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The modern dating market is pretty saturated. It’s all about ruthless competition. And the typical dating behaviour of a cis woman doesn’t make things any easier. Well, an exception is always there but humans tend to interpret things through generalization. It’s natural. So, generally speaking, a cis woman is in the habit of playing constant games and making men go on chasing her till they are exasperated, tired and totally confused.

The ambiguous and rather manipulative behaviour of a cis woman has also got to with the fact that she actually has no clue as to what exactly she is looking for. And that is the usual thing to happen when you are in a woman’s body by default. You take it very casually, the whole thing about a woman. You are a woman because you have a woman’s body. It doesn’t mean for you much beyond that. You don’t spend hours thinking about being a woman, pondering on the beauty and ecstasy of femininity. You just take everything for granted.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is not a woman by default. She is a woman by will and her strong desire to be one. She doesn’t let her body become an impediment in her journey as a woman. The extent to which she is willing to go in order to physically alter her body if of course her choice and decision. But she is a beautiful woman inside out. And that’s because she lives and breathes femininity and womanhood. It’s a matter of life and death to her. And that is precisely why getting a transgender girlfriend is in a different league altogether.

If you think dating a cis woman is the ultimate thing, you have probably just seen the tip of the iceberg. You have just seen the societal manifestation of what people call a woman. But if you want to date a real woman, you have to get a transgender girlfriend.

There are many reasons as to why you should date a transgender girl. Let’s discuss some of these here:

She Understands Your Needs and Desires

Now, you might say that the same is true for your average cis woman. But it isn’t. A cis woman just responds to your needs and desires in a way that is guided by her hormones. It’s like because she is physically a woman and she needs a man, she lets you make those moves and then responds accordingly. She is just playing by her biologically identity. But she doesn’t really understand your needs and desires.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is in a unique position because of being born in the wrong body. She is a woman but because of her past experiences, she understands the male perspective and male psyche very well. She understands his needs and desires in totality. An average cis woman cannot even come near her understanding of men simply because they haven’t had that intimate peep into both worlds.

Because a transgender woman has this in-built sensitivity, she responds to male attention and admiration with genuine and heartfelt gratitude. When in the last time you remember a cis woman responding with gratitude to your efforts at getting to know her? Most of them have probably either snubbed you off or treated you as if you were a creepy stalker who was harassing them.

To be honest, it’s not entirely the fault of cis women either. They are bought up with a worldview that essentially sees men as perpetrators and women as victims. Therefore, their natural instinct is to ward off male attention by creating a halo around themselves or by playing games with men. A transgender woman is not bought up with that worldview. Because of her past life experiences, she has a very complex and nuanced understanding of how men are. So, she does not judge them. She responds to them with an open heart and understands their needs and desires.

She is Beautiful

There are a lot of societal myths about trans women concerning their appearance. These myths essentially brainwash you into believing that transgender women are manly, coarse and they do not bother with their looks or appearance. In reality, these are just a bunch of lies propagated by a hypocritical society that still finds it hard to accept a transgender woman.

The reality is that a transgender woman is way more beautiful than an average cis woman. If you check out the profiles of trans women on any transgender dating site, you would know what I mean. Even if you just google ‘trans women’ you would come up with images of women who could give a Victoria Secret model a complex.

A trans woman puts in a lot of effort when it comes to her appearance. She takes great care of her skin, knows how to apply make-up well and is always dressed up perfectly for the occasion. On the contrary, it is the average cis woman who is slovenly and careless about her appearance. How many cis women you know would turn up for a date in a pair of jeans and a casual t-shirt with a face that looks like they have just woken up and walked straight out of the door? Probably many. A transgender woman would never do that. She would go to great lengths to select an appropriate dress, footwear and accessories for the occasion. Finally, she would also select an appropriate look for her face. And when you do meet her, it will be like a Hollywood diva is sitting with you!

She Accepts You as Who You Are

With a cis woman, you need a lot of filters. You can hardly be your original self with her. She has way too many expectations. And in order to fulfil those, you are always trying to project an image. The real you have to be kept hidden. And that can get very stressing and frustrating for a man. None likes to go on pretending forever.

With a transgender woman, you can be the real you. She has had such a challenging life full of complex experiences.  A trans woman has undergone so many turbulent emotional states that she is mentally very mature and understanding. She knows that a person has many sides. She won’t necessarily judge you for things that are probably a very big deal for a cis woman. Even if she has certain doubts about something, she would not dramatically flare-up. She would coolly and calmly discuss the situation with you. A transgender woman would not get upset with you every now and then over trivial matters.

A transgender woman also has a more fluid conception of masculinity. She would connect with you as a person. With her, you don’t have the pressure of constantly having to project a certain masculine image. With her, you can be yourself.

She Might be Your Soul Mate

The whole idea of dating should be ideal to find a soul mate. But does the concept of soul mate really exist these days? It seems like a far-off thing from fairytales and the past. The disillusionment with the idea of eternal love has got something to do with the dating patterns of cis women and men.

Modern dating has become a game, a show off the venture. It is anything but love. It is natural that modern men have become disillusioned with the idea of finding love. And they just go from girl to girl, taking her out on expensive dates, buying gifts for her. But somehow, they lose that will to create a connection with the other person’s soul.

A transgender woman might just be the soul mate you have been long looking for. She doesn’t have the kind of expectations from you that a cis woman has. She doesn’t play toxic games with you. She doesn’t judge you constantly. With a transgender woman, you can be your real self.

And it’s only when we drop the façade of presences that real love begins. Or at least the possibilities of it begin. In order to get anywhere even close to real love, two people have to communicate with each other’s souls. And for that to happen, they have to connect with each other at a very genuine level.

Modern-day cis men and women are not falling in love with each other. They are just falling in love with each other’s reflections that they chose to call man and woman. And that is why they are so unhappy in love. They end up thinking there is no real love. But when you date a transgender woman, you have finally met someone who is willing to look directly into your soul. She is beautiful outside but she is not shallow. She is also beautiful inside. She has a heart of gold. And if you are lucky, maybe in her, you have finally found the soul mate you have been long looking for.

A long-distance relationship is not for everyone. It is for those who truly believe in love and are willing to walk that extra mile for it. They are willing to even undergo physical separation from their lover for the sake of love. Relationship with a transsexual is not everyone’s cup of tea either. When you have committed yourself to dating a transsexual person, you have already signaled to the world that you are a unique person whose choices are not dictated by societal dogmas and stereotypes.

Your transsexual partner is anyways tough enough to endure a long-distance relationship. They have already won the challenging battle of coming out in the open with their identity. And transitioning is an extremely difficult phase. So, if they have come out of all that victoriously, they won’t really let distance become an issue if they are in love with someone.

You have also battled societal stigma, disapproval and outright condemnation while making the decision to date a transsexual person. So, you are a tough cookie as well. However, this does not mean that keeping a long-distance relationship is an easy deal. On the contrary, it is extremely challenging to be in a long-distance relationship with someone and keep the love alive.

Regular communication is very important for a long-distance relationship. And so are a couple of other things. This article is going to list a couple of tips that can help you keep up such a relationship. If you and your transsexual partner follow these tips, then even distance cannot be an impediment in your journey of togetherness and love!

Trust

Trust is the foundation of a long-distance relationship. Well, it is important for any relationship. But in a long-distance relationship, its importance is doubly elevated. You guys don’t stay in the same town physically. So, you have no way of really finding out what the other is doing most of the time, where are they going, who are they meeting. And you probably also have a work-life, deadlines to meet, household chores to fix. So, you cannot just leave everything aside and constantly spy on your partner through phone or social media! That would also be mentally unhealthy for you and toxic for your relationship.

Therefore, the only thing that works is trust. You have to realize that you two are together for a reason and distance is only a temporary impediment. Trust is of course not built overnight. It requires regular communication. Even though your relationship is long-distance, you have to make your partner a priority. Make sure that the two of you talk to each other almost every day even if it’s for a short while.

Just a virtual hug or kiss from your partner before you are going to sleep can go a long way towards building trust. If any of you are super busy and cannot communicate for a while due to some reasons, just tell that your partner. Communication keeps everything sorted. And lack of it creates mistrust.

If there is something about your partner’s behaviour that is bothering you and if despite all the trust, you have started doubting something, just ask them candidly. A good, honest conversation is like a stress buster and trust builder in any long-distance relationship.

Make Time for Each Other

You both are super busy. And you both have your own life, your own circle of friends wherever you live. But you have to understand that being in a relationship; you have to be each other’s priority.

So, it is very important that you create time for each other on a daily basis. Most of us spend a lot of time on social media even while we are working. So, it’s super easy to slip in flirtatious text messages to your transsexual partner once in a while even during work hours.

Get creative with your communication mode. Send each other pictures and videos from your everyday life. If you are in a restaurant having a great time with your friends, maybe you can just shoot a small video using her phone, tell your partner where you are and you are having a good time but are missing them. These small gestures go a long way towards keeping the fire in your relationship going.

Do not do everything by a plan. That can get monotonous and boring. Be unpredictable every once in a while. Send her a text or a WhatsApp message out of the blue telling her what you ate for lunch today. The idea is to be a part of each other’s immediate universe even though you are not living in the same town physically. It is certainly challenging but if you make time for each other and think of innovative and fun ways of communicating, you can do it.

You Have to Keep the Love Alive

Now, this is the point where a lot of long-distance relationships falter. Lack of physical intimacy due to the distance factor can ruin even the best of relationships. Sexual love is a basic need for everyone and if they can’t get it from their partner, they start looking elsewhere.

So, it is important that you and your transsexual partner find ways and means to keep the fire of love and passion burning despite the distance. You can consider having phone sex. Tease each other with sexy photos and messages. Phone sex can get very close and intimate if you are into it. The two of you can constantly moan and breathe erotically while you are building up the erotic crescendo over the phone. If you can actually imagine yourself getting physical with your partner while the two of you throw in graphic details of what you are doing to each other, phone sex can get very real.

Now, love surely doesn’t mean only physical love. Emotional love is very important too. In fact, in any relationship, after a point in time, emotional love is the real thing and physical love becomes an expression of your emotional intimacy with your partner.

So, it is important to keep the romance alive. Maybe, have a candlelight dinner date through a live zoom conversation! Create that mood in your apartment with beautiful lights, candles, wine and all that. Ask your partner to create a similar setting where they live. And then the two of you can have a live date. You can even try out a similar kind of live dating session from a restaurant or a café.

It’s also good to get old fashioned once in a while. That is, you can surprise your transsexual partner by sending chocolates, roses, greeting cards, flirty lingerie or whatever gifts they like once in a while.

Last but not the least, a simple ‘I Love You’ in the morning after you get up and, in the night, before you go to sleep would make your transsexual partner feel your love like you are sleeping just next to them.

Make Plans to Meet Each Other Once in a While Despite the Distance

A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean that you are constantly making love only on phone! You have to make some sort of a commitment to actually seeing each other in person even if it’s for a couple of days in 2-3 months.

And you have to make sure that when the two of you do meet each other, that time is literally reserved for your relationship. When your transsexual partner is visiting you, make the most of that visit. Even if it means going a bit out of your way and postponing all appointments, just do it. Nothing is more important in life more than a loving partner.

A couple of days of togetherness can be like a lifetime for people who are in a long-distance relationship. So, you and your transsexual partner have to make each other a priority and try and make travel plans to one another’s city if and when possible.

Discuss the Future of Your Relationship

Now, this is very important. In a long-distance relationship, you go to figure out where exactly it is going after a point in time. That is, the two of you should have a concrete roadmap for getting together at some point in time. The distance is ok at the moment but there has to be some mutual vision of the distance ending sometime in future.

Have candid discussions with your transsexual partner on a regular basis. No one wants to be enduring distance infinitely. There has to be some light at the end of the tunnel. So, the two of you have to have a concrete plan as to when and how the two of you can be together in one place. And you have to constantly discuss the progress you are making on that plan.

After all, it is for the sake of love that the two of you are putting up with a long-distance relationship. And that love has to materialize in you being physically together at some point in time.

Dating has become a complicated affair in these times. There is a lot of hit and trial involved. And then to add to your woes, a vast majority of cis women have a major attitude problem. This is not to portray them in a negative light. But the reality is they are so much sought after by men and women alike that it seems like they have a never-ending pool of choices. The kind of overwhelming attention they get all the time makes them super demanding and picky. But have you ever thought about dating a transsexual woman?

Transsexual females are incredibly gorgeous, well-groomed, and sophisticated. They can also be super intelligent and witty. If you check out the pictures of transsexual females from various trans dating sites, you would know what I mean. They are as beautiful as any cis woman can be or maybe even more because they are extremely conscious of their femininity and value it way more.

Transsexual females know the value of struggle and therefore they are way more mentally evolved than your average cis female. There are many advantages of dating transsexual females. This article would list some of those.

She has a Strong Personality

A transsexual female has seen a lot in her life, literally so. Someone who decides to undergo transitioning cannot be a weak-willed person. It requires immense courage and determination to take that kind of decision.

The vast baggage of societal prejudices that she deals with on a regular basis makes her stronger with each passing day. I mean compared to the kind of apathy and collective societal disrespect that a trans woman has to go through, the life of any cis woman would be like a bed of roses.

Somebody who battles all that on a regular basis and comes out victorious has to have a super-strong personality. So, if you are looking for a girl with a strong personality, dating a trans female might be the best experience of your life.

When you are looking for a serious relationship, you want to be with someone who can keep their act together and possibly, help you keep yours too. A transsexual female can do that very well. In fact, with her strong personality, she can even act as a barrier between you and negative people who can potentially harm you.

It helps to have a partner who is strong-willed. They can push you towards discipline and dedication towards your own life goals. And what can be better than having a partner who can contribute to your personal and professional growth and development?

She has a More Balanced Understanding of Gender

This is a major advantage when it comes to dating transsexual females. A transsexual female has a more balanced and evolved understanding of gender as compared to your average cis female.

The kind of rigid and one-dimensional understanding that society has of gender makes both men and women suffer in innumerable ways.

A man wanting to date a woman faces innumerable pressures in terms of portraying a certain macho image and playing up to the conventional image of a man. A transsexual female, because of her evolved understanding of gender, can be definitely more understanding and supportive of somebody who has a more fluid conception of gender. That is, your transsexual female girlfriend would not judge you to be any less manly on the basis of little quirks or idiosyncrasies.

Being in a relationship with someone who has a more balanced understanding of gender can be more emotionally fulfilling. You can be your natural self with such a person. There is no need to constantly put up an act. And that’s such an incredibly beautiful and uplifting thing for a relationship.

She is Gorgeous and Super well Groomed!

Now you might say that even a cis woman can be gorgeous and well-groomed. True that but a transsexual female has somewhat of an edge over your average cis female in this matter. She has spent an enormous amount of money and mental energy in undergoing transitioning. Her identity as a woman is as important to her as breathing in fresh air for survival. It’s not something she takes for granted or is nonchalant about. Her femininity means a lot to her.

And that is why a transsexual female takes an altogether different level of interest in her appearance and grooming. Her femininity is a matter of pride to her and she does all can in her power to look super alluring and beautiful.

This is not to say that you should date a transsexual female only for her physical beauty. But physical attraction certainly is a very important component of any relationship. Only when you are attracted to a person’s physical appearance, you can consider taking things to the next level.

She is Sophisticated and Intelligent

If you are looking to date a sophisticated, polished woman who you can take out to the most happening and chic places of the town and talk perhaps even of literature and existentialism over a glass of wine, then the transsexual female is just the right kind of person for you.

She is articulate, intelligent, and knows how to conduct herself in a sophisticated and elite society. It is even said that transsexual females are twice as likely to hold a college degree when compared to the average cis woman.

Physical attraction is the first step of a relationship. The next step is mental compatibility. And for figuring that out, it is important that you should be able to have a conversation with your partner. An articulate and intelligent woman who can seduce you not just by her physical charms but through her wit and intellect as well is indeed someone special and rare.

Your Relationship with her Would be Great Sexually!

Now, let’s be honest. Physical love is a very important part of any relationship. On the basis of sexual chemistry and compatibility alone, relationships can be made or broken. All differences in temperament, the disposition can be conveniently put aside if things are good in bed.

And this is where a relationship with a transsexual female would give you that extra edge. Again, this is not to stereotype her but it’s true that female transsexuals are known to have the most stunning of bodies.  Her body is no less than a sculpture and she has those incredibly voluptuous curves that can distract anyone to the verge of insanity.

So, your sexual experience with her would be nothing less than amazing. A female transsexual’s breasts are usually firm, perky, and younger as compared to an average cis female. While dating her, you don’t have to worry about the fear of aging and sagging that comes with a conventional female body. You wouldn’t have to worry about her breasts sagging or about her abdomen accumulating fat over years.

In fact, if you start dating a transsexual female during the initial phases of her transition, you would realize that she is getting hotter and hotter with time. And it is an incredible thing for anyone to realize that their partner not only manages to keep the ravages of time at bay but also gets even more ravishing with time!

No Fear of Unwanted Pregnancies

A child is a beautiful entrant to your life. But only when you are planning one. Choosing to have a child with your partner is a major decision and you might not be ready for it yet. You might never want a child ever and that’s cool too.

With a transsexual female, you do not have to worry about the hazards of unwanted pregnancy as she does not have a uterus, and therefore, she can’t conceive. With a cis woman, unwanted pregnancy is always this danger lurking in the background; no matter how careful you are or whatever precautions you take.

Many a time such unwanted pregnancies can lead to even forced marriages. These marriages are forced because you were just in the process of knowing that person. Marriage was nowhere on your mind or her mind but an unwanted pregnancy popped up and you had no option other than getting hitched.

Dating a transsexual female will save you from that kind of scenario. When you are with someone without any fear or unwanted pressure, it’s even better for your relationship. You can be totally honest with each other and let your relationship grow with time. And after all, that, if it does reach that level where the two of you do want to get married, it will be totally worth it. You are choosing to get married because of love and not due to an unwanted pregnancy.

She is Emotionally Stable

The emotional stability of both partners is a very important component of any relationship. And in this department again, the transsexual female has an edge over her cis counterpart.

Being a transsexual woman, she has been dealing with prejudice, social discrimination, and outright bigotry all her life. And if despite all that, she has managed to live her life positively and well, it means that her emotional stability is rock solid.

An emotionally fragile person is a burden on their partner. There are people who get upset over the most inconsequential of things. Dealing with such a person and their day-to-day drama can get too much for anyone. But your transsexual female is so emotionally stable that she can handle your tantrums as well and teach you a lesson or two about emotional stability.

A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

For a transgender person, it is difficult to find love offline. Social stigma makes them vulnerable to verbal and even physical abuse in the offline world. Therefore, the safest thing to do is to join a transgender dating site.

Moreover, when you are looking for love, it is natural that you would like to meet as broad a variety of people as possible. The offline world limits your options as you can only meet people through friends or acquaintances. But when you join a transgender dating site, you have the option of communicating with like-minded people from all across the world. And while this can be exciting and exhilarating, it can also make you vulnerable to all the wrong kinds of people.

So, it is very important to join a safe transgender dating site. When you come across profiles of stunning looking people from all across the world, it’s easy to get carried away. But you have to realize that many of these people can be scammers and imposters. And it can be very stressful if you have to be constantly suspicious of everybody you are chatting with on a trans dating site. It’s therefore important to make sure that you are registering yourself on a safe transgender dating site.

Here are a few tips that would help you decide how to choose the safest transgender dating site.

Always do a Thorough Online Search

Never join a transsexual dating site randomly just because you heard its name. You heard a few people talk about it and then without giving it much thought, you just jumped onto the bandwagon.

It’s important to do a thorough internet search before joining any trans dating site. Make a list of all the trans dating sites that are popping up in your internet research. Have a thorough look at these sites and then compare their features. Always read the review provided by their users. If a trans dating site has many good reviews on average, then you can safely conclude that it would be a pretty decent site.

Prefer Dating Sites that are Trusted by your Friends

This is the conventional and time-tested approach for determining the safety quotient of a particular transgender dating site. It is best to join a transgender dating site that has also been used by your friends. If your friend has had a positive experience using a particular dating site, then it makes sense that you can trust their judgment and consider joining that site.

If any of your friends are still using a particular trans dating site, then it’s ever safer for you to join the same. The two of you can keep a tab on any suspicious and fake profiles and discuss it amongst yourselves. More than anything, it’s just psychologically comforting to know that you are not into something entirely by yourself. There is someone by your side. It can be very intimidating for a transgender person to join a trans dating site that nobody in their circle has ever used before. So, if your friends recommend certain dating sites to you, those should definitely be on the top of your priority list.

Having said that, this does not mean you blindly follow the advice of your friends. When it comes to online dating, it’s best to use your judgment as well. Everybody’s experience with trans dating is different. So, it’s always advisable to do a thorough check from your end as well before joining any ts dating site.

Avoid Dating Sites that ask for too much Personal Information

The best transgender dating sites are those that understand the value of your privacy. These would not ask you to give out too much of your personal information. Of course, when you start chatting with someone, how much personal information to give out is totally your discretion. But the best transgender dating sites would not make it mandatory for you to spell out a lot of personal information.

So be suspicious of trans dating sites that ask for too many personal details at the time of registration. As a transgender person, your safety is what is most important. So as a rule of thumb, avoid trans dating sites that ask for too much personal information. The site might be having good intentions but it’s just not worth the risk. It’s not unusual to find transphobic people on a lot of transgender dating sites literally hunting for transgender people in order to potentially harm them.

So, your best bet is a transgender dating site that is not too pushy about your personal information and that lets you move forward at your own pace, with your own terms and conditions.

Prefer a Transgender Dating Site with great in-built Security Features

Now, this is something that you can figure out during the time of internet research. When you are checking out prospective transgender dating sites through the Google search engine, always pay extra attention to the in-built security features of these sites.

It’s important to know what kind of security mechanisms they have in place for weeding out scammers and imposters. The ideal tg dating site should also have a foolproof mechanism for safeguarding your personal information. They should be really proactive in terms of responding to the complaints made against any of the users.

The most important thing is that a great transgender dating site should have an excellent redressal mechanism. Even if after all the safety and precautions, you end up being verbally harassed or being abused by someone, the site should be able to immediately act upon your complaint.  You don’t want to waste your time on a dating site that doesn’t take your safety and self-esteem seriously enough.

Validate Personal meetups with the Administrators of the Transgender Dating Site

Now, meeting somebody in person through a transgender dating site is tricky terrain. That is of course the goal of online dating though. You talk to different kinds of people and if you find someone with whom you seem to be developing great chemistry, the two of you consider meeting each other. That seems like the most natural thing to do.

But as a transgender person, meeting someone personally is fraught with risks. You don’t want to expose yourself to all kinds of dangers by meeting someone you technically don’t know. It’s true that you have been chatting with your prospective love interest for quite a while and you get good vibes for them. And let’s hope it will all turn out beautiful. But it’s important to be cautious. Ts dating sites are full of smooth talkers who are looking to exploit transgender people for all sorts of underhand and shady activities. Then there are transphobic people who are literally scouting for transsexual people on these dating sites.

So, it’s important that the trans dating site you join should have some sort of a mechanism through which administrators can validate personal meet-ups before you agree to them. That is, the administrators of that site should be able to give you substantial background information about the person who has proposed the meeting and should be able to sufficiently warn you against the meetup if there are any red flags.

However, it is equally important to do background checks from your own end before agreeing to meet someone offline. You can search for information related to them through google. Try to find them on other social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram. If you find something suspicious, then it is best not to go ahead with the personal meet up.

Leave the Transgender Dating Site if you feel Uncomfortable

Now, of course, this is not an ideal scenario. When you are looking for love, you want to think positively and be optimistic. But if you feel that you have already taken many chances and are feeling a bit exposed and vulnerable, you can consider leaving that particular transgender dating site.

The whole idea of joining a dating site is to make you search for a partner smooth and hassle-free. But if it has started giving you undue stress and jitters, then it’s just not worth it. If you are feeling that you have given out too much personal information and you are not sure about the real intentions of the people you are talking to, then just relax and feel free to leave the site immediately.

Nothing is worth your safety and peace of mind. Maybe you are overthinking. But maybe you are not and there is some real risk that is lurking around the corner. So, in moments of confusion, just listen to the voice of your intuition. Leaving a trans dating site is not the end of the world. You can just give yourself a break and then come back to that site perhaps when you feel rejuvenated and positive again. Or you can even join another transgender dating site whenever you wish to.

Transgender dating has to be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. And for that, it is important that you always listen to your inner voice and emotions. You deserve the best in love physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s a beautiful journey full of serendipity. So, it is important to take it easy, not rush into anything and follow your inner instinct.

When you are in a relationship, there comes a crucial time when you got to introduce your partner to your intimate circle of family and friends. For a guy, introducing any woman to his friends and family can be intimidating. ‘Will they like her?’, ‘Would she be able to get along with them?’, all these questions preoccupy your mind. And if you are dating a trans woman, things can get even trickier.

Trans girl dating is no easy feat to accomplish, even in these so-called modern times. When it comes to certain things, most peoples’ minds are still stuck in the Middle Ages. If you are dating a trans woman, you have to be literally prepared for the worst of reactions from your family. So trans girl dating isn’t for the meek. You have to be super strong in your determination and in terms of your love and commitment to your partner that no matter what, you will always stand by her.

However, nothing in this world is impossible to accomplish if you try it out the right way with a cool head and a zealous, fighting spirit. If you discuss things with your trans girl at every step and proceed with a plan, then your family and friends might just accept your relationship. Just do not rush into making any impromptu revelations! Wait for the right time and chalk out a strategy.

If you follow a few basic tips, then the whole process of introducing your trans lady love to your intimate circle is just going to get easier and hassle-free.

Tell her that You Love her to the Core

The most important aspect of trans girl dating is mutual love and respect. As a guy, it is important that you take her fully into confidence before communicating your relationship to your friends and family. Your trans woman has to be ready for the whole thing. It is a big deal for her. She is about to be introduced to her boyfriend’s family. She wants to be her best version in front of them. But at the same time, her identity is very important to her. She has literally battled societal prejudices and censure to be able to live the way she wants to. So, it is natural that she is quite a bit apprehensive about the whole situation. So, you have to be constantly by her side and communicate your love and commitment for her.

It’s reassuring and comforting for her to hear it out from you again and again that you love her to the core. You got to assure your trans woman that no matter what, the two of you will be always together.

Your family will not quite layout a red-carpet welcome for the two of you once you tell them about your relationship. And you know that. So, while it’s good to hope for the best, be prepared for the worst as well. You have to reassure your trans woman that even if your family doesn’t accept the relationship, you will be with her. Tell her that irrespective of the way things work out with your family, your relationship will remain as it is.

The love between the two of you is what eventually matters. You think that it’s probably the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. But that’s about it really. The future of your relationship shouldn’t depend on their reaction. And that is why it is important for you to constantly communicate to your beautiful trans woman that your love for her is rock solid.

Consult her Before Making any Announcement

Now, this is the most important aspect of trans girl dating. You think it’s the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. Maybe, she doesn’t share your opinion. And you have to respect that.

Your trans woman has to be comfortable about it. It is a big step. You are choosing to make your relationship public and therefore, her comfort level is what matters the most. Talk to her clearly; give her reasons as to why you think it’s important to tell your family about the relationship at this point in time. And if she is still not convinced, it’s ok to postpone it till she feels comfortable.

The whole idea of taking this next big step of announcing the relationship to your intimate circle of people is to take it to the next level. Maybe you guys are thinking of marriage at some point in time. And that’s why you think it’s important to take it to the next level now. Whatever be the scenario, this shouldn’t become a point of conflict in your relationship. That is simply not worth it. If she is not yet ready to meet your friends and family, just postpone it for some time.

Plan it Out

It’s not a good idea to make the revelation to your friends and family randomly! You have to plan out the whole thing. The two of you got to figure out when is the best time to communicate this to them. Not just that, you also have to discuss what is the best way to communicate this to them.

If you already know that your family will be way too prejudiced against your trans woman, then you can’t just tell them everything bluntly in one go. You have to do some groundwork before you tell them the actual thing. Maybe, you can try and create a positive impression in their minds about trans people. Just try having general conversations about trans people first. The goal is to slowly reduce their prejudices. And then when the right time comes, you can tell them the exact thing.

It is also important, to be honest with your trans woman regarding your family’s attitudes. If you have specific family members or friends who would be vehemently opposing the relationship, warn your girlfriend in advance. Tell her candidly that these particular people might just be rude to her so that she doesn’t get so shocked by their reaction. However, her respect is of utmost importance so you have to draw the line somewhere. If you think their reactions will be too much for her to handle, it is best to make the announcement when your partner is not around.

You have to Stand up for your Lover

A guy who loves a transgender girl should stand up for her, no matter what. And this is true of any relationship. When you love a woman and have made a commitment, you have to honour that despite all societal disapproval.

You have made the big announcement in front of your family and friends. They still do not accept the relationship and some of them are way too disrespectful to your trans woman. Now, this has to be the saturation point for your tolerance. You have to tell them categorically that she is your lady love and disrespecting her is not ok. You have communicated to them all about your relationship and whether to accept it or not is their wish but that doesn’t change your relationship status with her.

If someone disrespects your trans lady love, you can’t just ignore the whole thing. You have to tell them firmly and strictly that you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour again. When you are in a relationship with someone, loving them doesn’t just mean making those ‘I love you’ declarations. You have to demonstrate your love in life’s circumstances. And that includes standing by her in all conditions, even if that has to be at the expense of a friend.

Keep up the task of Convincing your Family

If your family hasn’t accepted your relationship yet, that doesn’t mean they are never going to accept it. If they are being disrespectful to your trans woman at this point in time, then better keep her out of all this. But you should keep up the communication with your family from your side.

You have to be adept at the art of convincing. Many people who are completely against something the first time they hear of it change their thinking down the line. This is the way human psychology works. So, you just have to be patient with your family.

If nothing else works, just leave it on time. Time can do wonders to a situation. After a certain point, they will realize that what exists between you and your trans lady is indeed true love. They tried their best to dissuade you from dating her but that didn’t work. Your relationship became even stronger with time and despite all societal disapproval. So, your friends and family would eventually realize that nothing can separate the two of you. They might be hesitant of outrightly declaring it because of ego issues but they will slowly accept your relationship.

So, you have to constantly do a balancing act between your trans lady love and your family. You have made it clear to them that they cannot disrespect her. But you still have to keep the channels of communication open.

One of the benefits of meeting a TS woman on a  transgender dating site is that you’ll get an excellent opportunity to get to know her personality without physical appearance being too much of a focus. Aren’t we all a lot more relaxed when conversing with people on Trans Dating Apps, rather than in person? The privacy of your own home lends itself to many great chats.

Once you’ve clicked with your potential date, it is important you get to know each other. During this time, ask relevant questions when you chat with her or them on the transgender dating site of your choice. “Her or them”– asking about pronouns is a very respectful way to start, for example. While many trans women use female pronouns, not all do. It is wise that you get into a mindset of never assuming you know the answer when talking with your match and to have meaningful conversations. After all, both of you are after something long-term and real. Ensure you set a solid foundation for mutual respect and honesty. Your conversations online will help you build a rapport before going out on the first date. Knowing more about her likes, dislikes, aspirations, and dreams builds trust and will prove crucial for surviving your first date. 

However, it is the date itself where the fun begins. Meeting a person for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience, even for the most confident of individuals, and regardless of gender. Fear not, though – in order to make sure that all goes smoothly between you and your match, this article will provide a survival guide for your first date with a transgender woman.

Get Rid of the Pre-Date Nerves

While being nervous prior to a first date is completely understandable, too much nervousness can have a negative impact on your date. You might start babbling too much due to your nerves, stop listening to her questions and replies, and make a fool out of yourself in some way or another.  

Of course, whoever you connected with on the ts dating site might face the same problem. You can safely assume, however, that they will do their best as well to rein in their nerves before meeting you.

One way to reduce your apprehension is by simply distracting yourself with something interesting before the date begins. If you like to hit the gym, do so a few hours before your date in order to keep pre-date jitters at bay. The following shower or bath provides a wonderful chance to prepare yourself in terms of attire.

Reading a book, watching a video or episode of your current favorite show can also help distract you from nervousness.

If neither of these ideas resonates with you, it might be a good idea to do some housework. Clean the room you’ve been procrastinating on, do laundry or reorganize shelves and cupboards – the manual tasks will certainly soothe your nerves.

The trick, basically, is to keep yourself preoccupied so that you avoid overthinking your situation, that is the upcoming first date with a trans woman. Eliminating pre-date nerves will help you feel relaxed and prepare you to have a good time when the date begins.

Prepare Accordingly

Speaking of preparation: A successful first date involves some level of preparation for what you are about to experience. This holds true both on the physical and emotional levels.

In terms of physical appearance, ensure that you are well dressed in a way that suits the context of your date. While clean, comfortable clothes are perfect for casual walks in the park, a dinner date or first meeting for coffee might require more refined attire. Hitting the sweet spot with clothing can be tough, and the fear of being over-or underdressed might cause you ample anxiety before your date. In that case, why not reach out to friends and ask them for help? They will certainly be more than happy to assist you in choosing the right outfit for your first date with a transgender woman.  

Emotional preparation includes planning the topics you want to discuss with your date. Brainstorm a little: What did you talk about when you were still chatting on the ts dating app or transgender dating site? Can you follow up on any topics, or expand your interest in others she mentioned? Also, think about yourself:  What would you like to share about your day, your week, your life? What strikes you as important for a potential partner to know? When you are well prepared, conversations will run smoothly and you will feel a lot more charming and confident. This will certainly carry over to how your date perceives you.

Arrive On Time

Being late is a total turn off for many people, whether or not they are transgender or cis. So yes, plan diligently when it comes to your journey prior to the date. Do not forget to take into account weekday fluctuations in traffic and check reports earlier to ensure you do not miss any news about road closures or cancellations of public transport.

If you must be late for any reason, whether or not it is your fault, make sure to call or text your date to tell them that you won’t be able to make it on time. Additionally, you should have the decency to apologize to your date once you arrive in person and try to make up for your lateness. If your date has spent their time waiting for you, then you had better be worth the wait.

Enjoy the Date 

Of course, we all want to have fun during our first date! Sometimes, however, we are too nervous or preoccupied with how we come across or how the other person perceives us to remember that we are on a date and should be enjoying the time.

If that is the case, don’t shy away from admitting to it. Showing the self-awareness to say “I’m sorry, I’m really nervous right now” will prove your sincerity and open up the date to a more intimate connection. Anyone who joins a  dating site for transgender women, men, and others will have their share of negative experiences that undoubtedly influence how they feel about going on a first date with someone. Being open about this will create a safer space for both you and your match.

Enjoying the date also includes flirting and trying to make your date laugh. You can be as silly as feels natural to you – after all, your potential partner wants to get to know you, not the facade you think you need to project.

Be careful with complaints. If you find the date’s venue to be awful, don’t spend all the time dwelling on this. This will make you come off as a negative person. You could instead suggest a change in location if you think so strongly about it. This will make you seem pro-active.

At all times you should be civil, polite, and open-minded. Listen when she answers your questions and be honest when replying to inquiries into your own life. Telling the truth is always the best policy, although doing so with tact and kindness will leave an even better impression.

Ending the First Date

Knowing when to end the first date can be quite difficult. Saying goodbye to someone you have not known for long can be awkward.

You can alleviate this by thinking of how to end the date on a positive note in advance: Do you want to accompany her to her car, or her train or bus? When bidding goodbye, consider how you can show that you truly enjoyed her company and want to see her again.

One thing to avoid is a rushed departure. If you have an appointment or commitment to attend to after your date, even if it’s just your bedtime because the next day is a workday, don’t let the time catch you by surprise. Remain aware of how late it is so you can guide the date to a natural end that leaves both of you feeling content and appreciated.  

Follow up

Last but not least, it is highly recommended to follow up after a first date. You might test her when you arrive back home or wish her a good night after thanking her for a great time.

If she beats you to it, reply in kind and signal that you want to make plans for a second date. No need to rush a decision that day, but showing her that you are more interested than before will help cement the foundation you both are building for a long-term romantic relationship.

So you’ve been active on a transgender dating site or ts dating app for a while and finally caught the eye of a trans woman. You chatted, truly enjoyed the back-and-forth, and feel a strong enough connection to take this to the next level.

Yet this is where things tend to get complicated. Online dating is already quite the challenge, but taking any relationship offline can prove daunting, no matter what gender you and your match identify as. The questions remain the same: When is the best time to suggest a real-life date, even at a safe distance if necessary? How can you be certain your potential partner feels the same? If you gathered the courage, how do you phrase your question?

Let’s assume that somehow, you did it. And congratulations, they said yes!

Now the real adventure starts. When you’re dating a transgender woman, you will face more – or rather, different – challenges on your romantic journey.

Your presence on trans dating sites indicates that you already know a bit about trans issues and the reality of transgender lives. However, if you are genuine in your interest when it comes to exploring dating a transgender woman, you will need to do your homework, as they say.

This homework includes research on several aspects of transgender life, including the harder parts and topics you, as a cis person (that is, a person who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth), might not have on your radar yet. The lack of true and practical information, which may be difficult to come by online if you aren’t entrenched in the community, further complicates your progress.

Fortunately, you have found this guide and thus a great starting point! If you have been wondering what it would be like to date a trans woman or if you have started dating one and need a roadmap to help you navigate the dynamics, the following information will be very useful.

Research and Reflect

Before you begin your search for a trans woman on any transgender dating site or ts dating app, you should take a bit of time to research and understand the various aspects of the transgender community.

Topics we recommend you explore if only on the surface, include but are not limited to: 

– What does trans/transgender mean? How does it relate to the concepts of intersex or the term transvestite?

– What is the difference between sex and gender?

– What are common gender stereotypes and how does the trans community work to dismantle them? What are gender nonconforming practices?

– What legal and medical ramifications are involved in being trans? What role do hormones play? What surgery options are available, and how difficult is it to access them? Who opts for surgery and why, who decides against it?

You do not need to spend too long doing this research before you will have successfully dispelled several myths about transgender lives.

Having at least a basic understanding of these concepts and questions will lessen the burden your future partner or date will have to carry. Just like it is not on people of color to educate their white friends on the realities of racism and ‘Life While BIPOC’, do not expect trans people to enlighten you. Some might be willing to, but the onus is on you to learn.

While doing this research, you might want to reflect on your own experiences. How do you experience your gender? What shaped it? What stereotypes do you maybe harbor? How does this affect the way you approach dating?

Dating a trans woman may not fit your preconceived ideas of dating a cis woman. We assure you, however, that it will be worth the effort you invest in opening yourself up for new experiences.

Avoid Transgender Talk During Your Dates

While you might be curious about your date’s history or details about their life as a trans woman, never make the mistake of delving too deep into the subject of transgender. Just as curiosity killed the cat, it could also kill any relationship potential that was budding between you and a trans woman. It is possible that the subject might pop up later, but in the beginning, it is better to err on the side of caution and steer away from potentially awkward subjects. Remember that, for most people, their gender is an intimate subject, and talking about it with anyone requires trust and feeling secure in the situation.

Even if she initiates the subject at some point, we recommend proceeding carefully. Be careful of boundaries and intrusive questions. However, when she expresses willingness to talk about transgender topics and her own journey, listen keenly and without judgment. Show that you appreciate the trust she places in you and proves yourself worthy of this trust.

First Impression Matters

How you meet the trans woman on your first date may make or break any chances you have of a long-term romantic relationship. Since yes, first impressions matter. Beyond the way you communicate, this also holds true for attire and clothes.

While not every female-presenting person in the trans community values fashion and spends ample time on styling themselves, putting an effort into one’s appearance is a form of self-care. If we feel comfortable in our skin, we will looser and more relaxed when meeting a potential partner for the first time.

You should complement this by putting effort into your dress and maintenance. You do not need to dress up to the nines – but make choosing an outfit an active and conscious choice. Select something that reflects you and your character, don’t ‘dress up’ or pretend you are something you’re not. Natural charm goes a long way and shows your date that you are genuine in your interest.

Be a Gentleperson

Some transgender women enjoy presenting even more feminine than their cisgender counterparts. Other trans women may act more genderneutral or be actively nonconforming and/or fluid. Regardless of how they present, be a gentlemanly date. Not in a condescending way, but from a place of deep respect.

Whether you are a cis man or a cis woman and about to date a transgender lady, you can be courteous. Chivalry, in the sense of pulling out chairs or opening doors, might have a very positive effect on your date. However, only do this if it fits your personality and style. As with clothing, there is no need to pretend you are something you aren’t. Engage your date in meaningful conversation, truly listen when she talks, and smile so that she sees you enjoy her company.

Be Prepared to Talk Politics

For many people in the transgender community, politics is an important subject. The government decides who can transition from one gender to another, whether or not there are gender options outside the binary of male and female, how easy access to hormones or surgery is, and how protected we are in our everyday lives.

While ‘Keep away from politics’ may be sound dating advice for some, when it comes to being active on a ts dating site, you should be prepared to engage in political debates.

This advice ties in well with the research homework you have been given already. Unless they know someone personally, most cis people are unaware of the legal aspects and challenges of being transgender. If you educate yourself, you will certainly impress your date by showing interest and communicating that you are genuine in your pursuit of dating a transgender woman.

When It Comes To Sex

… be patient. Taking one’s time is a good idea regardless of gender identity, since building a long-lasting relationship depends on so much more than sex.

For some transgender women, sex can also be a difficult topic. Not every trans woman had top and bottom surgeries, so do not assume you know what your date’s body looks like underneath her clothes. Once you have built a foundation of trust and you both feel comfortable in each other’s presence, you may certainly ask your date about their sex life. Share your own experiences, if you think it might help. Showing your partner that you are open to talking about intimacy will go a long way in making her feel respected and safe.

Communication is key here – never assume anything. Many trans dating sites offer the option to specify operation status and more, yet this does not mean every person experiences this the same. The wonderful thing about human sexuality is how varied and colorful it is. Explore with curiosity and an open mind. Don’t set yourself any expectations to meet, or signal your transgender partner that there is a certain way they have to perform in order to earn your affection. 

After all, you are dating a transgender woman from a place of love, on a quest for belonging and connection. Neither one of you is in this for a quick hookup - there are other ts dating apps for that.

While there are certainly more tips that will help you navigate the trans dating experience, this hopefully proves a useful guide and starting point. Now off you go, be brave, and make a move!