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Society has now certainly become more open and receptive to the idea of people being different. But a transgender person still faces social stigma and discrimination. People would turn the transgender person into a fetish, treat them like a subject of enquiry and be fascinated by them in a very morbid, inhumane sort of way. But there still are very few people who would consider dating a transgender woman.

If you are one of those unique and courageous men who have decided to step into the intimate world of a transgender woman, it is important for you to know what impresses her and what does not. Just like every cis woman, a transgender woman admires an honest, truthful and chivalrous man. Chivalry never gets out of fashion. But there are certain things about which you have to be extra careful while trying to impress a transgender woman.

There are certain tips you can follow. And if you do manage to ace these tips, the transgender woman you have been admiring from a distance will certainly welcome you into her beautiful and feminine world.

Compliment her Frequently

There isn’t a woman in the universe who doesn’t love a genuine, heartfelt compliment. Just looking at her with eyes full of admiration is not enough. Women like it when men notice the minutest things about them and pay them a compliment. It could be about her hair, her smile, her eyes or even her wit and intelligence.

Even if you are just talking to a transgender woman on a dating site, pay her few compliments every now and then. This would certainly take things forward and build up interest from her side.

A transgender woman is an emotional creature. She is twice as likely to think about a man who compliments her appearance and mannerisms than the guy who just strikes a straightforward conversation.

When you compliment a woman, it is like giving her a signal that you notice everything about her. And that you admire her. A woman needs affirmation from your side before she starts opening up herself. It might sound clichéd but that is how it generally works. When a lady is confident that a man is genuinely interested in her, that’s when she too starts showing interest.

Be Creative with Your Plans

It is certainly not easy to impress a transgender woman. You have been chatting with her for a while on a trans dating site. It’s going good and now, you’d like to ask her out. Before you do so, have it all figured out as to where can you take her, how will you make your first date special and all that.

A transgender woman is independent and confident. She has faced a lot of challenges in her life and therefore, she admires a smart man who can interest and impress her with his dynamic personality and firebrand soul.

So, you can’t take her out just anywhere. Find out in advance what activities she enjoys and then surprise her with a date that involves all those activities. Incorporate something quirky and eccentric into your date. For example, if she is passionate about books, take her to a stunning library before you take her to other places. Or if she loves outdoors, surprise her with a fun date planned on those lines.

She will certainly more than notice the efforts you have taken in getting to know her hobbies and interests and planning a date for her accordingly. Not everyone would do that for a transgender woman, or for any woman for that matter. Most of the guys would just do the stock cafe/bar /pub outing scenario. Only a guy who is genuinely interested in her would do what you are doing.

Do not get Obsessed with her ‘Trans’ Identity

You are dating a transgender woman perhaps for the first time. Maybe, it’s a new experience for you so it’s natural that you have many questions about her life trajectory, her struggles and all that. But you have to save those questions for a later time or better still, not ask them at all.

You have to treat her the way you would treat a cis woman. Her transgender identity doesn’t make her peculiar in any way. You talk to her like you would with a woman and then if you guys do go out on a date, just get to know her as a person. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her views on life, what she likes doing, what are her hobbies.

Your transgender woman should not feel that it is not a date but an interview. It is extremely rude and disrespectful to bombard her with questions related to her identity and transitioning when you guys are out on a date. These things come much later. Suppose you two really get along well and end up in a relationship, then maybe you can ask her some things. But even then, it is entirely her prerogative to entertain your questions or skip those.

You have to understand that just because you are dating a transgender person, that doesn’t entitle you to treat them like an object of enquiry. You are not a journalist out on an assignment interviewing a transgender woman. You are a man falling in love with her, looking forward to being in a relationship with her. So, treat her with utmost respect and dignity.

Punctuality is Important

The first impression is indeed the last impression. Everything seems to be perfect. You have chosen the right place for your first date. You are looking forward to some great moments. But you are, let’s say 20 minutes late for the date.

Maybe, 20 minutes delay is not a big deal by your personal standards. But your transgender woman is punctual and she came on time. Just imagine a woman waiting for you for 20 minutes on a date. What kind of impression it would create? In all probability, she would never want to see you again.

Punctuality is very important when it comes to impressing a transgender woman, or any woman for that matter.

So, learn the value of punctuality. If you have a date planned, reach the venue even 10 minutes before the scheduled time. Just try and imagine an alternative scenario for your 1st date. When your transgender woman arrives at the café and sees you sitting there with a patient and alluring smile, she will be perhaps thinking, ‘this guy is worth it after all’. She will think so because you arrived before time. For her, it is a signal that she is important to you. Just remember, for women, it is these little things that matter.

A Gentleman Never Goes out of Fashion

Women across all times and epochs and ages respect and admire a gentleman. It is no different for a transgender woman. If you want to win her respect, admiration and eventually love, you have to be a thorough gentleman.

You cannot put up a façade of being a gentleman. It’s something that ingrained in your very being and reflects your basic values and thought system. You have to be nice and courteous to her. That goes without saying. But the gentlemanly code of conduct extends to all fellow human beings. You have to be compassionate to everyone around you.

One sure-shot way of figuring out a person’s true character is by observing how they behave with people who are below them on the social ladder. When you take out your transgender woman to a restaurant on a date, she would keenly observe how you communicate with the waiters and the serving staff. If you are not a gentleman, you will manage to put up a façade in front of her. But when it comes to your behaviour with people who are serving you, it will be outright rude and disrespectful. Your mask will fall off and your true character will be revealed.

On the contrary, if you are polite and courteous with people who are serving you at a restaurant and you go out of your way to help out people and make them feel comfortable, your lady will be impressed.

A transgender woman has a heart of gold. And she wants to see the same kind of compassion reflected in her man’s actions.

Then, there are some basic etiquettes of dating like a gentleman that you need to adhere to. If you are going on a date with her for the first time, you should pay the bills. It will be rude of you to expect her to split the bill on the first date itself, especially if you are the one who asked out.

However, on subsequent dates, the two of you can certainly build an arrangement for splitting the bills that suits you and your partner alike.

And finally, remember the good old chivalrous things. Offer to help her with her bags while the two of you are walking. Open the doors for her, draw out that chair for her. It’s not that she cannot carry her own bags or she needs your Favour constantly. It’s just that as a woman, she feels special and loved if her man constantly shows that he cares so much for her.

It had been quite an excruciating experience in the dating world, faced with disappointments and heartaches. But I decided not to give up on my journey of finding my soulmate. I wanted to try something new and have a unique experience; you never know love comes when you least expect it.

I signed for a transgender dating site and immediately downloaded its trans dating app. I spiced up my dating profile and found this beautiful, blonde-haired attractive, and charming trans woman. Our first date was a romantic candlelit dinner in a fancy restaurant. I have learned over time that first impressions do matter, and you should have seen me. I was dressed to kill, ready to meet my perfect match. I was too excited and nervous to meet her.

As my date walked in, I was astonished as she looked way too beautiful than in pictures. We immediately clicked, we had interesting talks on various topics, the table was filled with laughter and endless giggles. It was quite a fulfilling night, way much than I expected. As time went by, I came to fall in love with her and understand her more. I now understood why many men had hitches when dating a trans woman. Here are some ways to help you be a better partner to your trans girlfriend and even nail dating a trans woman if it's your first time.

Develop interesting conversational topics

Before going to my first date, I remember to myself I would not under any circumstance ask my partner about her sexuality or her transitioning journey unless she brings it up herself. I imagined going to the first date and my sexuality is brought up; it would make me uncomfortable.

When dating a trans woman, try as much as possible to avoid talking about their sexuality or gender reassignment. Everyone goes through a different life journey, and you don't know what wound your partner is trying to heal from. The only time you can speak on their sexuality is when they allow you to. If you have any lingering questions as you continue knowing each other, bring them up in a sensitive, caring, and polite way.

You can talk about various things on your dates and physical activities, and you can talk about each other hobbies and interests.

Be Yourself on the First Date

When going on your first date, you know how you are incredibly nervous to the point you are afraid of talking or being yourself. One thing I have realized when going to date be yourself. Try as much as possible to steer up a conversation to avoid pauses that will make your partner feel cautious about themselves.

If you are a chatty individual naturally, don't shy away from talking. The same applies if you don't like chatting a lot, try as much as you can to have a conversation. Usually, the body language and talking pattern can help one identify if you are comfortable or not. You don't want your date to feel uncomfortable by how you relate and talk to them.

Be Courteous

The transgender community has had its rough times in society. You've heard cases of discrimination, abuse, and violence meted on the trans community and LGBTQIA as a whole. These make them very cautious of anyone who wants to be around them. Any politeness and kindness go a long way.

When with your partner, be a gentleman and make her comfortable. Even when visiting friends or family, make sure they deal with her politely and with kindness. Please don't insist on bringing her around people who make her feel uncomfortable or self-cautious. You need to protect your lady.

She is not your Sexual Fantasy

I can't say this enough, dating a trans woman is like dating any other woman. When registering in an MTF dating site, find your soulmate, and not fulfill your insatiable sexual fantasy.

7 out of 10 trans women will tell you they get weird sexual advances to form straight guys in their trans dating site message section.

Understand your partner's sexuality

There is always this confusion that since trans women are part of the LGQBTIA community, they are gay. This is not the case; a transgender person is born with either male or female sexual organs and features and decides to change into another gender. When dating a trans woman, understand that she is a trans woman, don't confuse her for a gay man, make this clear with everyone around you if they may not have this understanding.

When dating a trans woman, you are still a straight man; it doesn't make you a member of the LGBTQIA community, though it doesn't hurt to be one either.

Being a trans doesn't define a person

Please get to know your date first before jumping to conclusions based on their gender transitioning. Most trans women are scared of being dumped on the first date because they opened up about their gender. Interact with your date and get to know and understand their extraordinary personality.

In case they open up, please don't turn the date into a Q & A session to fulfill your trans research. No one would appreciate ifs a stranger turns their life into google. You are allowed to be curious, but not annoyingly and uncomfortably.

Don't keep your trans partner a secret

Not everyone will get why you are dating a trans woman. It's not the public opinion you are after. It's all about you and your partner and how you love and care for each other. Go out on dates with her, hold her hand while walking, have fun stuff to do outdoors that other couples do. Hang out with other teams, and doing all these will make your partner feel like you genuinely care for their happiness, and you are not afraid to show them off to the world.

Don't be afraid to take your relationship to the next level in fear of your family's say about your partner.

Treat a trans woman with the same respect you have for other ladies

Recently, I asked a straight guy friend of mine if he can opt to date a trans woman. The guy told me that "His toxic masculinity can only be handled by a girly girl who is a real submissive woman and not a trans woman." I was left wondering why men are viewing trans women with less respect as opposed to other ladies. Trans women have feelings too. They are someone else's sisters, wives, mothers, and friends. I bet you wouldn't like it if your sister gets disrespected just because they are trans. They face discrimination violence, and it would be best if they have a peaceful and respectful environment around them.

Another guy said, "A trans woman is masculine like and can end up beating me like a guy" This is a wrong view of the trans women world. Just like other ladies, they are soft and tender towards the male gender. Society needs to change its' perspective on trans gender people.

Not all trans women are the same

Imagine if your date stood you up because you have the same hairstyle as his ex. That’s messed up because no one is the same as the other. We are all different in one way or another. And that applies to trans women too. They might have gone under the same procedure to get to where they are now, but that doesn’t make them the same.

They have different bodies and personalities. Please don’t go around viewing one trans woman the same as another who wronged you. Get to know them before hating on them all. And don’t assume that they all have the same body structure because all are trans. The way you view a trans is not the exact way your friend will view them.

Respect a trans woman decision

Transitioning to their preferred gender is already a decision that they have to live with all their lives. You don’t need to question why they did the procedure or why they are the way they are. It takes courage and high self-esteem for one to make such life-changing steps and all they will need after is support from their partners and loved ones.

Give them a reason to believe that they made the right decision. Please don’t make their lives hard or regretful. I know you’d hate for someone to mess up with your life.

Transgender dating is exciting, and it's pretty much like any other kind of dating; nothing so special about it. It is one thrill that has to be experienced to be understood. Trans women will rock your world and will give you a new experience. The only thing that a man starting on this journey of trans dating has to do is show up with a pleasant disposition to the date, have an open mind, and look for love. It is simple, uncomplicated, and beautiful.

As a FTM transgender man, you make so many efforts to look masculine and incorporate male behavioural patterns in your body language and communication. You pay extra attention to your wardrobe and the way you carry your clothes. Most FTM trans guys also take the Hormone Replacement Therapy in order to develop the physical attributes of manliness. But there is one area which might not seem like a dead giveaway but nevertheless, it is something that makes you conscious as a trans man. This is the crotch area. Since as a FTM trans guy, you do not possess the private parts of the male gender, this can impact your self-image and make you question your masculinity.

In order to overcome this discomfort, many trans guys resort to packing. Simply put, packing is the process of artificially creating a male-like bulge in the crotch area. It is a technique that simulates the crotch area of a man using various devices and aids. Packing is especially beneficial for those FTM transgender guys who haven’t undergone gender reassignment surgery.

Packers are available in different varieties, sizes, and price ranges. From the simplest of packers that literally just help create that bulge in your crotch area to more advanced ones that simulate the male reproductive organs with absolute dexterity, there is a wide variety of those available.

Although one has to understand than not all FTM trans men feel the need to pack. Some don’t feel the need for it at all, as the supposed absence of manliness in their nether regions doesn’t bother them. It does not affect their identity. But there are others to whom this can be a source of acute discomfort and anxiety. It is a part of gender dysphoria, also known as bottom dysphoria.

Many Transgender guys also choose to pack because it increases their chances of passing off as a man in public places and saves them from potential harassment. You might think that nobody really stares hard at your crotch area in a public place but if you are wearing tight trousers or fitted exercise lowers, the absence of a bulge can be obvious. Some people might choose to ignore even if they notice. But if someone creates an issue out of it, it can be embarrassing and also become a safety concern. Society is very prejudiced against transgender people. And it looks for opportunities to bully and trouble them. For many trans men, packing saves them from that potential harassment and sometimes even violence and abuse.

There is such a mind-boggling variety of packers available in the market that it is difficult to figure out which one to buy and where to start. This article gives you a couple of tips on how to pack as a transgender man.

Start Packing with a Sock

This is useful for trans men who want to pack but are not quite sure if it’s the right thing for them. Before buying a packer, you can actually start packing using a sock. This is a fairly common method in the trans community. It is inexpensive, easy to implement and you don’t have to worry about any side effects or skin infection.

Packing with a sock simply involves folding the sock in a certain way and placing it strategically inside your underwear so that a male-like bulge can be created. There are many tutorials available on how to pack with a sock online. You can do some research and check out with a transgender blog that talks about packing with socks.

Although this won’t give you a realistic-looking bulge in terms of resemblance but it’s a great way to start. Moreover, nobody really notices these things that carefully. If you check out the nether regions of a cis guy who is wearing jeans or trousers, you can just make out that there is a little bit of bulge. You do not really see the outline of the male reproductive organs as such.

Once you start packing with a sock, you will soon find out if packing is for you at all. And then once you are comfortable, you can ready yourself for buying a commercial packer.

Figure out Your Needs and Budget before Buying a Packer

There are so many different kinds of packers available in the market. It is important to figure out your specific needs and preferences before investing in one. Budget too is an important factor. Silicone packers are considered the best if you want a hyper-realistic packer that simulates the male genitalia with perfection. Silicone packers are considered the safest for prolonged skin contact. But again, the flip side is that these are generally quite expensive.

Then, there are foam packers which might be great for FTM transgender men who just want a manly-looking bulge without the look of a penis. The foam packer is pretty lightweight. It is also a good option for those who might be allergic to silicone.

As a FTM transgender guy, you also need to figure out the exact purpose of buying a packer. Do you just need it in the public or is it something you need for sexual pleasure as well? The kind of packing that you generally do for outdoors like when you are in a gym or a public place is known as soft packing. However, if you need packing specifically from the point of view of physical pleasure during lovemaking, hard packing will be your thing. Hard packing would incorporate something like a dildo or another prosthetic device that would be upright and erect.

While a hard packer is great for your love life, it would be awkward to wear one for daily use. You would just attract unwanted stares and attention in a public place if you sport one. So the best is to just use a soft packer on a daily basis and keep the hard one reserved for your lovemaking sessions. Also, hard packing can cause irritation in your private parts, so keep all that into account before buying one.

Then, there are STP Packers which can be especially useful for a FTM transgender guy as these will help you urinate while standing like a man. However, you need some practice before using this kind of packer. It can be awkward at first but you will soon get used to it.

You can interact with other trans men through a transgender forum and figure out which packer works best for them. Packing is an important part of your masculine identity and you shouldn’t be shy or embarrassed to ask questions on this topic.

Buy a Packer that’s Just the Right Size

As a FTM transgender guy, you might be tempted to buy a large-sized packer, thinking it will be an asset to your masculinity. But the reality is that would just look odd and would draw unwanted attention. Always buy a packer that’s just the right size keeping in mind your body proportions, not too big and not too small.

Well, if you do want to go for an oversized packer, that’s totally your choice. But it’s certainly not going to help you with the goal of passing off as a regular guy. Just try and judge the right size going by your own body proportions. If you are a tall and huge guy, then a large packer would actually complement your physicality.

You Could Also Consider Packer Specific Clothing

Packer-specific clothing is getting popular these days. As a FTM transgender guy, you could buy different kinds of underwear that are specially designed for packing. There are specific boxer briefs with pouches to slip in the packer. Such clothing can be useful to a trans man, especially while he is learning how to pack. This can save him the constant stress and worry that what if his packer slips off.

It Will Take a While to Get Used to Packing

Many FTM transgender men do not go for packing simply because it makes them feel uncomfortable in their private parts. You have to keep in mind that it will take you a while to get used to packing. The initial phase will be challenging. You might feel awkward walking. You might be conscious of the packer all the time and feel super stressed out in a public place thinking that everybody is just looking at you.

But there is no need to worry. After a while, you will get adjusted to packing and it will become a part of your identity. Just make sure you practice walking around with a packer on as much as you can. Not just walking but general activities like household chores, exercise, dancing, etc should also be practiced with a packer on. You could easily practice in your house. The idea is to get used to packing as much as you can before you begin to use it in a public place.

As a FTM transgender guy, remember that packing is not just about others noticing that there is a bulge in your crotch area. It’s about your own affirmation in your masculinity. Packing is supposed to help you with dysphoria and make you feel super comfortable and confident with your masculine identity. So invest time and energy in learning how to pack. Make it a part of your life.

The modern dating market is pretty saturated. It’s all about ruthless competition. And the typical dating behaviour of a cis woman doesn’t make things any easier. Well, an exception is always there but humans tend to interpret things through generalization. It’s natural. So, generally speaking, a cis woman is in the habit of playing constant games and making men go on chasing her till they are exasperated, tired and totally confused.

The ambiguous and rather manipulative behaviour of a cis woman has also got to with the fact that she actually has no clue as to what exactly she is looking for. And that is the usual thing to happen when you are in a woman’s body by default. You take it very casually, the whole thing about a woman. You are a woman because you have a woman’s body. It doesn’t mean for you much beyond that. You don’t spend hours thinking about being a woman, pondering on the beauty and ecstasy of femininity. You just take everything for granted.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is not a woman by default. She is a woman by will and her strong desire to be one. She doesn’t let her body become an impediment in her journey as a woman. The extent to which she is willing to go in order to physically alter her body if of course her choice and decision. But she is a beautiful woman inside out. And that’s because she lives and breathes femininity and womanhood. It’s a matter of life and death to her. And that is precisely why getting a transgender girlfriend is in a different league altogether.

If you think dating a cis woman is the ultimate thing, you have probably just seen the tip of the iceberg. You have just seen the societal manifestation of what people call a woman. But if you want to date a real woman, you have to get a transgender girlfriend.

There are many reasons as to why you should date a transgender girl. Let’s discuss some of these here:

She Understands Your Needs and Desires

Now, you might say that the same is true for your average cis woman. But it isn’t. A cis woman just responds to your needs and desires in a way that is guided by her hormones. It’s like because she is physically a woman and she needs a man, she lets you make those moves and then responds accordingly. She is just playing by her biologically identity. But she doesn’t really understand your needs and desires.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is in a unique position because of being born in the wrong body. She is a woman but because of her past experiences, she understands the male perspective and male psyche very well. She understands his needs and desires in totality. An average cis woman cannot even come near her understanding of men simply because they haven’t had that intimate peep into both worlds.

Because a transgender woman has this in-built sensitivity, she responds to male attention and admiration with genuine and heartfelt gratitude. When in the last time you remember a cis woman responding with gratitude to your efforts at getting to know her? Most of them have probably either snubbed you off or treated you as if you were a creepy stalker who was harassing them.

To be honest, it’s not entirely the fault of cis women either. They are bought up with a worldview that essentially sees men as perpetrators and women as victims. Therefore, their natural instinct is to ward off male attention by creating a halo around themselves or by playing games with men. A transgender woman is not bought up with that worldview. Because of her past life experiences, she has a very complex and nuanced understanding of how men are. So, she does not judge them. She responds to them with an open heart and understands their needs and desires.

She is Beautiful

There are a lot of societal myths about trans women concerning their appearance. These myths essentially brainwash you into believing that transgender women are manly, coarse and they do not bother with their looks or appearance. In reality, these are just a bunch of lies propagated by a hypocritical society that still finds it hard to accept a transgender woman.

The reality is that a transgender woman is way more beautiful than an average cis woman. If you check out the profiles of trans women on any transgender dating site, you would know what I mean. Even if you just google ‘trans women’ you would come up with images of women who could give a Victoria Secret model a complex.

A trans woman puts in a lot of effort when it comes to her appearance. She takes great care of her skin, knows how to apply make-up well and is always dressed up perfectly for the occasion. On the contrary, it is the average cis woman who is slovenly and careless about her appearance. How many cis women you know would turn up for a date in a pair of jeans and a casual t-shirt with a face that looks like they have just woken up and walked straight out of the door? Probably many. A transgender woman would never do that. She would go to great lengths to select an appropriate dress, footwear and accessories for the occasion. Finally, she would also select an appropriate look for her face. And when you do meet her, it will be like a Hollywood diva is sitting with you!

She Accepts You as Who You Are

With a cis woman, you need a lot of filters. You can hardly be your original self with her. She has way too many expectations. And in order to fulfil those, you are always trying to project an image. The real you have to be kept hidden. And that can get very stressing and frustrating for a man. None likes to go on pretending forever.

With a transgender woman, you can be the real you. She has had such a challenging life full of complex experiences.  A trans woman has undergone so many turbulent emotional states that she is mentally very mature and understanding. She knows that a person has many sides. She won’t necessarily judge you for things that are probably a very big deal for a cis woman. Even if she has certain doubts about something, she would not dramatically flare-up. She would coolly and calmly discuss the situation with you. A transgender woman would not get upset with you every now and then over trivial matters.

A transgender woman also has a more fluid conception of masculinity. She would connect with you as a person. With her, you don’t have the pressure of constantly having to project a certain masculine image. With her, you can be yourself.

She Might be Your Soul Mate

The whole idea of dating should be ideal to find a soul mate. But does the concept of soul mate really exist these days? It seems like a far-off thing from fairytales and the past. The disillusionment with the idea of eternal love has got something to do with the dating patterns of cis women and men.

Modern dating has become a game, a show off the venture. It is anything but love. It is natural that modern men have become disillusioned with the idea of finding love. And they just go from girl to girl, taking her out on expensive dates, buying gifts for her. But somehow, they lose that will to create a connection with the other person’s soul.

A transgender woman might just be the soul mate you have been long looking for. She doesn’t have the kind of expectations from you that a cis woman has. She doesn’t play toxic games with you. She doesn’t judge you constantly. With a transgender woman, you can be your real self.

And it’s only when we drop the façade of presences that real love begins. Or at least the possibilities of it begin. In order to get anywhere even close to real love, two people have to communicate with each other’s souls. And for that to happen, they have to connect with each other at a very genuine level.

Modern-day cis men and women are not falling in love with each other. They are just falling in love with each other’s reflections that they chose to call man and woman. And that is why they are so unhappy in love. They end up thinking there is no real love. But when you date a transgender woman, you have finally met someone who is willing to look directly into your soul. She is beautiful outside but she is not shallow. She is also beautiful inside. She has a heart of gold. And if you are lucky, maybe in her, you have finally found the soul mate you have been long looking for.