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In the modern world, dating has become literally a big deal. There is so much competition for guys out there that they probably consider giving up the idea of finding the love of their life. Because of the overwhelming amount of attention they get, cis women throw off so much attitude that it gets almost impossible for any man to meet their expectations. But if the guys just looked a little bit elsewhere, life can get so much easier for them. That is, they should consider dating a transgender woman.

There is still not so much awareness around trans girl dating though. If men only realized dating a beautiful transgender woman could be a far better experience that dating an arrogant, stuck up cis woman with average looks, life for them could be so much better. A transgender woman is truly unique and beautiful. She exudes a completely different level of femininity and sensuality. Her aura is infectious.

You can easily start dating a transgender woman through trans dating apps. There are many such sites available. You can get registered on a dating site for transgender woman and look for profiles that interest you.

If you haven’t ever dated a transgender woman before, it is natural that you must be wondering as to why you should date a trans woman. Here are some merits of dating transgender females.

She has a Strong Personality

People with a weak personality are easily swayed whereas those with a strong personality have a certain aura and magnetism about them that everyone looks up to. If you appreciate a partner with a rock-solid personality, then you should consider dating a transgender woman through a trans dating site.

Because of her unique positioning, a transgender woman has gone through such a roller coaster of experiences that she is bound to be strong. It’s the kind of mental strength that a cis woman can only dream of. Transitioning requires enormous amounts of mental energy and willpower. A person who is confused and over-sensitive about everything won’t even dare to go there. But your trans woman is super strong and that’s why she undergoes so much in order to live the life of the beautiful woman that she is. It’s not a life she has got on a platter. She has literally fought for it.

A partner with a strong personality is a blessing in your life. They will keep you safe from unwanted influences and negativity. With your strong and beautiful trans woman by your side, you can be sure that she won’t throw any unnecessary tantrums or create any unwanted drama. She is focused on the relationship and because of her mental strength; she won’t be easily distracted or swayed.

She is Elegant, Witty and Intelligent

Men are very attracted to women who can talk well. Nobody wants to date a woman who looks fabulous but all that just flies out of the window the moment she opens her mouth. Guys love an elegant woman with a well-groomed personality. So, if you want to date that kind of woman whom you can take out to elite and sophisticated places, then trans girl dating is just the ideal thing for you.

According to research, a trans woman is twice as likely to hold a college degree as compared to your average cis woman. When you are with her, the two of you can have engaging conversations about literally anything – be it art, music, literature, films, travel or society. You would be proud of introducing your trans woman to your friends as she can hold witty and intelligent conversations with a group of people as well.

She is Super Gorgeous!

A trans woman is beautiful. And we are not talking about just normal beautiful, she is heavenly beautiful! If you check out the pics of trans women on various transgender dating websites, you would know what I mean! Being a woman is not a mere accident for her. She has literally fought for her femininity and womanhood. And that’s why she feels it way more passionately and intensely than any cis woman. And that aura of femininity radiates from her beautiful face as well as her hot, well-sculpted body.

A transgender woman goes to great lengths to groom herself well. She is always well dressed and knows how to use makeup to accentuate the beauty of her facial features. You would never find a trans woman dressed up slovenly for a date. If you dating a trans girl, you can be assured that she would have made every possible effort to make the occasion special. In planning for the date, she would create a unique look for everything – her dress, footwear, hairstyle, makeup. If you like things a bit dreamy and dramatic, then she would meet you with a super feminine sequined dress, super dreamy curls and a face with striking fantasy makeup.

Sex will be Great

Physical love is the most important aspect of a relationship, at least in its early stages. As long as things are great in bed, all other problems and issues can be overlooked or solved. If you date a transgender woman, you can be assured that your sex life will be a roller coaster ride, in a good way that is.

A transgender female has a stunningly well-proportioned body with curves that can put even the most sensual and erotic of sculptures to shame. She is sensuality personified from head to toe. She has a firm, younger and perkier breasts; a combination that can make any guy crazy and increase the pleasure of sexual experience manifold.

The body of a cis-woman age with time. Her breasts begin to sag, fat begins to accumulate on her tummy and her figure just isn’t the same anymore. In the case of a trans woman, the phenomenon is just the opposite. A transgender woman gets hotter with time. If you started dating her in the early stages of transitioning, you would realize how amazingly hot she is getting with the passage of time! If you are dating a transgender woman pre-op, then you even have the chance of great anal intercourse.

No fear of Unwanted Pregnancies

Gone are the days when true love was synonymous with motherhood and babies. Society has indeed come a long way from there. Many couples, even if they are married, choose not to have children at all. Then, the whole idea of having to marry somebody just because of an accidental pregnancy just doesn’t seem right. But in the heterosexual world, there is a lot of pressure on guys to marry the woman if she gets pregnant by chance. But if you are dating a transgender woman through a transgender dating site, you would face no such pressure.

A trans woman doesn’t have a uterus and therefore she can’t conceive. Therefore, as a guy, you don’t have to constantly worry about the probability of her getting pregnant. It’s also good for the relationship. Both the partners can actually focus on making their relationship better and stronger with time as these other issues are not there.

A heterosexual relationship is literally bogged down by the constant fear of pregnancy and babies. No matter how much precaution a guy takes, a cis woman can still get pregnant. This often leads to forced and unhappy marriages. A marriage will only succeed if the people involved are in it for the sake of love. If two people are marrying out of compulsion, then the whole thing will just become a drag.

Lack of fear of unwanted pregnancies can make you and your trans girlfriend pursue a beautiful, emotionally fulfilling and truly wonderful relationship. And if one fine day, the two of you decide to get married, it will be only because of love. And that is totally worth it.

She is Positive and Inspirational

A positive and inspiring partner is a gift for life. When you wake up next to a positive person every morning, you look forward to each day with new vigour and enthusiasm. You want to conquer the whole world. If you would like to date somebody with that super positive aura, a trans woman is just the right partner for you.

She has undergone so much in her life. A transgender woman has battled societal apathy, discrimination and even verbal abuse. And she has survived all that with flying colours. Every problem she has faced has made her even more beautiful and positive. People like that are a treasure to keep for life. The little problems that you keep nagging about are nothing in comparison to what she has faced. And yet she is brimming with life and energy. This would completely change your perspective on life.

Your trans woman would not just be your lover but your best friend, philosopher and guide. She would inspire you to constantly try something new and to achieve new heights in your professional life.

She is Emotionally Stable

A trans woman is the epitome of emotional stability. She has undergone so much in life that she has no time for emotional drama or frivolousness. If you are dating a transgender woman through any of the transgender dating sites, you can be well assured that her mind will be free of any insecurities, jealousies and doubts that cis women face on a day-to-day basis.

The emotional stability of both partners is very important for a relationship. If two people are emotionally volatile and unstable, they would be picking fights all the time over the smallest and silliest of things. A trans woman is so emotionally mature that your relationship would never suffer because of these petty issues.

A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

When you discover that you strongly feel that you belong to a different gender than the one assigned to you at the time of your birth, it is a moment of deep thrill and ecstasy. However, it can all be a bit confusing and overwhelming as well. In your heart, you feel quite sure about the new identity that you want to embrace but since society has so vehemently boxed you in a different identity, you feel somewhat nervous and scared. Before a transgender person takes the big step of medical transitioning, there is a lot of physical and mental preparation that they need to undergo.

Even before medical transitioning, a transgender person needs to slowly start coming out and asserting their new gender. If you are transitioning to a trans female, then you have to start putting on women’s clothes and make efforts to learn those little nuances of feminine behaviour and body language. Some transgender people also explore the option of joining a transgender dating site or a trans dating site so that they can look for potential romantic interest.

The most challenging part of course comes after transitioning when you are all ready to come out with your new identity in front of society. Even after medical transitioning, a transgender person is anxious about society judging them. The baggage of their past life is still there. And the general apathy of society towards people of the trans community doesn’t make it any easier.

However, with a bit of preparation and mental strength, you can adjust to your new identity wonderfully and beautifully. You need to chalk out a program for yourself that will help you fully embrace your new identity after transitioning.

You get a Completely new Identity

After medical transitioning, a transgender person gets a completely new identity. As a transsexual person, you get a brand-new identity card with the new name you prefer. The card also includes a new picture of you with your post transitioning features and look. It is perhaps a beautiful feeling to look at your new identity card. When you have to face the world with your new identity, these little badges of affirmation can make your task easier and pleasant. In your heart, you are already proud of being a trans female or a male. But equipped with your new identity card, you will be proud of introducing your new self to the world too.

It’s also good for making people around you understand your new gender in practical terms. The earlier they get to know this, the better it is. This new identity batch also makes you more confident. You no longer feel guilty about your new gender identity or worry about the reactions of people when you tell them so.

Teach Yourself the Fashion and Social Etiquette of your new Gender

If you are a transgender person who has transitioned to a trans woman, it is important to learn all about the basics of feminine dressing. Read fashion magazines on a regular basis, check out what other women on the street are wearing, look for the best stores in your local area to buy female clothing from.

If you have transitioned as a trans male, then you need to learn all that you can about men’s fashion and buy cool, comfortable and chic clothes that suit your body type and accentuate your masculinity.

Post medical transitioning, it’s very important to teach yourself the social etiquette, body language and dressing style of your new gender. You can observe other people around you of the same gender and pay close attention to the details – the way they walk, their body language, everything. You can also join a transgender forum online and interact with others like you who have transitioned. You can also get valuable information from a transgender blog online.

In some places, there are even grooming classes available for transgender people. This is especially true for trans women. There are classes that offer trans women hands-on experience in feminine dressing, body language, makeup, voice training etc.

Participate in Social and Voluntary Activities

After medical transitioning, it is very important to start socializing with people of your new gender. It is true that many individuals still have a somewhat rude and insensitive attitude towards the transgender community. But things are changing fast, there is more awareness now so you will meet many beautiful people out there you can hang out with and perhaps even share your experiences if you wish.

The more you participate in social activities with people of your new gender, the more confident you will become in your new identity. It is a good idea to join an online transgender forum where you can interact with others, talk about your specific experience and listen to some great and inspirational stories about other transgender people overcoming societal discrimination. You can even go through a transgender blog and get to know first-hand how others like you are negotiating the society post transitioning.

One great way of connecting with society is by doing some community work. You can get involved with a social cause and devote a couple of hours every week towards that cause. This is a beautiful way of contributing to society, making a change and also meeting new people. This would also go a long way towards changing societal perception about transgender people. People would no longer stereotype you in a certain way. They would understand that just like everybody, a transgender person has so many different dimensions to their personality. They would start connecting with you as an individual.

One of the biggest challenges that transgender people face after transitioning is difficulty finding work. Many get fired from their jobs and new employers are reluctant to hire them. By involving yourself in your community work, you can contribute towards creating positive awareness about the trans community. And it’s also useful for you in terms of getting full time or part-time employment in the future.

Healthy Eating is Important

Good food and exercise are very important after medical transitioning. You have a great body now that tells the world about your new identity and that you feel proud of. But it is equally important to maintain this body. Regular exercise is a must so that you can strengthen the muscles that you got due to reconstruction and alterations.

It is extremely important to eat healthily. Make sure you eat a balanced diet that has a judicious mix of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins and minerals. Eat plenty of fruits and greens. But make sure you don’t miss out on carbs and fats completely. Good fats are also very important for maintaining muscle tone and the attractiveness and vitality of your skin, hair nails, etc.

Last but not the least; make it a point to drink at least 8 glasses of water every day. Even more, than would be better! Water is very essential for eliminating toxins from your body. It aids digestion, boosts metabolism and helps you attain that glowing complexion.

Consider Dating Someone

This is the next important step after medical transitioning. Everyone needs some romantic love in their life. Now that you are adjusting to your new identity and feeling good about it, you should maybe consider dating someone.

You can join a transgender dating site or using a trans dating app and get connected with all kinds of people from across the world. Joining a trans dating site is a great way to meet new people as well.  When you are trying to adjust to your new life, it is very important to be as social as possible. Interacting with people from diverse backgrounds would contribute immensely towards enhancing your self-esteem and confidence. You would begin to feel more and more comfortable in your new skin.

The whole process of joining a safe transgender dating site and looking for a partner would make you feel even more intensely connected to your new identity. If you are a trans woman, you would start taking even more interest in your dressing up, makeup, doing your hair, etc. There would be butterflies in your stomach each time you think of chatting with that super-hot guy on a trans dating site. If you are a trans guy, you would start taking even greater care of your body and muscles.

Believe it or not, a bit of romance can do wonders for a person’s self-esteem and self-worth. There is something to look forward to every day. People start taking care of themselves better. They smile more; they even start looking more attractive when the love hormones are at work. They become more positive; their energy levels shoot up. As a transgender person, you have the right to take advantage of all those basic sensations of human attraction. It gets you more intimate with your new identity and that’s a beautiful feeling. After all, love and attraction are an important part of your new identity. So, post-transition, you should definitely consider joining one of the free transgender dating websites and start looking for love!

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For a transgender person, it is difficult to find love offline. Social stigma makes them vulnerable to verbal and even physical abuse in the offline world. Therefore, the safest thing to do is to join a transgender dating site.

Moreover, when you are looking for love, it is natural that you would like to meet as broad a variety of people as possible. The offline world limits your options as you can only meet people through friends or acquaintances. But when you join a transgender dating site, you have the option of communicating with like-minded people from all across the world. And while this can be exciting and exhilarating, it can also make you vulnerable to all the wrong kinds of people.

So, it is very important to join a safe transgender dating site. When you come across profiles of stunning looking people from all across the world, it’s easy to get carried away. But you have to realize that many of these people can be scammers and imposters. And it can be very stressful if you have to be constantly suspicious of everybody you are chatting with on a trans dating site. It’s therefore important to make sure that you are registering yourself on a safe transgender dating site.

Here are a few tips that would help you decide how to choose the safest transgender dating site.

Always do a Thorough Online Search

Never join a transsexual dating site randomly just because you heard its name. You heard a few people talk about it and then without giving it much thought, you just jumped onto the bandwagon.

It’s important to do a thorough internet search before joining any trans dating site. Make a list of all the trans dating sites that are popping up in your internet research. Have a thorough look at these sites and then compare their features. Always read the review provided by their users. If a trans dating site has many good reviews on average, then you can safely conclude that it would be a pretty decent site.

Prefer Dating Sites that are Trusted by your Friends

This is the conventional and time-tested approach for determining the safety quotient of a particular transgender dating site. It is best to join a transgender dating site that has also been used by your friends. If your friend has had a positive experience using a particular dating site, then it makes sense that you can trust their judgment and consider joining that site.

If any of your friends are still using a particular trans dating site, then it’s ever safer for you to join the same. The two of you can keep a tab on any suspicious and fake profiles and discuss it amongst yourselves. More than anything, it’s just psychologically comforting to know that you are not into something entirely by yourself. There is someone by your side. It can be very intimidating for a transgender person to join a trans dating site that nobody in their circle has ever used before. So, if your friends recommend certain dating sites to you, those should definitely be on the top of your priority list.

Having said that, this does not mean you blindly follow the advice of your friends. When it comes to online dating, it’s best to use your judgment as well. Everybody’s experience with trans dating is different. So, it’s always advisable to do a thorough check from your end as well before joining any ts dating site.

Avoid Dating Sites that ask for too much Personal Information

The best transgender dating sites are those that understand the value of your privacy. These would not ask you to give out too much of your personal information. Of course, when you start chatting with someone, how much personal information to give out is totally your discretion. But the best transgender dating sites would not make it mandatory for you to spell out a lot of personal information.

So be suspicious of trans dating sites that ask for too many personal details at the time of registration. As a transgender person, your safety is what is most important. So as a rule of thumb, avoid trans dating sites that ask for too much personal information. The site might be having good intentions but it’s just not worth the risk. It’s not unusual to find transphobic people on a lot of transgender dating sites literally hunting for transgender people in order to potentially harm them.

So, your best bet is a transgender dating site that is not too pushy about your personal information and that lets you move forward at your own pace, with your own terms and conditions.

Prefer a Transgender Dating Site with great in-built Security Features

Now, this is something that you can figure out during the time of internet research. When you are checking out prospective transgender dating sites through the Google search engine, always pay extra attention to the in-built security features of these sites.

It’s important to know what kind of security mechanisms they have in place for weeding out scammers and imposters. The ideal tg dating site should also have a foolproof mechanism for safeguarding your personal information. They should be really proactive in terms of responding to the complaints made against any of the users.

The most important thing is that a great transgender dating site should have an excellent redressal mechanism. Even if after all the safety and precautions, you end up being verbally harassed or being abused by someone, the site should be able to immediately act upon your complaint.  You don’t want to waste your time on a dating site that doesn’t take your safety and self-esteem seriously enough.

Validate Personal meetups with the Administrators of the Transgender Dating Site

Now, meeting somebody in person through a transgender dating site is tricky terrain. That is of course the goal of online dating though. You talk to different kinds of people and if you find someone with whom you seem to be developing great chemistry, the two of you consider meeting each other. That seems like the most natural thing to do.

But as a transgender person, meeting someone personally is fraught with risks. You don’t want to expose yourself to all kinds of dangers by meeting someone you technically don’t know. It’s true that you have been chatting with your prospective love interest for quite a while and you get good vibes for them. And let’s hope it will all turn out beautiful. But it’s important to be cautious. Ts dating sites are full of smooth talkers who are looking to exploit transgender people for all sorts of underhand and shady activities. Then there are transphobic people who are literally scouting for transsexual people on these dating sites.

So, it’s important that the trans dating site you join should have some sort of a mechanism through which administrators can validate personal meet-ups before you agree to them. That is, the administrators of that site should be able to give you substantial background information about the person who has proposed the meeting and should be able to sufficiently warn you against the meetup if there are any red flags.

However, it is equally important to do background checks from your own end before agreeing to meet someone offline. You can search for information related to them through google. Try to find them on other social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram. If you find something suspicious, then it is best not to go ahead with the personal meet up.

Leave the Transgender Dating Site if you feel Uncomfortable

Now, of course, this is not an ideal scenario. When you are looking for love, you want to think positively and be optimistic. But if you feel that you have already taken many chances and are feeling a bit exposed and vulnerable, you can consider leaving that particular transgender dating site.

The whole idea of joining a dating site is to make you search for a partner smooth and hassle-free. But if it has started giving you undue stress and jitters, then it’s just not worth it. If you are feeling that you have given out too much personal information and you are not sure about the real intentions of the people you are talking to, then just relax and feel free to leave the site immediately.

Nothing is worth your safety and peace of mind. Maybe you are overthinking. But maybe you are not and there is some real risk that is lurking around the corner. So, in moments of confusion, just listen to the voice of your intuition. Leaving a trans dating site is not the end of the world. You can just give yourself a break and then come back to that site perhaps when you feel rejuvenated and positive again. Or you can even join another transgender dating site whenever you wish to.

Transgender dating has to be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. And for that, it is important that you always listen to your inner voice and emotions. You deserve the best in love physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s a beautiful journey full of serendipity. So, it is important to take it easy, not rush into anything and follow your inner instinct.

When you are in a relationship, there comes a crucial time when you got to introduce your partner to your intimate circle of family and friends. For a guy, introducing any woman to his friends and family can be intimidating. ‘Will they like her?’, ‘Would she be able to get along with them?’, all these questions preoccupy your mind. And if you are dating a trans woman, things can get even trickier.

Trans girl dating is no easy feat to accomplish, even in these so-called modern times. When it comes to certain things, most peoples’ minds are still stuck in the Middle Ages. If you are dating a trans woman, you have to be literally prepared for the worst of reactions from your family. So trans girl dating isn’t for the meek. You have to be super strong in your determination and in terms of your love and commitment to your partner that no matter what, you will always stand by her.

However, nothing in this world is impossible to accomplish if you try it out the right way with a cool head and a zealous, fighting spirit. If you discuss things with your trans girl at every step and proceed with a plan, then your family and friends might just accept your relationship. Just do not rush into making any impromptu revelations! Wait for the right time and chalk out a strategy.

If you follow a few basic tips, then the whole process of introducing your trans lady love to your intimate circle is just going to get easier and hassle-free.

Tell her that You Love her to the Core

The most important aspect of trans girl dating is mutual love and respect. As a guy, it is important that you take her fully into confidence before communicating your relationship to your friends and family. Your trans woman has to be ready for the whole thing. It is a big deal for her. She is about to be introduced to her boyfriend’s family. She wants to be her best version in front of them. But at the same time, her identity is very important to her. She has literally battled societal prejudices and censure to be able to live the way she wants to. So, it is natural that she is quite a bit apprehensive about the whole situation. So, you have to be constantly by her side and communicate your love and commitment for her.

It’s reassuring and comforting for her to hear it out from you again and again that you love her to the core. You got to assure your trans woman that no matter what, the two of you will be always together.

Your family will not quite layout a red-carpet welcome for the two of you once you tell them about your relationship. And you know that. So, while it’s good to hope for the best, be prepared for the worst as well. You have to reassure your trans woman that even if your family doesn’t accept the relationship, you will be with her. Tell her that irrespective of the way things work out with your family, your relationship will remain as it is.

The love between the two of you is what eventually matters. You think that it’s probably the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. But that’s about it really. The future of your relationship shouldn’t depend on their reaction. And that is why it is important for you to constantly communicate to your beautiful trans woman that your love for her is rock solid.

Consult her Before Making any Announcement

Now, this is the most important aspect of trans girl dating. You think it’s the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. Maybe, she doesn’t share your opinion. And you have to respect that.

Your trans woman has to be comfortable about it. It is a big step. You are choosing to make your relationship public and therefore, her comfort level is what matters the most. Talk to her clearly; give her reasons as to why you think it’s important to tell your family about the relationship at this point in time. And if she is still not convinced, it’s ok to postpone it till she feels comfortable.

The whole idea of taking this next big step of announcing the relationship to your intimate circle of people is to take it to the next level. Maybe you guys are thinking of marriage at some point in time. And that’s why you think it’s important to take it to the next level now. Whatever be the scenario, this shouldn’t become a point of conflict in your relationship. That is simply not worth it. If she is not yet ready to meet your friends and family, just postpone it for some time.

Plan it Out

It’s not a good idea to make the revelation to your friends and family randomly! You have to plan out the whole thing. The two of you got to figure out when is the best time to communicate this to them. Not just that, you also have to discuss what is the best way to communicate this to them.

If you already know that your family will be way too prejudiced against your trans woman, then you can’t just tell them everything bluntly in one go. You have to do some groundwork before you tell them the actual thing. Maybe, you can try and create a positive impression in their minds about trans people. Just try having general conversations about trans people first. The goal is to slowly reduce their prejudices. And then when the right time comes, you can tell them the exact thing.

It is also important, to be honest with your trans woman regarding your family’s attitudes. If you have specific family members or friends who would be vehemently opposing the relationship, warn your girlfriend in advance. Tell her candidly that these particular people might just be rude to her so that she doesn’t get so shocked by their reaction. However, her respect is of utmost importance so you have to draw the line somewhere. If you think their reactions will be too much for her to handle, it is best to make the announcement when your partner is not around.

You have to Stand up for your Lover

A guy who loves a transgender girl should stand up for her, no matter what. And this is true of any relationship. When you love a woman and have made a commitment, you have to honour that despite all societal disapproval.

You have made the big announcement in front of your family and friends. They still do not accept the relationship and some of them are way too disrespectful to your trans woman. Now, this has to be the saturation point for your tolerance. You have to tell them categorically that she is your lady love and disrespecting her is not ok. You have communicated to them all about your relationship and whether to accept it or not is their wish but that doesn’t change your relationship status with her.

If someone disrespects your trans lady love, you can’t just ignore the whole thing. You have to tell them firmly and strictly that you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour again. When you are in a relationship with someone, loving them doesn’t just mean making those ‘I love you’ declarations. You have to demonstrate your love in life’s circumstances. And that includes standing by her in all conditions, even if that has to be at the expense of a friend.

Keep up the task of Convincing your Family

If your family hasn’t accepted your relationship yet, that doesn’t mean they are never going to accept it. If they are being disrespectful to your trans woman at this point in time, then better keep her out of all this. But you should keep up the communication with your family from your side.

You have to be adept at the art of convincing. Many people who are completely against something the first time they hear of it change their thinking down the line. This is the way human psychology works. So, you just have to be patient with your family.

If nothing else works, just leave it on time. Time can do wonders to a situation. After a certain point, they will realize that what exists between you and your trans lady is indeed true love. They tried their best to dissuade you from dating her but that didn’t work. Your relationship became even stronger with time and despite all societal disapproval. So, your friends and family would eventually realize that nothing can separate the two of you. They might be hesitant of outrightly declaring it because of ego issues but they will slowly accept your relationship.

So, you have to constantly do a balancing act between your trans lady love and your family. You have made it clear to them that they cannot disrespect her. But you still have to keep the channels of communication open.

Trans girl dating is new terrain for most cis men.  Most of them have probably never ever thought of dating a trans woman as it isn’t something that fits into the typical societal Mould. And even if there are a few who are fascinated by the idea of dating a trans woman, they are scared of societal disapproval. Society is still very prejudiced against transgender people so they probably dismiss the idea thinking it’s not worth the risk.

But most men don’t have an idea about what they are missing on. Love with a transgender woman is a euphoric experience. It’s something that leaves you utterly hypnotized and transports you to a different land altogether! If you have only dated cis women, you have just touched the tip of the iceberg. The kind of passion and raw emotion that a trans woman can bring into the art of lovemaking, a cis woman can’t even get anywhere near that.

Dating a trans woman is like exploring an altogether new dimension of the universe.  And for those who don’t judge people on the basis of silly societal norms, it’s a great way to meet an amazing and beautiful woman who values her femininity to such a great extent. The whole idea of making love to somebody whom society technically doesn’t allow you to date is such a novel one in itself.  It is a rather sublime and beautiful transgression. And if you have the courage and guts to make this transgression, then the rewards will be great.

These days you can easily meet a trans woman through a trans girl dating site or a dating site for transgender woman.  

Making love with trans women is surely an experience of a lifetime. But it is important to keep a few things in mind while making love with transgender females. If you follow these points, then your lovemaking would surely have the kind of passion and intensity that most couples can only dream of!.

There are two kinds of Transgender Women

Coming out as a trans woman is a different experience for everyone. Most choose to undergo medical transitioning while some skip it completely. Many trans women undergo certain medical procedures but not all. So basically, some trans women have had vaginoplasty while some haven't.

Vaginoplasty is a procedure that creates a surgically implanted vagina. Now, this surgically created vagina is fresh and might even feel better than the vagina of a cis woman.  So, this is something you have to keep in mind while making love to a trans woman, whether she has had Vaginoplasty or not.

With the trans woman who has had vaginoplasty, your sexual experience would be quite similar to the one with cis women. When you stimulate her vagina in the act of foreplay and intercourse, it would give you the same pleasure as the vagina of a cis woman. However, in the case of trans women who don’t have a vagina, the entire experience of lovemaking is different. So, it might not be for you if you like lovemaking to be somewhat conventional in a heterosexual way. You would enjoy making love to a trans woman without a vagina if you are bisexual. Of course, even if you are not bisexual, you can still enjoy the whole experience if you are open to trying out new things. If you are the kind of guy who has a fantasy about anal sex, then this is your best chance. And the amazing thing is you are having anal sex with a woman. Even if the trans woman doesn’t have a vagina, she is still a woman so the whole experience is within the matrix of a man and a woman making love. You can meet a different kind of trans women through various trans woman dating sites or transgender dating websites.

You have to take the Lead

The stereotypes about trans women being masculine and aggressive are well, basically just stereotypes. That’s why many guys have this misconception that in lovemaking, it’s the trans woman who calls the shots and the guy is generally in the submissive position. This is just not true.

When you actually meet a trans woman through a transgender dating site, you will realize that she can be incredibly shy. In fact, it is advisable that while dating a trans woman, a guy should make the first move. Trans women have all those super feminine fantasies of her sexy, muscular guy holding her and taking her to the bedroom. She wants her man to take the lead. So, in that sense, she is quite similar to a cis woman. While making love to a trans woman, you also have to be very gentle as she still might be in the process of getting used to her new vagina.

Trans Women have Stunning Bodies

This is a big advantage when it comes to making love with trans females. She has a stunning body that is way more well-proportioned than the body of an average cis woman. So, it’s good to take her stunning body into account while you are ready to make love to her!

A well-sculpted, beautiful physique is not just great from an aesthetic point of view while lovemaking but it also increases your chances of being able to try out new positions while having sex. Your trans female with her gorgeous and super flexible body makes it a pleasure for you to navigate different positions and undertake some novel experiments in lovemaking!

Do not expect her to jump into bed just Because she is a Trans Woman

Now, there are many stereotypes surrounding transsexual people. And most of these stereotypes are just terrible manifestations of society’s general bigotry towards trans people. So, when you are dating a trans woman through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, do not judge her by any of these stereotypes.

For deciding when is the right time to ask a trans woman to take your relationship to the next level that is make it physical, follow the same rules that you do with cis women. Just because she is a trans woman, that doesn’t mean she is some kind of exotic kink to satiate your perversions. She is a woman like any other and you cannot presume things about her just because she is trans.

If you’ve met her through a trans dating site and you guys are out together for your first date, please do not straightaway announce that you want to sleep with her unless you get some very strong indication from her side that she is looking for some fun. She is a beautiful woman so treat her with the dignity that every woman deserves. Get to know her first and after a couple of dates when you feel that there is strong mutual attraction, make the move only then.

Lovemaking with a Trans Woman can be quite a Passionate Affair

Now you might say this can be true for any love affair where two people have great chemistry. But that’s just not the case, when you are making love to a cis woman, there is a certain frigidity about her that doesn’t allow her to open up completely. Your lovemaking might tick all the boxes technically but when it comes to passion, she is just not able to show you her wild side 100 percent because there is a certain hesitancy on her part.

With a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating site, you can be assured that there would be no such hesitancy. When you go out with her on a date, she will be all feminine and ladylike. And when it comes to lovemaking, she would certainly expect you to make the first move. But when the two of you are in the throes of lovemaking, you would get to see the wild, animal side of her.

When it comes to passion during lovemaking, no cis woman can get even dream of competing with what a trans woman is capable of. She is passion personified. So, when it comes to her sexual appetite in the process of lovemaking, you will be just left gasping for breath! That is the kind of ferocious intensity a trans woman is capable of.

Do not have any pre-conceived Notions about your Lovemaking

Just because she is a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating app, please do not harbour any pre-conceived notions about the kind of lovemaking that you guys will indulge in. Many men get influenced by whatever they see in transgender porn and they expect similar kind of stuff from a transgender female in reality.

If that is your intention of dating her, then don’t even bother. She has a lot of attention already and she doesn’t give two hoots to anybody who wants to use her to satiate their fetish. If you date her, respect the boundaries. Do not ask her inappropriate questions about her body parts. And when it comes to lovemaking, just follow the approach that you would with any cis woman.

The basics are the same. Lots of foreplay so that sexual tension between the two of you begins to build up and then take things from there. Just go with the flow. Do not treat transgender porn as some kind of manual that teaches you how to make love with a trans woman. Infact, get trans porn out of your head completely. You got to know that in those videos, there is a well-rehearsed and staged fantasy act being put together and offered for public consumption. It’s not reality. So, when it comes to lovemaking with a trans woman, you just have to follow the basic real-life approach. Just feel the passion and go with the flow.

To many people, the idea of gender transitioning might seem like a bizarre one. Most people equate gender with the biological gender that is assigned to them at the time of birth. And they pretty much think this is the norm. But there are people who do not identify with the gender assigned to them at birth. While growing up, they might begin to experience Gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is basically a term for the feeling of acute distress caused in people when they do not identify with their birth gender. Such people are generally referred to as transgender or transsexual.

Although both the terms are often used interchangeably, there is a slight difference between the two. The term transsexual specifically refers to a person who undergoes a medical procedure to get reassigned to a different gender. That is, they undergo medical transitioning and get a new identity altogether including a new name, an i-card with their new photo, all that. So, for example, there is a person who was assigned female gender at the time of birth but they identify themselves as male. If such a person decides to undergo medical transitioning to be reassigned male gender, that person is transsexual. Transgender, on the other hand, is more of an umbrella term that includes all folks who do not quite identity with the gender assigned to them at birth time. A transgender person might also be gender fluid that is they might have a strong urge to switch from one gender to another whenever they wish. And not all transgender people who strongly identify with the other gender choose to have surgery.

There are so many stigmas attached to the transgender community in society because people see it as an aberration. And they view it as something abnormal because they don’t understand it. History tells us that something which is not understood by society is ridiculed and even censored. It is the same case with the identity of transgender people. But things are changing now. There is a lot more awareness around trans issues. So many transsexual dating sites and transgender dating websites have come up. There are specific websites for trans girl dating as well. There are online transgender forums where trans folks can interact with others like them. Societal apathy is still there but trans people have somewhat begun to get the kind of recognition and respect they deserve.

With so many free transgender dating sites, the mainstream community is certainly getting more open to the idea of accepting trans people. Unfortunately, there is a lot of violence and abuse still but things are changing.

Understanding the need for gender transitioning is very important in order to take this dialogue about trans people forward in a positive way.

There are certain aspects that need to be understood when it comes to understanding the acute need for gender transitioning in trans people.

Need for Gender Transitioning can be felt Anytime

There is no hard and fast rule for when to come out as a transgender. This totally depends on the person concerned and their particular experiences. Some people come out in their teenage years only and undergo medical transitioning quite early. There are others who might even be married and trying to lead a mainstream life. They still quite haven’t figured out the source of their distress and discomfort. And such people tend to come out as transgender quite late in life. And that is fine too.

It also depends on the family’s support to a great extent. People who are bought up in conservative families find it difficult to accept the fact that they are transgender to themselves only, leave alone the family. That is why they stay in a situation of conflict for a long time, trying to hide their real emotions and identity. It is only when it gets too much for them to handle that they come out in the open.

There are other practical considerations as well. If the family is not supportive, it is difficult to undergo medical transitioning. It is expensive and the person just might not be financially independent enough to take this decision himself.

The Person Transitioning Might or Might not Choose to Undergo Medical Procedure

This is a very important point to remember. Not all transgender people undergo medical transitioning. Some undertake Hormone Replacement Therapy and Testosterone. But they skip the top and bottom surgery altogether. There are others who skip medical procedure altogether and start coming out as their desired gender simply through dressing up and behaviour.

However, most people who come out as transgender eventually undertake some kind of medical treatment. Medical transitioning makes it easier for them to live as their desired gender in mainstream society. It is especially useful for transgender folks who are into dating heterosexual people of the opposite sex through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site.

Transitioning is aimed at making the transgender person’s life happy and fulfilling. Many transgender people want to get their gender officially changed in their id card and official documents. This is very helpful from the point of view of living a wholesome life after assuming their new gender identity. Having your gender identity officially affirmed in your documents also saves one from potential harassment at school, workplace, etc.

Transgender People Have an Awareness of their Gender Identity from an Early Age

Well, they might not come out in the open for various reasons. Or they might just be confused about what they are feeling. Since society doesn’t quite encourage what they are feeling, it’s just perhaps difficult for them to figure out what’s going on in their head. But generally speaking, transgender people start questioning their perceived biological gender identity from a very early age.

There might be very subtle signs of their identification with the other gender when they are children. And parents might or might not notice these signs. For example, someone who is born a female biologically might be more inclined towards boy’s clothing. They might just start crying for no reason when they are decked up in girly clothes. They might just hate their long hair. All these are very subtle signs of not identifying with one’s biological gender. As a person grows up, these signs become more pronounced and a person is able to better articulate their thoughts and feelings.

But it’s not a transgender person who gets a dream all of a sudden that they want to have a different gender identity. Perceiving it like that would reflect a rather shallow and myopic understanding of trans people. In a transgender person, there are often manifestations of discomfiture with one’s biological gender identity right from childhood. If you go through a transgender blog or conversations on a transgender forum, you would well understand that. There are many stories of trans people accessible online in which they are talking about their childhood experiences.

Transitioning can help with Dating and Relationships

Medical transitioning can literally be a blessing for the romantic life of a MTF Transgender woman or a FTM Transgender guy, especially if they are into dating people of the opposite sex. It can be an immense help for those transgender people who are looking at heterosexual relationships post transitioning through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site. Medical transitioning with the right grooming and makeup can make such a huge difference to the person’s appearance that many MTF transgender women can conveniently pass as cis women post transitioning.

In fact, these days there are many trans dating sites or transsexual dating sites where one can check out the profiles of various transgender men and women and date them. Through such sites, romantic liaisons and even serious relationships have blossomed between trans people and cis people. Medical transitioning can really help a transgender person in terms of looking for a partner. When their body image strongly conforms to their new gender identity, their level of confidence increases by multiple times. And they can be more proactive and forthcoming in the act of seeking a romantic partner.

Uncomfortable Questions about Transitioning are to be Avoided

Now, this is more for people who would like to date a transgender man or a woman. You got to realize that you are dating a person so you have to treat them like one. If you have met them through a trans dating site or a trans dating app, do not ask them uncomfortable questions about their gender identity or why they felt the need for transitioning. It is not an interview. It is a date. You are looking for a romantic partner so just get to know them as a person – their hobbies, interests and all that.

Remember transitioning is a personal choice for everyone. If you have decided to date a transgender person, you have to be prepared to respect the boundaries as well. Slowly as the relationship will develop and they feel close to you, they might share things with you on their own. Or they might not. That’s totally up to them. Gender transitioning is a very personal topic for each individual and even as a romantic partner; you cannot be too intrusive into this aspect of their life.

A FTM transgender guy is someone who is transitioning from female to male. People who are assigned female gender at birth but they strongly identity with the opposite gender are FTM transgender. They usually choose to undergo medical transition at some point in time. But there is no clear cute norm with regard to that. There are some who skip medical transitioning altogether.

Irrespective of whether they have undergone medical transitioning or not, it is very important for a FTM transgender guy that society perceives him as a man. If that does not happen, it can aggravate the feelings of gender dysphoria that already exist in him. And this is not good for his mental health. It is also important from a romantic point of view since sexuality is deeply connected to a person’s gender identity. So, if he wants to join a trans dating site or a FTM dating service, it is important that he is confident of his manly image.

For guys who choose to undergo the Hormone Replacement Therapy, it is relatively easier to pass off as a man. They usually get bi-weekly injections from the doctor. Besides, there are numerous other ways of getting injected with hormones; it can be through gels, patches and many other ways. Some FTM trans guys will also get testosterone treatment which will work on their faces in a way that gives them a more masculine appearance. It would also make their voices somewhat heavy and manly.

Then, there are some who would choose to go even a step further and undergo chest reconstruction surgery. This surgery specifically flattens out the chest area to give the chest a masculine appearance. Then, there is the bottom surgery performed in order to remove the vagina and create a penis for the transgender man.

However, there are some who choose not to have these treatments for certain reasons. And for such trans men, passing as a man in public might be a bit more challenging. Then most FTM trans guys start coming out even before medical transitioning. This is important because you can’t just wait for the treatment to show effects and then come out. You got to tell society that you are a guy even before.

The whole process of coming out as a man publicly can be quite intimidating for a FTM transgender guys. But with certain tips, you can conveniently pass as the guy that you already are.

Use a Binder

The biggest source of gender dysphoria in FTM transgender guys is the chest area unless they have had the top surgery, of course. So as a trans man, if you haven’t had the top surgery yet and want to flatten out your chest area, the best option for you is to buy a medical binder.

Medical chest binders are easily available online and come in many different styles. There are also plenty of commercial chest binders available in the market these days. It is important to buy the right size though. If you bind your chest using a binder that is a bit too small, it might create difficulties in breathing and you will end up having pain in your shoulders and back.

Trans men who don’t quite want to go for a medical binder can also bind their chest using a sports bra. In fact, using a sports bra is quite a safe way to bond your chest with minimal risk of side effects or injuries. Some FTM trans guys would also use layering to bind their chest using a shirt or bra layering.

However, according to experts, you should not wear binders for longer than 8-12 hours. Also, you should avoid sleeping while wearing your binder. It is also important to have a day off in between once in a while. You have to make sure that you aren’t binding everyday in order to avoid any side effects.

Following these tips, you can happily use a binder to flatten out your chest area. And this will certainly increase your confidence and make people notice you as a man when you are out there in public.

Make use of the Packing Technique

Now, packing is a technique that trans guys make use of to give the illusion of a penis. It basically involves putting something in your pants to mimic the appearance of the bulge created by male genitalia.

Packing is a great way to enhance the self-confidence of a FTM transgender guy who hasn’t had the bottom surgery as yet and increases his chances of passing as a man. After all, sexuality is a very important part of your new gender identity. So, it is natural that you want to simulate the whole experience of having male genitalia.

These days there are so many commercial packers available online. These packers come in different materials and varieties including silicone. And the best thing is they are more or fewer replicas of male genitalia. However, for a trans guy who is new to the whole experience of packing, it is best to try a simple technique first. He can just use a rolled-up sock and place it properly at the right spot inside his pants. It’s way cheaper than using a commercial packer and he can try it out and decide for himself if he likes the whole experience or not.

Learn to Project a Masculine Appearance

This is the key to passing as a male in society. With pro masculine body language, your chances of passing as a man increase dramatically.

The first step of building this masculine image of yours as a FTM trans man is to get used to wearing a man’s clothes. When it comes to clothing, everyone has a different approach that suits them. Some trans guys like to go with oversized clothing to get that super manly look. If you perhaps wear a shirt size larger than usual, your shoulders might look bigger and slightly bulkier. But there is no rule really. Well, fitted clothes can also give the impression of a chiseled, toned masculine body.

The important thing is to find men’s clothes that go with your personality and eventually develop your own style. Once you start getting used to male clothing, behaving as a man will also start coming naturally to you. You can also check out profiles of trans guys on transgender dating websites and see what they are wearing.

Now again, there is no manual really that can teach you how to behave like a man. You just have to closely observe men in public places – the way they walk, the way they sit, how they move their head while talking, the tone of their voice while they are speaking. You can also interact with other trans men through a transgender forum and take their advice.

To begin with, one thing that a FTM transgender guy can focus on is sitting. Generally speaking, men tend to literally spread their legs wide apart while sitting. They sit in a very authoritarian position taking up a lot of space with legs as wide as possible. So, this is something that you can begin practicing as a trans man. It is easy to remember and also simple to practice.

Do not feel compelled to fit into a Box

As a FTM transgender guy, the way you want to protect yourself is totally your call. It depends on your personality and orientation. Many trans men have fluid general identities, that is they are Pansexual. Now Pan Sexuality can be defined as a sexual or romantic attraction towards anybody irrespective of their gender identity.  So, if you classify yourself as a pansexual trans guy, then you lay down your own rules. You don’t necessarily need to then get into the entire masculine discourse of heterosexuality.

A FTM trans guy can also prefer to date gay men. Or he may prefer to go the cis guy way, dating heterosexual women through a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app. So, one has to understand that even as a FTM transgender guy, one can have fluid gender identities and that’s totally cool. The way a trans man wants to project himself is totally his call. He might just want to meet single women through FTM trans dating site or a transgender dating app or he might just want to date gay men.

Get Inspired from the Lives of Well-Known Trans Men

There are so many trans men icons who have fought societal prejudices and stereotypes to emerge a winner and live a successful and fulfilling life. If you want happiness, you have to go through the grind and find it out. You just can’t run away from problems and struggles. A FTM transgender man can take inspiration from the lives of famous and successful trans men. This will do wonders to his own image as a trans man and show him the way forward. You can go through a transgender blog to gain insight into the lives of famous trans men.

So many movies have been made about the lives of trans men. There are also movies starring trans men. Most of these movies depict the problems faced by transgender youth. These offer a realistic peep into the world of trans men.

There was the iconic movie ‘Becoming Chaz’ that was released in 2011. This movie was based on the life of Chaz Bono, the son of Cher, who has also penned down a book on his multiple experiences as a transgender man.

Then there is the 1999 movie ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ based on the life story of Brandon Teena, a young trans man who was murdered in 1993.  And it’s so important to mention the contribution made by the legendary Buck Angle in the field of trans awareness. He is a filmmaker, speaker and advocate. He also stars in a documentary made about his own life.

Then there are other famous movies incorporating trans issues such as Just (2002), Call me Kade, Boy I Am (2006) and About Ray (2015).

As a trans man, it is very important to know all about various issues faced by transgender folks and how so many trans heroes have fought out these issues. As a FTM trans guy, you can also join an online transgender forum and communicate with other trans men.

All this will increase your awareness of trans issues and strengthen your identity as a trans man. Knowing that there are so many like you who have fought societal prejudices and emerged a winner, you will no longer be afraid to live out your identity.

As a MTF trans woman, one feels like they have gotten a new lease of life after sex reassignment surgery. It is a precious phase in a trans woman’s life. Her mind is undergoing a heady cocktail of diverse and confusing emotions and her heart is in a state of flurry. She is perhaps looking forward to joining a trans dating site or a transsexual dating site to look for the love of her life. She is definitely on cloud nine. But she is also somewhat anxious. A trans woman is anxious because she wants to be the best possible feminine version of herself. And sometimes she doesn’t quite know how to go about it. She has had a hard time literally battling for her identity. And now although she has come out in flying colours, there are things and aspects about being a woman she must learn. And in the process, she has to undo a lot of unconscious behavioural traits and characteristics that she has gotten so used to because of her past identity.

Being an elegant woman is not just about makeup, fashionable clothes, footwear, jewellery and accessories though. Femininity is a way more complex concept that takes time to understand and master. Of course, being super well-groomed and dressing like a woman is the first step towards cracking the femininity code. But just getting the feminine look right isn’t enough. A trans woman needs to internalize the body language of a woman, she needs to assimilate the essence of femininity at a rather subconscious level and that’s the challenging part.

But it’s not impossible. Following the right tips and suggestions, she can certainly grasp the essence of femininity and apply it to her own life. This article lists out a couple of points that a trans woman should keep in her mind during her journey towards embracing femininity.

Understand Femininity

Femininity has some tangible and some intangible aspects. Now, the tangible aspects are easy to crack. As a trans woman, you start wearing the right clothes that suit your body type and accentuate your femininity. You keep an eye on all the latest trends through fashion magazines and regularly check out your local women’s apparel stores. You learn the art of applying makeup and also master the craft of creating the right look by adding the right accessories to any given outfit. All these things you can learn. But the difficult part of femininity is the intangible aspects. And unless you have cracked those, it’s only half the battle won.

A woman is beautiful not because she has the right makeup on or because she is dressed up perfectly. She is beautiful because she feels beautiful. Even when she has just woken up, there is such a soft allure to her body and facial expressions that it can melt the heart of even the toughest of guys. Even while she is casually sipping her morning coffee and there is not a trace of makeup on her face, her smile can light up an entire room. Her beautiful tresses falling carelessly on her forehead can inspire poets and artists to madness. When she lifts up her head and looks at someone, she is loveliness personified. This is the essence of femininity that a trans woman has to imbibe. She has to feel from the core of her heart that she is feminine and beautiful. And then her entire being will begin to radiate with the aura of femininity.

Embrace the hidden Values of Femininity

Femininity is also about a lot of values that make the world a beautiful place to live in. Kindness, compassion, mercy, all these are feminine values. A trans woman seeking to appear more feminine should also learn to imbibe these hidden values of femininity in her day-to-day behaviour.

Let’s try to understand this through an example. A trans woman has met a potential love interest through a trans dating app or a trans woman dating site. She goes out on a date with that person. They go to some café and the waiter spills the food on her dress by mistake. This is of course an awful thing to happen but how she handles the situation will tell a great deal about her femininity. Now she can respond to the same situation in different ways. She can either shout at the top of her voice and abuse the waiter. Or she can take control of herself, appear calm and dignified and tell the waiter politely but firmly that it’s ok but he should be careful in future. Which of these two reactions would make her appear more feminine? Obviously, the latter one and her date would be impressed with her femininity and gentle behaviour as well.

There is no manual that can teach you how to understand these hidden values of femininity. You just learn along as you go deeper into your journey of embracing femininity. Just remember that kindness and compassion are eternally beautiful qualities that only a true woman is capable of.

Adopt Feminine Grace in Your Movements and Voice

This is something you can actually learn as a trans woman. You can go through a transgender blog or join a transgender forum where you can learn from other trans women the art of adding feminine grace to your bodily movements. You could even consider joining a grooming class where the basics of feminine body movements are taught. If you can’t find such a class in your local area, you could always try and find a virtual one.

The first thing that a trans woman has to learn about feminine body movements is that she has to learn the art of restraining her body movement. So, if you just barge into a room, it won’t appear very nice and feminine. On the contrary, if you walk as if you are just sliding effortlessly, your feminine aura and grace would be just noticed by everybody. There is a certain delicate rhythm in feminine body movements. A woman doesn’t just fall into a chair. She sits down gently and gracefully. Similarly, when she walks, her body movements have a graceful, almost effortless rhythm. She never sits with her legs apart. That’s one golden rule to follow. You should always sit with legs as close together as possible in order to appear more feminine.

A trans woman who has just gotten a date through a transgender dating site is also concerned about her voice. It’s natural that she wants to sound feminine and all but it’s not so easy to discard her old voice. There are specific voice training classes that a trans woman can attend where she will basically be taught tips and tricks on modulating her voice in a way that would make it sound softer and feminine. She can also consider practising singing. Singing wonderfully opens up the vocal cords and once you start singing the higher up notes, that feminine, sweet clear voice would just come to you naturally.

You can also practice your feminine speech with a friend. And it really helps if that friend is honest and they give you the right kind of criticism so that you can improve. You can also consider practising your feminine voice in front of a mirror or even with your phone selfie camera. This would also make your body language more confident and you would also learn to project the right facial expressions while practising feminine voice.

A Woman’s Handbag speaks a lot about her Femininity

A handbag is a very important accessory for a woman. You would rarely spot a woman without a stylish and ultra-chic handbag. So, if you are coming out as a transgender woman, do spend on a collection of cool handbags. Your handbag should mirror your femininity but you shouldn’t go overboard with experimentation, at least at the initial stage. It’s best to start with classic and chic handbags in solid colours. As you get used to carrying one, you can get more experimental with your choice of a handbag!

For a trans woman who has just started dating someone through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, it is very important to perfect the right look. Makeup, clothes and accessories can help her ace that looks. But the look is incomplete without the right handbag. The contents of a trans woman’s handbag are equally important. A lady’s handbag is a reflection of her femininity. If all items are arranged neatly within the handbag, it tells one a great deal about her aesthetic sense and neatness. On the contrary, if her handbag is shabby with all sorts of things literally spilling into each other, it speaks of an untidy and slovenly disposition.

Some ‘must include’ items in a woman’s handbag are hand sanitiser, lipstick or lip gloss, facial mist or facial wipes, deodorant, a compact mirror, feminine hygiene products (tampon), safety pins, a notebook and a pen and last but not the least, some cash.