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The modern dating market is pretty saturated. It’s all about ruthless competition. And the typical dating behaviour of a cis woman doesn’t make things any easier. Well, an exception is always there but humans tend to interpret things through generalization. It’s natural. So, generally speaking, a cis woman is in the habit of playing constant games and making men go on chasing her till they are exasperated, tired and totally confused.

The ambiguous and rather manipulative behaviour of a cis woman has also got to with the fact that she actually has no clue as to what exactly she is looking for. And that is the usual thing to happen when you are in a woman’s body by default. You take it very casually, the whole thing about a woman. You are a woman because you have a woman’s body. It doesn’t mean for you much beyond that. You don’t spend hours thinking about being a woman, pondering on the beauty and ecstasy of femininity. You just take everything for granted.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is not a woman by default. She is a woman by will and her strong desire to be one. She doesn’t let her body become an impediment in her journey as a woman. The extent to which she is willing to go in order to physically alter her body if of course her choice and decision. But she is a beautiful woman inside out. And that’s because she lives and breathes femininity and womanhood. It’s a matter of life and death to her. And that is precisely why getting a transgender girlfriend is in a different league altogether.

If you think dating a cis woman is the ultimate thing, you have probably just seen the tip of the iceberg. You have just seen the societal manifestation of what people call a woman. But if you want to date a real woman, you have to get a transgender girlfriend.

There are many reasons as to why you should date a transgender girl. Let’s discuss some of these here:

She Understands Your Needs and Desires

Now, you might say that the same is true for your average cis woman. But it isn’t. A cis woman just responds to your needs and desires in a way that is guided by her hormones. It’s like because she is physically a woman and she needs a man, she lets you make those moves and then responds accordingly. She is just playing by her biologically identity. But she doesn’t really understand your needs and desires.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is in a unique position because of being born in the wrong body. She is a woman but because of her past experiences, she understands the male perspective and male psyche very well. She understands his needs and desires in totality. An average cis woman cannot even come near her understanding of men simply because they haven’t had that intimate peep into both worlds.

Because a transgender woman has this in-built sensitivity, she responds to male attention and admiration with genuine and heartfelt gratitude. When in the last time you remember a cis woman responding with gratitude to your efforts at getting to know her? Most of them have probably either snubbed you off or treated you as if you were a creepy stalker who was harassing them.

To be honest, it’s not entirely the fault of cis women either. They are bought up with a worldview that essentially sees men as perpetrators and women as victims. Therefore, their natural instinct is to ward off male attention by creating a halo around themselves or by playing games with men. A transgender woman is not bought up with that worldview. Because of her past life experiences, she has a very complex and nuanced understanding of how men are. So, she does not judge them. She responds to them with an open heart and understands their needs and desires.

She is Beautiful

There are a lot of societal myths about trans women concerning their appearance. These myths essentially brainwash you into believing that transgender women are manly, coarse and they do not bother with their looks or appearance. In reality, these are just a bunch of lies propagated by a hypocritical society that still finds it hard to accept a transgender woman.

The reality is that a transgender woman is way more beautiful than an average cis woman. If you check out the profiles of trans women on any transgender dating site, you would know what I mean. Even if you just google ‘trans women’ you would come up with images of women who could give a Victoria Secret model a complex.

A trans woman puts in a lot of effort when it comes to her appearance. She takes great care of her skin, knows how to apply make-up well and is always dressed up perfectly for the occasion. On the contrary, it is the average cis woman who is slovenly and careless about her appearance. How many cis women you know would turn up for a date in a pair of jeans and a casual t-shirt with a face that looks like they have just woken up and walked straight out of the door? Probably many. A transgender woman would never do that. She would go to great lengths to select an appropriate dress, footwear and accessories for the occasion. Finally, she would also select an appropriate look for her face. And when you do meet her, it will be like a Hollywood diva is sitting with you!

She Accepts You as Who You Are

With a cis woman, you need a lot of filters. You can hardly be your original self with her. She has way too many expectations. And in order to fulfil those, you are always trying to project an image. The real you have to be kept hidden. And that can get very stressing and frustrating for a man. None likes to go on pretending forever.

With a transgender woman, you can be the real you. She has had such a challenging life full of complex experiences.  A trans woman has undergone so many turbulent emotional states that she is mentally very mature and understanding. She knows that a person has many sides. She won’t necessarily judge you for things that are probably a very big deal for a cis woman. Even if she has certain doubts about something, she would not dramatically flare-up. She would coolly and calmly discuss the situation with you. A transgender woman would not get upset with you every now and then over trivial matters.

A transgender woman also has a more fluid conception of masculinity. She would connect with you as a person. With her, you don’t have the pressure of constantly having to project a certain masculine image. With her, you can be yourself.

She Might be Your Soul Mate

The whole idea of dating should be ideal to find a soul mate. But does the concept of soul mate really exist these days? It seems like a far-off thing from fairytales and the past. The disillusionment with the idea of eternal love has got something to do with the dating patterns of cis women and men.

Modern dating has become a game, a show off the venture. It is anything but love. It is natural that modern men have become disillusioned with the idea of finding love. And they just go from girl to girl, taking her out on expensive dates, buying gifts for her. But somehow, they lose that will to create a connection with the other person’s soul.

A transgender woman might just be the soul mate you have been long looking for. She doesn’t have the kind of expectations from you that a cis woman has. She doesn’t play toxic games with you. She doesn’t judge you constantly. With a transgender woman, you can be your real self.

And it’s only when we drop the façade of presences that real love begins. Or at least the possibilities of it begin. In order to get anywhere even close to real love, two people have to communicate with each other’s souls. And for that to happen, they have to connect with each other at a very genuine level.

Modern-day cis men and women are not falling in love with each other. They are just falling in love with each other’s reflections that they chose to call man and woman. And that is why they are so unhappy in love. They end up thinking there is no real love. But when you date a transgender woman, you have finally met someone who is willing to look directly into your soul. She is beautiful outside but she is not shallow. She is also beautiful inside. She has a heart of gold. And if you are lucky, maybe in her, you have finally found the soul mate you have been long looking for.

The popularity of a transgender dating site has risen dramatically over the past couple of years. A lot of these dating sites are open to both trans and cis folks. Joining a trans dating site is an excellent way to look for your soul mate. You can end up meeting someone with who you want to be in a serious relationship or simply meet a diverse set of interesting people from all over the world.

As a cisgender person, joining a trans dating site is going to open up your mind to different kinds of worldviews. You will get out of your narrow comfort zone and learn to appreciate beauty and diversity in a more wholesome sort of way.

A transgender dating site is a perfect place for finding your soul mate. Especially if you are an introvert and would be terribly shy of approaching anyone in person randomly at a café or a bar, then a trans dating site is just the right thing for you. You can talk to many people without having to worry about the embarrassment of having to talk face to face. Of course, you are going to speak face to face and have a proper date if you do meet an interesting trans woman or man out there. But when you are in the initial phase of just connecting with people, you can do so while keeping your privacy and reserve intact.

A transgender dating site is many things together. And there are numerous benefits of joining one. This article is going to list a few of them:

You Have a Better Chance of Meeting Like-Minded People

When you are trying to meet your potential love interest offline, your options are limited. The maximum you would do is meet someone interesting at a café or a bar, a friend’s party or a public event in your city. You can of course meet people randomly and end up talking to them but the chances of that happening are totally dependent on fate!

But if you join a transgender dating site, you can view profiles of interesting people from all over the world at the click of a mouse. When you have the chances of communicating with such a diverse set of people, then the chances of meeting someone like-minded increase manifold. Your options are not so limited by fate or chance.

You Have the Advantage of Multitasking

Now, this is a fairly practical advantage of joining a trans dating site. On a dating site, you can zero down on a number of profiles that interest you and talk to many people simultaneously.

This kind of multitasking is not quite possible when you are looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend offline. There are practical limitations of time and space online and there is no technology at your disposal so you can just talk to one person at a time.

If you have a busy schedule, dating can seem to be very time-consuming. You are so busy with your work that you’d rather postpone dating than having to find a partner offline! A trans dating site with its advantage of multi-tasking is just the right thing for you.

No Fear of Judgment

When a man tries to talk to a random woman he feels attracted to at a party or a public event, that woman might just totally ignore him or think of him as a stalker. This can be a huge put off for any man looking for a potential love interest offline.

Unless he takes the chance of interacting with unknown women, how does he look for his soul mate? One can of course meet people through friends but then that again is a very limited set of people. When you are looking for a love interest, you really need to be able to communicate with a lot of people. It is after a lot of hits and trial that you can be with someone you feel connected to.

On a trans dating site, there is no fear of that kind of judgment. The whole purpose of a dating site is well, dating! So, you can talk to as many people as you like without the fear of being labelled creepy. Everyone out there has a common goal. They are looking for someone to date. And so, everyone is willing to take chances and connect with many people. That is again a drawback in real life. When you are trying to talk to somebody, how do you get to know if they are even looking for love or not? I mean, of course, you can ask them but you can’t do that straight away right. Maybe, a person just has a friendly attitude overall and you mistake it for flirting.

On a transgender site, there is no space for that kind of confusion. Everyone is out there for dating. If you are chatting with someone and you think it’s going somewhere, you can pretty much ask them straightforward questions to avoid confusion or disappointment later on.

You Meet a Person Only When You are Ready

This is a big advantage of dating through a trans dating site. There is no time limit. You can communicate with a person for a fairly long period of town without facing any pressure of having to meet them.

On a transgender dating site, you can build up your rapport with a person slowly and organically. Get to know their interests, hobbies, and their worldview. Talk to them regularly over a period of time. And if and when the two of you feel it’s the right time, you guys go out on a date in real life. There is no pressure to do so quickly. In real life, it’s the opposite. You spot someone at a café or a bar or a friend’s party, get insanely attracted to them and ask for their phone number. If you are lucky and you do get that number, you end up going on dates after casual texting.

This is so not the right approach for a serious relationship. This sort of thing can lead to flings but not necessarily a relationship. It’s like you two have started seeing each other before you even figure out what the two of you have in common. And if you guys don’t really have anything in common, then the thing just collapses and you both realize it was a waste of time.

A trans dating site follows the good old school model of dating in a way. It gives you the chance to figure out a person and evaluate them before the two of you meet in real life.

A Trans Dating Site is Great for All Personality Types

The so-called real world is full of judgmental people. If you are a transgender person, it gets almost impossible to look for a partner offline. There is fear of social judgment, discrimination and even violence at times. That’s precisely why a trans dating site is a safe place for transsexual people to look for their soul mate without the fear of societal disapproval.

A trans dating site is not just for transgender people though. It is open to all sorts of people – cis folk, bisexuals, people who are ambivalent about their gender identity, etc. It is a diverse and liberating universe in the true sense of the world. A trans dating site gives all personality types a chance to look for love.

A Trans Dating Site Protects Your Privacy

Sometimes, a transgender person can be vulnerable to abuse even online. In such a scenario, a foolproof mechanism for protecting one’s identity becomes very important. When you register on a trans dating site, you can choose to give out only that much information about yourself as you desire.

You can of course upload photos and videos of yourself to attract a potential love interest. But you can also limit the pictures and other details that are visible online.

A trans dating site gives you a lot of autonomy in terms of controlling what personal information you share and with whom you share it. In conventional dating, it’s difficult to control that kind of thing. You meet someone in real life, get carried away and that makes you more vulnerable to potential harm. It’s possible that you got so carried away that you gave your phone number and even address to the other person right away.

A trans dating site can save you from that kind of scenario. Here, things are totally under your control. You are not meeting someone in real life, to begin with. You are checking out thousands of profiles that are registered on the site. And from there, you choose a few profiles and start chatting. But you are chatting with them online, not meeting face to face. So, there is little chance of getting carried away.

On a trans dating site, you can be a little bit objective about the whole dating thing, especially in the initial phase. You can protect your personal information and this saves you from any potential harm or trouble.

A long-distance relationship is not for everyone. It is for those who truly believe in love and are willing to walk that extra mile for it. They are willing to even undergo physical separation from their lover for the sake of love. Relationship with a transsexual is not everyone’s cup of tea either. When you have committed yourself to dating a transsexual person, you have already signaled to the world that you are a unique person whose choices are not dictated by societal dogmas and stereotypes.

Your transsexual partner is anyways tough enough to endure a long-distance relationship. They have already won the challenging battle of coming out in the open with their identity. And transitioning is an extremely difficult phase. So, if they have come out of all that victoriously, they won’t really let distance become an issue if they are in love with someone.

You have also battled societal stigma, disapproval and outright condemnation while making the decision to date a transsexual person. So, you are a tough cookie as well. However, this does not mean that keeping a long-distance relationship is an easy deal. On the contrary, it is extremely challenging to be in a long-distance relationship with someone and keep the love alive.

Regular communication is very important for a long-distance relationship. And so are a couple of other things. This article is going to list a couple of tips that can help you keep up such a relationship. If you and your transsexual partner follow these tips, then even distance cannot be an impediment in your journey of togetherness and love!

Trust

Trust is the foundation of a long-distance relationship. Well, it is important for any relationship. But in a long-distance relationship, its importance is doubly elevated. You guys don’t stay in the same town physically. So, you have no way of really finding out what the other is doing most of the time, where are they going, who are they meeting. And you probably also have a work-life, deadlines to meet, household chores to fix. So, you cannot just leave everything aside and constantly spy on your partner through phone or social media! That would also be mentally unhealthy for you and toxic for your relationship.

Therefore, the only thing that works is trust. You have to realize that you two are together for a reason and distance is only a temporary impediment. Trust is of course not built overnight. It requires regular communication. Even though your relationship is long-distance, you have to make your partner a priority. Make sure that the two of you talk to each other almost every day even if it’s for a short while.

Just a virtual hug or kiss from your partner before you are going to sleep can go a long way towards building trust. If any of you are super busy and cannot communicate for a while due to some reasons, just tell that your partner. Communication keeps everything sorted. And lack of it creates mistrust.

If there is something about your partner’s behaviour that is bothering you and if despite all the trust, you have started doubting something, just ask them candidly. A good, honest conversation is like a stress buster and trust builder in any long-distance relationship.

Make Time for Each Other

You both are super busy. And you both have your own life, your own circle of friends wherever you live. But you have to understand that being in a relationship; you have to be each other’s priority.

So, it is very important that you create time for each other on a daily basis. Most of us spend a lot of time on social media even while we are working. So, it’s super easy to slip in flirtatious text messages to your transsexual partner once in a while even during work hours.

Get creative with your communication mode. Send each other pictures and videos from your everyday life. If you are in a restaurant having a great time with your friends, maybe you can just shoot a small video using her phone, tell your partner where you are and you are having a good time but are missing them. These small gestures go a long way towards keeping the fire in your relationship going.

Do not do everything by a plan. That can get monotonous and boring. Be unpredictable every once in a while. Send her a text or a WhatsApp message out of the blue telling her what you ate for lunch today. The idea is to be a part of each other’s immediate universe even though you are not living in the same town physically. It is certainly challenging but if you make time for each other and think of innovative and fun ways of communicating, you can do it.

You Have to Keep the Love Alive

Now, this is the point where a lot of long-distance relationships falter. Lack of physical intimacy due to the distance factor can ruin even the best of relationships. Sexual love is a basic need for everyone and if they can’t get it from their partner, they start looking elsewhere.

So, it is important that you and your transsexual partner find ways and means to keep the fire of love and passion burning despite the distance. You can consider having phone sex. Tease each other with sexy photos and messages. Phone sex can get very close and intimate if you are into it. The two of you can constantly moan and breathe erotically while you are building up the erotic crescendo over the phone. If you can actually imagine yourself getting physical with your partner while the two of you throw in graphic details of what you are doing to each other, phone sex can get very real.

Now, love surely doesn’t mean only physical love. Emotional love is very important too. In fact, in any relationship, after a point in time, emotional love is the real thing and physical love becomes an expression of your emotional intimacy with your partner.

So, it is important to keep the romance alive. Maybe, have a candlelight dinner date through a live zoom conversation! Create that mood in your apartment with beautiful lights, candles, wine and all that. Ask your partner to create a similar setting where they live. And then the two of you can have a live date. You can even try out a similar kind of live dating session from a restaurant or a café.

It’s also good to get old fashioned once in a while. That is, you can surprise your transsexual partner by sending chocolates, roses, greeting cards, flirty lingerie or whatever gifts they like once in a while.

Last but not the least, a simple ‘I Love You’ in the morning after you get up and, in the night, before you go to sleep would make your transsexual partner feel your love like you are sleeping just next to them.

Make Plans to Meet Each Other Once in a While Despite the Distance

A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean that you are constantly making love only on phone! You have to make some sort of a commitment to actually seeing each other in person even if it’s for a couple of days in 2-3 months.

And you have to make sure that when the two of you do meet each other, that time is literally reserved for your relationship. When your transsexual partner is visiting you, make the most of that visit. Even if it means going a bit out of your way and postponing all appointments, just do it. Nothing is more important in life more than a loving partner.

A couple of days of togetherness can be like a lifetime for people who are in a long-distance relationship. So, you and your transsexual partner have to make each other a priority and try and make travel plans to one another’s city if and when possible.

Discuss the Future of Your Relationship

Now, this is very important. In a long-distance relationship, you go to figure out where exactly it is going after a point in time. That is, the two of you should have a concrete roadmap for getting together at some point in time. The distance is ok at the moment but there has to be some mutual vision of the distance ending sometime in future.

Have candid discussions with your transsexual partner on a regular basis. No one wants to be enduring distance infinitely. There has to be some light at the end of the tunnel. So, the two of you have to have a concrete plan as to when and how the two of you can be together in one place. And you have to constantly discuss the progress you are making on that plan.

After all, it is for the sake of love that the two of you are putting up with a long-distance relationship. And that love has to materialize in you being physically together at some point in time.

A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

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As the adage goes, the first impression is the last impression. In order to woo the transgender woman of your dreams, it is important that everything about the first date is in sync with her personality and sensibilities. Each individual is unique so you cannot have a generic date plan for every situation. You got to do a bit of homework and come up with something that strikes your trans woman as interesting and fun.

You might even be nervous and jittery thinking what if she gets bored on the date. It is obvious to have those mixed feelings when you are embarking on something new. But there is no need to panic. Planning an awesome first date is no rocket science either. You just got to be a bit smart, innovative, and creative.

This article gives you a couple of tips that would help you in planning that great first date with the trans woman of your dreams.

Come Up With Several Options for the Date Venue

This is important. A date is about two people. So you can’t just announce to your transgender woman that you’ve booked so and so place and that’s where you got to go. You have to give her a couple of options to choose from. And that’s why planning in advance is necessary.

Obviously, it’s not possible to have an unlimited number of options so 3 is a reasonable number. Give her at least 3 options to choose from. No matter how well you’ve figured her out, you can never be sure about someone, especially when you haven’t ever met them in person before. That is another reason why having a couple of options for your date venue is important.

It will also give her the impression that you genuinely care about her likes and dislikes. It is obvious that when you meet someone through a trans girl dating site and have just communicated with them online, there are some doubts and hesitations on both sides. That is why it’s important to go slow and take the preferences of your trans woman into consideration.

It’s best to go for venues that are relatively near to wherever she stays so that she feels safe getting back home. On the first date, she might not trust you enough to drop her back home even if you make the offer with all good intentions. Therefore, it’s important that the date venue is somewhere close to her residence so that she can get back safely by herself as well.

Take Her Personality into Account While Deciding the Date Venue

The best rule to follow is to have three options in hand – one with a classic and neutral date venue and two others that are customized to suit your trans woman’s personality and hobbies.

If you are going out on a date with her, it’s obvious that you two have been chatting for a while through a trans dating site. So you must have figured out something about her likes and dislikes. Is she a rock music girl? Or is she someone who would enjoy a date at an artsy café or bar with some jazz in the background? You got to figure these things out. Maybe, she is not that much into music at all. Perhaps, she enjoys outdoor adventure more. In that case, you might have to plan out a different kind of date for her altogether.

When you tell her about a date plan that’s totally custom-made according to her aura and persona, she would really appreciate it. Your transgender woman would obviously notice that you haven’t just given her a list of stock venues to choose from. On the contrary, you made a great effort to figure out her vibes and plan accordingly.

It’s best to keep one option classic and safe just in case she wants to keep it conventional and low-key since it’s your first date. Whichever option she chooses, but she will certainly notice and admire your initiative in figuring her out and planning a date accordingly.

Keep Your Budget in Mind While Planning the Date

When we are trying to impress someone, it’s easy to go overboard and spend beyond our means. Resist that temptation. If a girl falls in love with you, it’s not for your money or the expensive places you take her out to. It’s for your personality, charm, and sincerity. So when planning out that first date with the trans woman of your dreams, make sure you stay within your budget.

It’s very much possible to have a great date even within a limited budget. You just need to be a good planner. Check out various deals and discounts being offered at several restaurants and then choose some options accordingly. It’s very important that you are comfortable with the prices of the place you choose since you got to bear all the expenses yourself. As a rule of thumb, you pay for the first date, and then for the subsequent dates, you and your partner can split the bill.

Once you reach a certain comfort level with your trans girl, you can tell her your concerns without any hesitation or embarrassment. You can confide in her that your budget is a bit limited. She would not take this against you. On the contrary, she would appreciate that you trust her enough to share such an important detail of your life with her. Being open and honest with one another is the basic foundation of any relationship. To begin your first date on that note.

Remember Your Online Chats with Her

Now that the planning part is over, it is very important to figure out how to behave during your first date. Obviously, you try and strike a great conversation.  Starting though is the tricky part since the two of you have only spoken through a ts dating app and are meeting for the first time. A golden rule to follow is to remember all your previous chats with her and initiate a conversation accordingly.

Even if you had been talking only through texting till now, there is a certain rapport you’ve built. So take it forward from there. Remember any specific comment she made about something in one of your chats and bring that up. Tell her how that made you think about a particular subject. The safest way to start a conversation is to talk about general things like hobbies and interests. Everybody likes movies and music to a certain degree. So you could talk about that as well.

Real-life chemistry is obviously very different from talking to someone online.  A lot of it is destiny really. It can be like fireworks or go totally cold. But remembering your online chats with your trans woman is a good place to start. Once the initial awkward phase is over, your natural chemistry will come into play. But to begin a conversation, you got to start from somewhere.

Ask Her Out On a Second Date

If it all goes well and the two of you are having an awesome time on your first date, it’s time to ask her out for a second one. If she had a good time with you, there is no reason really why she would say no. But it’s important to make that second date offer right there and then when you are out with her because if you leave it for later on, she might think through it and change her decision. And you don’t want that to happen!

When you are in the flow of things and there is some chemistry building up between the two of you, that’s the best time to ask her if she would like to see you again. And once she says yes, you would have a brand new date to plan and look forward to!

Ask Her to Text When She Reaches Home

For a woman, it’s very important that you are concerned about her safety and well-being. You might be the best-looking and charming guy in the world but all that doesn’t amount to anything for her unless you are considerate and caring. Make sure that once the date is over, you ask your trans woman to text you once she gets back home.

If she forgets to text you for some reason, take the initiative to text her or call. That would make her feel that you genuinely care for her.