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A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

One of the benefits of meeting a TS woman on a  transgender dating site is that you’ll get an excellent opportunity to get to know her personality without physical appearance being too much of a focus. Aren’t we all a lot more relaxed when conversing with people on Trans Dating Apps, rather than in person? The privacy of your own home lends itself to many great chats.

Once you’ve clicked with your potential date, it is important you get to know each other. During this time, ask relevant questions when you chat with her or them on the transgender dating site of your choice. “Her or them”– asking about pronouns is a very respectful way to start, for example. While many trans women use female pronouns, not all do. It is wise that you get into a mindset of never assuming you know the answer when talking with your match and to have meaningful conversations. After all, both of you are after something long-term and real. Ensure you set a solid foundation for mutual respect and honesty. Your conversations online will help you build a rapport before going out on the first date. Knowing more about her likes, dislikes, aspirations, and dreams builds trust and will prove crucial for surviving your first date. 

However, it is the date itself where the fun begins. Meeting a person for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience, even for the most confident of individuals, and regardless of gender. Fear not, though – in order to make sure that all goes smoothly between you and your match, this article will provide a survival guide for your first date with a transgender woman.

Get Rid of the Pre-Date Nerves

While being nervous prior to a first date is completely understandable, too much nervousness can have a negative impact on your date. You might start babbling too much due to your nerves, stop listening to her questions and replies, and make a fool out of yourself in some way or another.  

Of course, whoever you connected with on the ts dating site might face the same problem. You can safely assume, however, that they will do their best as well to rein in their nerves before meeting you.

One way to reduce your apprehension is by simply distracting yourself with something interesting before the date begins. If you like to hit the gym, do so a few hours before your date in order to keep pre-date jitters at bay. The following shower or bath provides a wonderful chance to prepare yourself in terms of attire.

Reading a book, watching a video or episode of your current favorite show can also help distract you from nervousness.

If neither of these ideas resonates with you, it might be a good idea to do some housework. Clean the room you’ve been procrastinating on, do laundry or reorganize shelves and cupboards – the manual tasks will certainly soothe your nerves.

The trick, basically, is to keep yourself preoccupied so that you avoid overthinking your situation, that is the upcoming first date with a trans woman. Eliminating pre-date nerves will help you feel relaxed and prepare you to have a good time when the date begins.

Prepare Accordingly

Speaking of preparation: A successful first date involves some level of preparation for what you are about to experience. This holds true both on the physical and emotional levels.

In terms of physical appearance, ensure that you are well dressed in a way that suits the context of your date. While clean, comfortable clothes are perfect for casual walks in the park, a dinner date or first meeting for coffee might require more refined attire. Hitting the sweet spot with clothing can be tough, and the fear of being over-or underdressed might cause you ample anxiety before your date. In that case, why not reach out to friends and ask them for help? They will certainly be more than happy to assist you in choosing the right outfit for your first date with a transgender woman.  

Emotional preparation includes planning the topics you want to discuss with your date. Brainstorm a little: What did you talk about when you were still chatting on the ts dating app or transgender dating site? Can you follow up on any topics, or expand your interest in others she mentioned? Also, think about yourself:  What would you like to share about your day, your week, your life? What strikes you as important for a potential partner to know? When you are well prepared, conversations will run smoothly and you will feel a lot more charming and confident. This will certainly carry over to how your date perceives you.

Arrive On Time

Being late is a total turn off for many people, whether or not they are transgender or cis. So yes, plan diligently when it comes to your journey prior to the date. Do not forget to take into account weekday fluctuations in traffic and check reports earlier to ensure you do not miss any news about road closures or cancellations of public transport.

If you must be late for any reason, whether or not it is your fault, make sure to call or text your date to tell them that you won’t be able to make it on time. Additionally, you should have the decency to apologize to your date once you arrive in person and try to make up for your lateness. If your date has spent their time waiting for you, then you had better be worth the wait.

Enjoy the Date 

Of course, we all want to have fun during our first date! Sometimes, however, we are too nervous or preoccupied with how we come across or how the other person perceives us to remember that we are on a date and should be enjoying the time.

If that is the case, don’t shy away from admitting to it. Showing the self-awareness to say “I’m sorry, I’m really nervous right now” will prove your sincerity and open up the date to a more intimate connection. Anyone who joins a  dating site for transgender women, men, and others will have their share of negative experiences that undoubtedly influence how they feel about going on a first date with someone. Being open about this will create a safer space for both you and your match.

Enjoying the date also includes flirting and trying to make your date laugh. You can be as silly as feels natural to you – after all, your potential partner wants to get to know you, not the facade you think you need to project.

Be careful with complaints. If you find the date’s venue to be awful, don’t spend all the time dwelling on this. This will make you come off as a negative person. You could instead suggest a change in location if you think so strongly about it. This will make you seem pro-active.

At all times you should be civil, polite, and open-minded. Listen when she answers your questions and be honest when replying to inquiries into your own life. Telling the truth is always the best policy, although doing so with tact and kindness will leave an even better impression.

Ending the First Date

Knowing when to end the first date can be quite difficult. Saying goodbye to someone you have not known for long can be awkward.

You can alleviate this by thinking of how to end the date on a positive note in advance: Do you want to accompany her to her car, or her train or bus? When bidding goodbye, consider how you can show that you truly enjoyed her company and want to see her again.

One thing to avoid is a rushed departure. If you have an appointment or commitment to attend to after your date, even if it’s just your bedtime because the next day is a workday, don’t let the time catch you by surprise. Remain aware of how late it is so you can guide the date to a natural end that leaves both of you feeling content and appreciated.  

Follow up

Last but not least, it is highly recommended to follow up after a first date. You might test her when you arrive back home or wish her a good night after thanking her for a great time.

If she beats you to it, reply in kind and signal that you want to make plans for a second date. No need to rush a decision that day, but showing her that you are more interested than before will help cement the foundation you both are building for a long-term romantic relationship.