the best part is it would all happen effortlessly. You just got to relax and feel the music. So, a MTF trans woman should certainly consider practicing dance in order to project that ultra-feminine image.

In the modern world, dating has become literally a big deal. There is so much competition for guys out there that they probably consider giving up the idea of finding the love of their life. Because of the overwhelming amount of attention they get, cis women throw off so much attitude that it gets almost impossible for any man to meet their expectations. But if the guys just looked a little bit elsewhere, life can get so much easier for them. That is, they should consider dating a transgender woman.

There is still not so much awareness around trans girl dating though. If men only realized dating a beautiful transgender woman could be a far better experience that dating an arrogant, stuck up cis woman with average looks, life for them could be so much better. A transgender woman is truly unique and beautiful. She exudes a completely different level of femininity and sensuality. Her aura is infectious.

You can easily start dating a transgender woman through trans dating apps. There are many such sites available. You can get registered on a dating site for transgender woman and look for profiles that interest you.

If you haven’t ever dated a transgender woman before, it is natural that you must be wondering as to why you should date a trans woman. Here are some merits of dating transgender females.

She has a Strong Personality

People with a weak personality are easily swayed whereas those with a strong personality have a certain aura and magnetism about them that everyone looks up to. If you appreciate a partner with a rock-solid personality, then you should consider dating a transgender woman through a trans dating site.

Because of her unique positioning, a transgender woman has gone through such a roller coaster of experiences that she is bound to be strong. It’s the kind of mental strength that a cis woman can only dream of. Transitioning requires enormous amounts of mental energy and willpower. A person who is confused and over-sensitive about everything won’t even dare to go there. But your trans woman is super strong and that’s why she undergoes so much in order to live the life of the beautiful woman that she is. It’s not a life she has got on a platter. She has literally fought for it.

A partner with a strong personality is a blessing in your life. They will keep you safe from unwanted influences and negativity. With your strong and beautiful trans woman by your side, you can be sure that she won’t throw any unnecessary tantrums or create any unwanted drama. She is focused on the relationship and because of her mental strength; she won’t be easily distracted or swayed.

She is Elegant, Witty and Intelligent

Men are very attracted to women who can talk well. Nobody wants to date a woman who looks fabulous but all that just flies out of the window the moment she opens her mouth. Guys love an elegant woman with a well-groomed personality. So, if you want to date that kind of woman whom you can take out to elite and sophisticated places, then trans girl dating is just the ideal thing for you.

According to research, a trans woman is twice as likely to hold a college degree as compared to your average cis woman. When you are with her, the two of you can have engaging conversations about literally anything – be it art, music, literature, films, travel or society. You would be proud of introducing your trans woman to your friends as she can hold witty and intelligent conversations with a group of people as well.

She is Super Gorgeous!

A trans woman is beautiful. And we are not talking about just normal beautiful, she is heavenly beautiful! If you check out the pics of trans women on various transgender dating websites, you would know what I mean! Being a woman is not a mere accident for her. She has literally fought for her femininity and womanhood. And that’s why she feels it way more passionately and intensely than any cis woman. And that aura of femininity radiates from her beautiful face as well as her hot, well-sculpted body.

A transgender woman goes to great lengths to groom herself well. She is always well dressed and knows how to use makeup to accentuate the beauty of her facial features. You would never find a trans woman dressed up slovenly for a date. If you dating a trans girl, you can be assured that she would have made every possible effort to make the occasion special. In planning for the date, she would create a unique look for everything – her dress, footwear, hairstyle, makeup. If you like things a bit dreamy and dramatic, then she would meet you with a super feminine sequined dress, super dreamy curls and a face with striking fantasy makeup.

Sex will be Great

Physical love is the most important aspect of a relationship, at least in its early stages. As long as things are great in bed, all other problems and issues can be overlooked or solved. If you date a transgender woman, you can be assured that your sex life will be a roller coaster ride, in a good way that is.

A transgender female has a stunningly well-proportioned body with curves that can put even the most sensual and erotic of sculptures to shame. She is sensuality personified from head to toe. She has a firm, younger and perkier breasts; a combination that can make any guy crazy and increase the pleasure of sexual experience manifold.

The body of a cis-woman age with time. Her breasts begin to sag, fat begins to accumulate on her tummy and her figure just isn’t the same anymore. In the case of a trans woman, the phenomenon is just the opposite. A transgender woman gets hotter with time. If you started dating her in the early stages of transitioning, you would realize how amazingly hot she is getting with the passage of time! If you are dating a transgender woman pre-op, then you even have the chance of great anal intercourse.

No fear of Unwanted Pregnancies

Gone are the days when true love was synonymous with motherhood and babies. Society has indeed come a long way from there. Many couples, even if they are married, choose not to have children at all. Then, the whole idea of having to marry somebody just because of an accidental pregnancy just doesn’t seem right. But in the heterosexual world, there is a lot of pressure on guys to marry the woman if she gets pregnant by chance. But if you are dating a transgender woman through a transgender dating site, you would face no such pressure.

A trans woman doesn’t have a uterus and therefore she can’t conceive. Therefore, as a guy, you don’t have to constantly worry about the probability of her getting pregnant. It’s also good for the relationship. Both the partners can actually focus on making their relationship better and stronger with time as these other issues are not there.

A heterosexual relationship is literally bogged down by the constant fear of pregnancy and babies. No matter how much precaution a guy takes, a cis woman can still get pregnant. This often leads to forced and unhappy marriages. A marriage will only succeed if the people involved are in it for the sake of love. If two people are marrying out of compulsion, then the whole thing will just become a drag.

Lack of fear of unwanted pregnancies can make you and your trans girlfriend pursue a beautiful, emotionally fulfilling and truly wonderful relationship. And if one fine day, the two of you decide to get married, it will be only because of love. And that is totally worth it.

She is Positive and Inspirational

A positive and inspiring partner is a gift for life. When you wake up next to a positive person every morning, you look forward to each day with new vigour and enthusiasm. You want to conquer the whole world. If you would like to date somebody with that super positive aura, a trans woman is just the right partner for you.

She has undergone so much in her life. A transgender woman has battled societal apathy, discrimination and even verbal abuse. And she has survived all that with flying colours. Every problem she has faced has made her even more beautiful and positive. People like that are a treasure to keep for life. The little problems that you keep nagging about are nothing in comparison to what she has faced. And yet she is brimming with life and energy. This would completely change your perspective on life.

Your trans woman would not just be your lover but your best friend, philosopher and guide. She would inspire you to constantly try something new and to achieve new heights in your professional life.

She is Emotionally Stable

A trans woman is the epitome of emotional stability. She has undergone so much in life that she has no time for emotional drama or frivolousness. If you are dating a transgender woman through any of the transgender dating sites, you can be well assured that her mind will be free of any insecurities, jealousies and doubts that cis women face on a day-to-day basis.

The emotional stability of both partners is very important for a relationship. If two people are emotionally volatile and unstable, they would be picking fights all the time over the smallest and silliest of things. A trans woman is so emotionally mature that your relationship would never suffer because of these petty issues.

A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

When you discover that you strongly feel that you belong to a different gender than the one assigned to you at the time of your birth, it is a moment of deep thrill and ecstasy. However, it can all be a bit confusing and overwhelming as well. In your heart, you feel quite sure about the new identity that you want to embrace but since society has so vehemently boxed you in a different identity, you feel somewhat nervous and scared. Before a transgender person takes the big step of medical transitioning, there is a lot of physical and mental preparation that they need to undergo.

Even before medical transitioning, a transgender person needs to slowly start coming out and asserting their new gender. If you are transitioning to a trans female, then you have to start putting on women’s clothes and make efforts to learn those little nuances of feminine behaviour and body language. Some transgender people also explore the option of joining a transgender dating site or a trans dating site so that they can look for potential romantic interest.

The most challenging part of course comes after transitioning when you are all ready to come out with your new identity in front of society. Even after medical transitioning, a transgender person is anxious about society judging them. The baggage of their past life is still there. And the general apathy of society towards people of the trans community doesn’t make it any easier.

However, with a bit of preparation and mental strength, you can adjust to your new identity wonderfully and beautifully. You need to chalk out a program for yourself that will help you fully embrace your new identity after transitioning.

You get a Completely new Identity

After medical transitioning, a transgender person gets a completely new identity. As a transsexual person, you get a brand-new identity card with the new name you prefer. The card also includes a new picture of you with your post transitioning features and look. It is perhaps a beautiful feeling to look at your new identity card. When you have to face the world with your new identity, these little badges of affirmation can make your task easier and pleasant. In your heart, you are already proud of being a trans female or a male. But equipped with your new identity card, you will be proud of introducing your new self to the world too.

It’s also good for making people around you understand your new gender in practical terms. The earlier they get to know this, the better it is. This new identity batch also makes you more confident. You no longer feel guilty about your new gender identity or worry about the reactions of people when you tell them so.

Teach Yourself the Fashion and Social Etiquette of your new Gender

If you are a transgender person who has transitioned to a trans woman, it is important to learn all about the basics of feminine dressing. Read fashion magazines on a regular basis, check out what other women on the street are wearing, look for the best stores in your local area to buy female clothing from.

If you have transitioned as a trans male, then you need to learn all that you can about men’s fashion and buy cool, comfortable and chic clothes that suit your body type and accentuate your masculinity.

Post medical transitioning, it’s very important to teach yourself the social etiquette, body language and dressing style of your new gender. You can observe other people around you of the same gender and pay close attention to the details – the way they walk, their body language, everything. You can also join a transgender forum online and interact with others like you who have transitioned. You can also get valuable information from a transgender blog online.

In some places, there are even grooming classes available for transgender people. This is especially true for trans women. There are classes that offer trans women hands-on experience in feminine dressing, body language, makeup, voice training etc.

Participate in Social and Voluntary Activities

After medical transitioning, it is very important to start socializing with people of your new gender. It is true that many individuals still have a somewhat rude and insensitive attitude towards the transgender community. But things are changing fast, there is more awareness now so you will meet many beautiful people out there you can hang out with and perhaps even share your experiences if you wish.

The more you participate in social activities with people of your new gender, the more confident you will become in your new identity. It is a good idea to join an online transgender forum where you can interact with others, talk about your specific experience and listen to some great and inspirational stories about other transgender people overcoming societal discrimination. You can even go through a transgender blog and get to know first-hand how others like you are negotiating the society post transitioning.

One great way of connecting with society is by doing some community work. You can get involved with a social cause and devote a couple of hours every week towards that cause. This is a beautiful way of contributing to society, making a change and also meeting new people. This would also go a long way towards changing societal perception about transgender people. People would no longer stereotype you in a certain way. They would understand that just like everybody, a transgender person has so many different dimensions to their personality. They would start connecting with you as an individual.

One of the biggest challenges that transgender people face after transitioning is difficulty finding work. Many get fired from their jobs and new employers are reluctant to hire them. By involving yourself in your community work, you can contribute towards creating positive awareness about the trans community. And it’s also useful for you in terms of getting full time or part-time employment in the future.

Healthy Eating is Important

Good food and exercise are very important after medical transitioning. You have a great body now that tells the world about your new identity and that you feel proud of. But it is equally important to maintain this body. Regular exercise is a must so that you can strengthen the muscles that you got due to reconstruction and alterations.

It is extremely important to eat healthily. Make sure you eat a balanced diet that has a judicious mix of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins and minerals. Eat plenty of fruits and greens. But make sure you don’t miss out on carbs and fats completely. Good fats are also very important for maintaining muscle tone and the attractiveness and vitality of your skin, hair nails, etc.

Last but not the least; make it a point to drink at least 8 glasses of water every day. Even more, than would be better! Water is very essential for eliminating toxins from your body. It aids digestion, boosts metabolism and helps you attain that glowing complexion.

Consider Dating Someone

This is the next important step after medical transitioning. Everyone needs some romantic love in their life. Now that you are adjusting to your new identity and feeling good about it, you should maybe consider dating someone.

You can join a transgender dating site or using a trans dating app and get connected with all kinds of people from across the world. Joining a trans dating site is a great way to meet new people as well.  When you are trying to adjust to your new life, it is very important to be as social as possible. Interacting with people from diverse backgrounds would contribute immensely towards enhancing your self-esteem and confidence. You would begin to feel more and more comfortable in your new skin.

The whole process of joining a safe transgender dating site and looking for a partner would make you feel even more intensely connected to your new identity. If you are a trans woman, you would start taking even more interest in your dressing up, makeup, doing your hair, etc. There would be butterflies in your stomach each time you think of chatting with that super-hot guy on a trans dating site. If you are a trans guy, you would start taking even greater care of your body and muscles.

Believe it or not, a bit of romance can do wonders for a person’s self-esteem and self-worth. There is something to look forward to every day. People start taking care of themselves better. They smile more; they even start looking more attractive when the love hormones are at work. They become more positive; their energy levels shoot up. As a transgender person, you have the right to take advantage of all those basic sensations of human attraction. It gets you more intimate with your new identity and that’s a beautiful feeling. After all, love and attraction are an important part of your new identity. So, post-transition, you should definitely consider joining one of the free transgender dating websites and start looking for love!