How to Attract a Transgender Woman from Serenity's blog

Attracting a woman is no mean feat. It is literally an art form that requires patience, perseverance and dedication. No matter how good looking you are, a woman isn’t just going to fall head over heels in love with you on the first date. It doesn’t work like that! And when it comes to attracting a transgender woman, you need to work even harder.

A trans woman has often been at the receiving end of societal discrimination and hatred. So, it is but natural that she is extra cautious when it comes to evaluating men. When you begin chatting with her through a transgender dating site, make sure that you take it slow and steady. You have to win her confidence gradually.

In trans girl dating, it is important to follow a certain code of conduct. You need to keep a couple of things in mind while communicating with her and taking things forward. With the right attitude and approach, you can certainly attract a trans woman. This article lists a few tips that would help you impress your date and create the foundation of a beautiful and everlasting relationship.

Pay Her Genuine Compliments

All women love compliments. So, if you want to impress your trans woman, make sure you notice the minutest of things about her and pay her genuine compliments. Even while you chatting with her on a transgender dating site, comment on her positive attributes. Compliments about looks and physical beauty are the obvious ones but she will be even more impressed if you compliment her on her personality traits. It could be anything; her empathy, her communication skills, her confidence or even her general knowledge. If you notice little things about her personality and compliment her on those, she would appreciate that you are taking a genuine interest in her entire being. And that will definitely increase your appeal in her eyes manifold.

But you have to make sure that the compliments are genuine and heartfelt. If you literally bombard her with over the top, generic compliments, she would be able to see through your fakeness. So be attentive to her entire personality. If you are out on a date with her, notice how she is wearing her hair, what her dress is like, if she is wearing any jewellery. Women just love it when their men notice those little details. Compliment her on the way that particular lock of hair falls on her forehead and she would love it.

Be the Good, Old-Fashioned Gentleman

A trans woman is a super sensitive and well-groomed lady who truly values good social etiquette and behaviour. So, when you are out on a date with her, be a thorough gentleman. And it’s not just about how you behave with her. The greatest giveaway of a person’s character is the way he behaves with those socially inferior to him. So, make sure that you act courteous and polite with the staff if you are dating her in a café or a restaurant.

At the end of the day, good old chivalries never go out of fashion. Draw out that chair for her, hold open that door for her and just generally be courteous and make sure she is comfortable when the two of you are out on a date. In trans woman dating, it is these little gestures that matter.

Also, remember to be punctual. Punctuality might sound like an obvious thing but it can literally make or break a relationship. Just imagine meeting a trans woman for the first date and turning up half an hour later! No matter how far you had to travel or what kind of horrendous traffic jams you were stuck in, she is probably just going to walk off in anger. So, turn up 10 minutes before time but never later than the scheduled time.

Be Sensitive About Her Identity

Now, this is the most important factor in trans woman dating. Many trans women are scared of dating cis guys because these guys are only interested in her ‘trans’ identity. They are rude, insensitive and ask her uncomfortable questions about her transitioning. Please do not be that guy if you are looking for a serious, long-term relationship with a transgender woman.

There are some boundaries that you have to observe while dating her. Do not get obsessed with her ‘trans’ identity and make it the sole topic of conversation during your date. Just remember that she is a woman like any other, she is an individual with a unique aura and personality. So, try to connect with that individual. Build a conversation around her hobbies, interests, likes and all that. It’s just like you would talk to any other individual. Don’t exoticize her or put her in a special bracket just because she is a trans woman.

Even if you’ve been dating her for a while, it’s still not cool to ask her probing questions about transitioning or her body parts. If there is something she feels you should know, she would communicate on her own when the right time comes. But do not pester her with insensitive questions surrounding her identity.

A trans woman is super sensitive about her identity. And this is understandable considering the complex emotional and physical journey she has undergone to embrace that identity. She expects her partner to be with her in that journey and support her unconditionally. If you are sensitive about her identity, you would certainly find a solid place in her heart fairly soon.

Impress Her by Planning a Unique Date!

A transgender woman loves it when the guy takes a lead in planning out things. When you are well past the initial phase of communicating with her through a transgender dating site, it’s time to plan out an awesome first date.

Most guys don’t invest too much time or energy in planning out a date. They just seem to think that taking a woman out to any fancy restaurant, bar or café would do the trick. Well, this certainly won’t impress your trans woman. She is a creative individual whose head is buzzing with all sorts of ideas. It is therefore only natural that she expects her man to plan an ‘out of the box’ date.

So, take note of her hobbies and interests. Do some research on what all dates you can plan that incorporate those interests and then fix up something accordingly. If she is passionate about a certain kind of music, make sure you take her out somewhere where there is a live band playing that kind of stuff. That would certainly impress her. Or if she is into art, surprise her by taking her to one of the most happening art exhibitions of the town and then wrap up the date in style with a romantic meal at an artsy café.

Everybody loves a bit of surprise and unpredictability. That’s a natural human trait. And a trans woman has seen so much in life that she knows the importance of valuing somebody who makes a genuine effort to connect with her. So, if you spend time and energy creatively planning out your first date, you might just end up being her knight in shining armour.

Stand Up for Her

This is the most important factor to consider if you really want to win the love and respect of your trans woman. The most important criterion she looks for in a guy is that he should be able to stand up for her. You have to realize that it’s not easy to date a trans woman. When your dating gets serious, your own family might not approve of the relationship. Your friends and relatives might just disrespect her. You have to be prepared to stand firmly by her side in all those kinds of scenarios. You have to be mentally prepared to firmly tell your own family that they cannot disrespect your lady love.

When you are communicating with her on a transgender dating site, it’s just the beginning. Then you start going out on dates with her. When it starts getting intense and serious, that’s when she needs your unconditional mental support. And it’s not just about your friends and family disapproving of her. You have to take up her cause in front of the entire society if the need be.  When you are out with her in a public place and someone disrespects her because of her trans identity, you are not supposed to sit quietly. She expects you to stand up for her self-respect and identity and tell off that person.

Looks, charm, physical attractiveness, all these things are surface. What a trans woman is really looking for is a genuine man with a heart of gold. She is looking for a guy who will never let her down, no matter what. So, if you give her ample reason to believe you are that guy, you would certainly be able to attract her and win her love and respect.