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In this 21st century, dating has developed due to the development of technology. Social media platforms have taken the root course for dating. They offer a base for people to meet and mingle. It’s easy for people to meet online and start dating. There are many dating sites where trans people can get their soul hearts and their love life. Transgender dating sites are many. Trans people should make use of it to get the love they desire. For one to live a happy life full of love, he/she has to get the right person. To get the person might be hectic and cumbersome. The transgender dating app and trans dating site can help leverage this issue.

Transgender Dating App

It’s a trusted app that offers a good platform for trans dating. It has hookups for all categories according to what you want or desire. I strongly recommend it for trans women and men who want to get people whom they wish to have in life. If you are looking for a romantic and serious relationship that will put a smile on your face, then this is the way to go. While on these media accounts, whether on iOS or Android version, you feel free to be yourself and narrate your history but there explaining what you feel comfortable with on the platform. You will be in a position to know each other on the site and build strong relationships there. The transgender dating app is a community of people interested in getting partners who are trans. You will get a transman or woman there. Both of you commit to each other fully. If you have been having issues with getting people who will appreciate you as a transwoman or a transman then, don't hesitate to join the transgender dating app community.

Transsexual Dating Site

It's another platform where the business happens on a serious note. Here you will find serious relationships that will give you the love that you desire. It connects singles who are looking for serious, stable, and long-lasting commitments. It is an open forum for all people trans or not. It has members who are not trans but interested and also in need of dating trans people. You are free to venture into it and feel free to establish strong connections that will enable you to get what you desire. All you need to do is to make a strong profile that you can change later as time goes by.

Dating Sites for a Transgender Woman

There are many dating sites for transgender women available on the web. All you need to do is to be cautious with which dating site you want to use to find love. All these platforms offer almost the same privileges and will enable you to find at least someone almost to the one you were looking for on the trans woman dating site. Of course, it can’t be 100% of what you desire but a good percentage of the person you wished to have. Make a good profile that will sell you out and attract the type of guy you need. Be cautious of con people who may use these platforms to blackmail you. Some transgender dating sites get improvised to reduce the risks of having these effects of blackmailing.

The dating sites for transwomen and trans people at a higher percentage will comprise of members who have a feeling or are in love with trans people.

Be cautious about how you disclose yourself. Here are some of the precautions you are supposed to keep in mind while searching for your soulmate online.

Security Measures on a Dating Site

The following measures will not guarantee you 100% safety while on a dating site but will give you hints on how to operate safely on a transgender woman dating site. Having a glimpse of it will be of help to you personally.

    — Unique Dating Site Profile

The photos you use on trans dating sites should be unique. Don't use the same profile you use on other social platforms like Instagram and Facebook. You will be an easy target as anyone can easily track your other social media accounts and get to know more about you. You will get exposed to fraud and other threats. Place people in darkness by not allowing them to locate your other social media accounts.

    —Be Extra Vigilant About Suspicious People

As a transgender woman, be alert on any profiles that you suspect. In case you realize one, then report the person to the admins of the dating sites. You can also go ahead and block that individual. Blocking will give you great peace of mind while working online and at night. Connect with people you are comfortable with around you. 

    —Decline Financial Requests

On the trans dating sites, flee from accounts that request financial help. It is a clear indicator that the profile isn't for the aim of finding a soulmate but conning people. Do thorough investigators before you offer any financial support. If it makes sense, then lend out a helping hand. If not, you better stay with your sweat all through.

By any chance you get an account that requests for personal financial records as an individual on the transgender dating sites, then you are at liberty to decide on what to do. Decide whether to block him at the dating site and report the number as a scam.

Online Dating Precautions on the First Date

    —Do detailed background research

Have a clear view of the person your intent to have on a dating site. Set your goals and conditions that this person has to meet. When you get your soulmate and before you even meet him, have a piece of background information about him. Dating sites for the transgender woman may not give the exact picture of that person. Thorough research will enable you to know him beyond the dating sites and other social media platforms. They make you aware of the kind of person you are meeting on your first date.

Research has to be on the exact location the person is requesting you to meet him. Know why that person is insisting on that particular area. Have some history of the restaurant you will sit in. The last precaution in this category is that you must meet in a public place for security reasons. Dating sites for transgender will not guarantee you security on where you meet on your first date. It's upon you to ensure you meet at a place where you will be comfortable and secure. It will save you from being founded by conmen or being subducted.

    — Make Use of the Google Voice Number

Don't be in a hurry to give out your number to strangers. You can meet men or women. Use voice calls and messages offered by google. They will enable you to be private and, in any case, you decide to quit, nobody will disturb your peace of mind. Give out your number after the first date and after doing a thorough investigation on the person who is receiving your number. Give out after you are sure of his intentions on the dating sites and you.

Make at least two to three video calls to know the physical appearance of that person. It will enable you to be able to recognize the person on the first date quickly when going on a blind date. Video calls make one reduce the problem of catfishing by a person who is personification to be someone else. Video calls enable one to read the non-verbal cues about someone that will depict his hidden characters. You will be in a position to know the person well.

    —Use Your Means of Transport

Agree on the dating area and time of the meeting. It should be an individual responsibility to avail himself or herself at the venue at the agreed time. Don't accept rides offered by the person you are meeting for the first time. It will be risky since you don't know the person and his intentions for you. Human trafficking and abduction are real.

If you have your vehicle, then drive yourself, and if you don't have one, then use the public means. You will be safe.

    — Don’t Be Too Confidential About the Date

Have someone you trust and with whom you can share your secrets. Apart from the two of you who are dating, have a third party who is aware of your date. Third-party people are vital as they will give out your details and the details of the person you are meeting in case of any danger. If possible, you can have a friend accompany you to the date but will give the two of you some space to discuss your issues. Third-persons make it hard for that stranger you are meeting to harm you. Be confidential about your sensitive tips. The stranger shouldn’t know you before the two of you meet.

    — Develop a Defense Mechanism

Strategize and come up with a viable defense mechanism in case you get attacked on your first date. You may use pepper spray that you can use to defend yourself. You can also have some crude weapons that you can easily access in case your life is in danger. The defense mechanism, weapons should be confidential and, no other person, including the person you have a date with, can access it easily or even spot it fast.

    — Stay Fresh and Sober

People make a big mistake on their first date. Don't go for the date while you are not sober. Others go for the date and get alcoholic drinks. It could be a big trap that you may not be able to escape. While drunk, you can’t make vivid decisions. You won’t be in a position to defend yourself physically when attacked. Staying sober is a great thing to keep in mind. Be also keen on the drinks and foods served. You may get yourself dragged through them and, you get yourself in trouble.

Online dating sites are fine when keenly observed. A woman tends to be more vulnerable than men. As a woman on any dating site, there are incidences of physical violence, stalking, and rape on the first date outside the dating site for transgender women. Safety should come first and foremost. The few tips I have shared here will help you in and outside the transgender app and other sites for transgender dating. Have a blast as you search for your special someone through these trans-sexual and transgender dating sites. Remember to be cautious since not all people on the dating site for transgender women may have ill motives. Watch out for your safety.

It had been quite an excruciating experience in the dating world, faced with disappointments and heartaches. But I decided not to give up on my journey of finding my soulmate. I wanted to try something new and have a unique experience; you never know love comes when you least expect it.

I signed for a transgender dating site and immediately downloaded its trans dating app. I spiced up my dating profile and found this beautiful, blonde-haired attractive, and charming trans woman. Our first date was a romantic candlelit dinner in a fancy restaurant. I have learned over time that first impressions do matter, and you should have seen me. I was dressed to kill, ready to meet my perfect match. I was too excited and nervous to meet her.

As my date walked in, I was astonished as she looked way too beautiful than in pictures. We immediately clicked, we had interesting talks on various topics, the table was filled with laughter and endless giggles. It was quite a fulfilling night, way much than I expected. As time went by, I came to fall in love with her and understand her more. I now understood why many men had hitches when dating a trans woman. Here are some ways to help you be a better partner to your trans girlfriend and even nail dating a trans woman if it's your first time.

Develop interesting conversational topics

Before going to my first date, I remember to myself I would not under any circumstance ask my partner about her sexuality or her transitioning journey unless she brings it up herself. I imagined going to the first date and my sexuality is brought up; it would make me uncomfortable.

When dating a trans woman, try as much as possible to avoid talking about their sexuality or gender reassignment. Everyone goes through a different life journey, and you don't know what wound your partner is trying to heal from. The only time you can speak on their sexuality is when they allow you to. If you have any lingering questions as you continue knowing each other, bring them up in a sensitive, caring, and polite way.

You can talk about various things on your dates and physical activities, and you can talk about each other hobbies and interests.

Be Yourself on the First Date

When going on your first date, you know how you are incredibly nervous to the point you are afraid of talking or being yourself. One thing I have realized when going to date be yourself. Try as much as possible to steer up a conversation to avoid pauses that will make your partner feel cautious about themselves.

If you are a chatty individual naturally, don't shy away from talking. The same applies if you don't like chatting a lot, try as much as you can to have a conversation. Usually, the body language and talking pattern can help one identify if you are comfortable or not. You don't want your date to feel uncomfortable by how you relate and talk to them.

Be Courteous

The transgender community has had its rough times in society. You've heard cases of discrimination, abuse, and violence meted on the trans community and LGBTQIA as a whole. These make them very cautious of anyone who wants to be around them. Any politeness and kindness go a long way.

When with your partner, be a gentleman and make her comfortable. Even when visiting friends or family, make sure they deal with her politely and with kindness. Please don't insist on bringing her around people who make her feel uncomfortable or self-cautious. You need to protect your lady.

She is not your Sexual Fantasy

I can't say this enough, dating a trans woman is like dating any other woman. When registering in an MTF dating site, find your soulmate, and not fulfill your insatiable sexual fantasy.

7 out of 10 trans women will tell you they get weird sexual advances to form straight guys in their trans dating site message section.

Understand your partner's sexuality

There is always this confusion that since trans women are part of the LGQBTIA community, they are gay. This is not the case; a transgender person is born with either male or female sexual organs and features and decides to change into another gender. When dating a trans woman, understand that she is a trans woman, don't confuse her for a gay man, make this clear with everyone around you if they may not have this understanding.

When dating a trans woman, you are still a straight man; it doesn't make you a member of the LGBTQIA community, though it doesn't hurt to be one either.

Being a trans doesn't define a person

Please get to know your date first before jumping to conclusions based on their gender transitioning. Most trans women are scared of being dumped on the first date because they opened up about their gender. Interact with your date and get to know and understand their extraordinary personality.

In case they open up, please don't turn the date into a Q & A session to fulfill your trans research. No one would appreciate ifs a stranger turns their life into google. You are allowed to be curious, but not annoyingly and uncomfortably.

Don't keep your trans partner a secret

Not everyone will get why you are dating a trans woman. It's not the public opinion you are after. It's all about you and your partner and how you love and care for each other. Go out on dates with her, hold her hand while walking, have fun stuff to do outdoors that other couples do. Hang out with other teams, and doing all these will make your partner feel like you genuinely care for their happiness, and you are not afraid to show them off to the world.

Don't be afraid to take your relationship to the next level in fear of your family's say about your partner.

Treat a trans woman with the same respect you have for other ladies

Recently, I asked a straight guy friend of mine if he can opt to date a trans woman. The guy told me that "His toxic masculinity can only be handled by a girly girl who is a real submissive woman and not a trans woman." I was left wondering why men are viewing trans women with less respect as opposed to other ladies. Trans women have feelings too. They are someone else's sisters, wives, mothers, and friends. I bet you wouldn't like it if your sister gets disrespected just because they are trans. They face discrimination violence, and it would be best if they have a peaceful and respectful environment around them.

Another guy said, "A trans woman is masculine like and can end up beating me like a guy" This is a wrong view of the trans women world. Just like other ladies, they are soft and tender towards the male gender. Society needs to change its' perspective on trans gender people.

Not all trans women are the same

Imagine if your date stood you up because you have the same hairstyle as his ex. That’s messed up because no one is the same as the other. We are all different in one way or another. And that applies to trans women too. They might have gone under the same procedure to get to where they are now, but that doesn’t make them the same.

They have different bodies and personalities. Please don’t go around viewing one trans woman the same as another who wronged you. Get to know them before hating on them all. And don’t assume that they all have the same body structure because all are trans. The way you view a trans is not the exact way your friend will view them.

Respect a trans woman decision

Transitioning to their preferred gender is already a decision that they have to live with all their lives. You don’t need to question why they did the procedure or why they are the way they are. It takes courage and high self-esteem for one to make such life-changing steps and all they will need after is support from their partners and loved ones.

Give them a reason to believe that they made the right decision. Please don’t make their lives hard or regretful. I know you’d hate for someone to mess up with your life.

Transgender dating is exciting, and it's pretty much like any other kind of dating; nothing so special about it. It is one thrill that has to be experienced to be understood. Trans women will rock your world and will give you a new experience. The only thing that a man starting on this journey of trans dating has to do is show up with a pleasant disposition to the date, have an open mind, and look for love. It is simple, uncomplicated, and beautiful.

Time and again, you hear of a missing person's report and killings of individuals who had gone to link up with someone they met on a dating site. The risk is even high with our minority group; they have been instances where some of us have been beaten up, raped, or even killed for being who we are.

All in all, this shouldn't put a halt on our quest to find someone who will love, care, and cherish us. Online dating is a new way of meeting people, and it is here to stay. The next time you download a new Transgender Dating App for Android or Transgender Dating App for iOS, ensure you uphold safety when using the app.

 A laptop, phone, or tablet can't show you a person's true nature; it will mask who they are. Below is a way to help you navigate the use of a transgender dating site safely.

  Unfamiliar photo

In filling in your details, don't use the same profile photo you use in other social media accounts; use one which is unique and not on any social media platform.

  Do not disclose your personal information 

When creating your profile, leave out all details that can point out who you are, such as social media handles, contact information, etc.

  Use the app 

It is advisable to keep all communication through the app; you may find someone, and after a couple of dates, start to feel comfortable and decide to take the conversation out of the app. Yes, it is convenient to do so, but it is also dangerous. When the relationship doesn't work out, you are safe since the other party doesn't have your number; maintaining communication inside the app offers you protection until you fully know the person.

  Get a Google phone number 

After going on a few dates with this person, it's only normal to change numbers eventually.  You can set up a Google phone number and forward it to your phone; this is safe than giving your cell phone number.

  Be cautions when meeting

While using a dating site for trans woman, you always have to be on high alert. It's not advisable to let someone you have met online to know where you live. When you guys have a date, meet in a public place and use your means of transportation. Before going out for the date, let someone close to you know where you are going and how long the date will last. During the date, share any alarming scenario or any change of plan with a friend or relative.

Don't leave your drink halfway when using the restrooms, every time you walk out, ensure you have finished your drink or food, or get a fresh one. The first few dates are advisable to keep them short. At any point, you feel your safety is compromised exit the date immediately.

Put your safety first when using a transgender dating site to look for a lifetime partner. There are many creepy people out here hiding behind their keyboards.

When a transgender woman finally agrees to a first date, you will definitely be on cloud nine. However, now comes the tricky part: Where do you go on your first outing together? Being prepared for your first date is crucial to its success. The first date should be casual, but not so laid back that it seems unplanned.

Your first date with a transgender woman should give you a chance to chat and get to know each other more. Therefore, you should choose a place with a good atmosphere that gives the two of you a chance to converse freely. If you do not have any ideas for a good first date location, continue reading the following tips to find one.

This is the simple yet rewarding location for a first date. Choosing a good bar can be a little tricky, so choosing a location with a relaxed or intimate atmosphere is best. An ideal bar for the first date should be dimly lit and relatively quiet. This works well because it creates a good ambiance and actually allows you to hear each other during conversation.

Meeting for coffee is another great first date idea. If you are on a tight budget, this is ideal because coffee is relatively inexpensive. The simplicity of a coffee date is another positive attribute because, with fewer variables, your date is more likely to end successfully. Given that coffee dates are almost always in the morning or afternoon, it makes things a bit more casual and friendly than an evening date. However, if you want to increase the romance, you can choose a coffee shop with a more intimate vibe.

A dinner date is one of the best ways to add a bit of romance to your first date with a transgender woman. Although this idea sounds like a no-brainer, many people actually get it wrong because they pick the wrong venue. For example, it is highly recommended that you avoid fancy restaurants because your date might expect nothing short of five-star treatment on every date. Keep things relatively casual, to begin with, and save the fancy places for special occasions.

A day at an amusement park is another perfect first date idea. It provides you and your partner with plenty of time to talk and have fun. When people have fun, they tend to let their guard down. As a result, you will get to know more about your date as a person. Additionally, unlike the other ideas, being at an amusement park offers many opportunities for physical contact with your date.

Awareness of multiple genders and sexual orientation has recently taken a limelight in the media, however misconceptions and stereotypes still linger because of this. Before we start to dive into this subject matter, it is important to know simple terms such as gender, intercourse, and sexuality. Gender is what people feel within themselves, according to cultural understandings. Such as girls are soft and compassionate, whilst men are less so. intercourse is a biological term which directly refers to the genitals one was born with. Sexuality is whom one is attracted to sexually and emotionally. This may or may not align with their gender.

Gender fluid is an identity that seems to be regularly mistaken. Gender fluid refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. It is a gender identity which can be described as a mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.  Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation. It is solemnly as what they feel like inside, and gender fluid people never seem to stick with a single gender identity.

Many celebrities consider themselves genderfluid, such as Miley Cyrus, Tilda Swinton, DJ Ruby Rose, and Andrej Peji?. Standards for each gender has been ever evolving, from more intense beliefs, to sneaky yet still beliefs.

One of the main misconceptions for people who are gender fluid is that their gender is nonexistent, however, an individual who is gender fluid experiences a constant shift between the gender spectrums. There are some people who fall under the Trans spectrum that do not feel dysphoric about their gender, but it is well known that most do. Gender Dysphoria is a feeling of your physical body not matching up with how you feel internally that it should be. Many people would describe the feeling of dysphoria in many different ways, though all of the ways that it is described make it clear that it is a negative feeling.

Many people who are gender fluid will date bisexual or pansexual people, those who are attracted to two genders or are attracted to people no matter what gender they are. Some people who are gender fluid will use pronouns other than he/him or she/her. Some will use the gender-neutral they/them, or another term that they choose and use regularly. Along with different pronouns, sometimes they will use gender-neutral terms for themselves while dating. Instead of having their significant other calling them their boyfriend/girlfriend, they will term such as “date mate” or even a term as simple as “partner” or “significant other”.

Many people who are gender fluid will often dress and appear as unisex or androgynous, though in some cases they will decide to mix objects that most would place within gender categories. A good example of that would be someone who decides to wear masculine appearing clothing, with makeup or another part of themselves appearing feminine.

It is recommended that when coming across a genderfluid person, that you politely ask what pronouns they would like to be referred as. Some people who experience fluid gender don't use the word "genderfluid" for themselves. Some people with fluid genders call themselves by a word such as genderqueer, bigender, multigender, polygender, or other words. This can be because the people haven't seen the word "genderfluid," or it can be because they don't think it describes them well. It's important to understand that each person has the right to decide what to call their gender identity and that they're the only one who can do that.

Some genderfluid people find that their environment does not influence their gender identity to change. They find that their gender fluidity is unpredictable and happens randomly. Other genderfluid people find that their gender changes depending on the situation, and is influenced by inside or outside sources. For genderfluid people who think their changes in gender might have to do with their menstrual cycle, they think it might be caused by how the natural hormone levels rise and fall during that cycle. It’s possible that a person might think that they tend to feel male during their periods even if that’s only rarely the case for them because the incongruence of that situation would feel noticeable and memorable.

The biggest thing to keep in mind for both sides of a relationship with someone who is gender fluid, whether that relationship is platonic or romantic, is being honest with each other about who you are and what you are looking for. Being open with a significant other can really be better for both people involved than one might think.

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Gender transitioning in a transgender person is a complex process. There are two main components at work here, social transitioning and medical transitioning. Social transitioning involves coming out as a transgender in front of society. It means asserting one’s new gender identity. So, someone who was born a male biologically will assert their gender identity as a trans woman and vice versa. Social transitioning often begins before medical transitioning. In fact, some transgender folks prefer to live out the life of their new gender identity without making any physiological changes. Instead, they adapt to their new gender by dressing up, voice projection and by trying to adopt the mannerisms and behaviour of the gender they feel they belong to.

But a vast majority of transgender people undergo some sort of medical transitioning. For a trans person who was assigned female gender at the time of birth but feel that they are male, medical transitioning can go a long way towards helping them balance their life and relationships. Having a body that stands at odds with the gender he strongly identifies with can be a source of acute distress to a trans man. This can induce feelings of gender dysphoria; a state where a transgender person’s biological gender becomes a source of agony to them and they even strongly desire a change in the sexual and bodily manifestation of that gender.

Medical transitioning can indeed offer a new lease of life to a trans man undergoing gender dysphoria. It can also do wonders for his love life and relationships. If he wants to date somebody through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating app, he no longer has to worry about her biological characteristics standing at odds with his new gender identity.

Whether you are a cis woman wanting to date a trans guy through a trans dating site or a layperson curious to know more about transgender people, it is important for you to understand the basics of female to male gender transition. Once you understand the kind of transformation a trans man goes through in order to embrace the male gender biologically and socially, you’d be able to appreciate and understand him in a much better way.

This article lists out the most important components of female to male gender transition.

Gender Reassignment Surgery begins with Hormone Therapy

There are different kinds of procedures and treatments involved in gender transitioning from female to male. Gender Reassignment Surgery is the blanket term used for all such treatments.

In female to male gender transition, medical transitioning usually begins with hormone therapy. During this therapy, the transgender person is giving the male hormone testosterone. Hormone therapy is used to induce physical changes in your body so, in the case of a female transitioning to a male, it will induce the biological characteristics of the male gender in their body over a period of time.

Once you are administered hormone therapy, you start noticing increased body hair growth as well as facial hair growth. You might also notice the loss of hair on the temples. Receiving the male hormone testosterone can also deepen your voice, giving it a more masculine texture. However, if you are into singing, your voice might start cracking for a while and you might lose your singing range while you are transitioning. Male hormone therapy can also thicken your skin, thus making you more tolerant of cold.

Testosterone would also stop your menstrual cycle. This would generally happen within three months of receiving your dose. It will also increase your sex drive as well as appetite. Experts say that if hormone therapy for female to male transition begins before the changes of female puberty start, then female biological characteristics like the development of breasts can be avoided altogether.

Mastectomy or Top Surgery

Mastectomy or top surgery is the most common surgical procedure for trans people undergoing female to male transition. In this procedure, unwanted breast tissue is removed in order to flatten out the chest and give it a more masculine appearance. Depending upon your body structure and specific needs, the surgeon can utilize a number of techniques to achieve the desired results.

Many trans people undergoing female to male transitioning opt for Mastectomy as the only surgical procedure. The reason for that is that it is a very safe procedure and one that can be performed by a relatively large number of surgeons.
 

Facial & Body Masculinization Surgery

Now, this is an optional procedure. Trans men who desire a close to perfect and well-chiselled masculine face can opt for Facial Masculinization Surgery. This surgery utilizes a range of techniques and procedures in order to give the face a more masculine contour. A combination of techniques like cheek augmentation, rhinoplasty, forehead lengthening, jaw contouring, etc., can be utilized, depending upon your specific needs.

Body masculinization surgery can be used by those who are looking for the perfect male physique. This surgery utilizes a broad range of techniques to target fat deposits in those specific areas where the female body usually accumulates fat like thighs, breasts, buttocks, etc. The liposuction technique is then utilized to transform your feminine hourglass figure into a masculine body type. The sought-after masculine body type involves broad shoulders, a super flat stomach and little or no fat in the lower part of the body. The surgery tries to replicate this kind of body structure for you.

Facial and body masculinization surgery can be great for trans men who are looking at dating someone through a transsexual dating site or a transgender dating app. Looking like the perfect guy you dreamed you always were can do miracles to your self-confidence. However, it is important to maintain this great body through proper diet, exercise, adequate water intake and ample rest.

Bottom Surgery

Bottom surgery is the final step in your transitioning process from female to male. Also known as Gender Confirmation Surgery, this type of surgery involves the construction of a penis through the procedure of phalloplasty or metoidioplasty. Before undergoing this procedure, a trans person might wish to undergo a hysterectomy. In partial hysterectomy, the uterus of the person concerned is removed. They can also opt for additional and more complex procedures in which fallopian tubes and ovaries can also be removed.

Bottom surgery is quite complicated and it is only a very experienced surgeon who can perform this type of surgery. Not all trans men undergo bottom surgery. It is also a very expensive procedure. The concerned person undergoes detailed counselling before they decide to opt for bottom surgery.

Medical Transitioning is just a part of Transitioning

This is the most important point to understand. When we talk about a trans person transitioning from female to male, medical transitioning is just a part of it. Transitioning is a complex procedure that involves social transitioning. Even before undergoing any medical procedure, a trans man begins to come out in the open by dressing up as a guy, by creating a bulge in the genital area by using a rolled-up sock or through various prosthetic devices and by wearing clothing that camouflages the bulge in the chest area.

A trans man closely observes the body language and mannerisms of other men around him and then tries to adapt accordingly. He regularly checks out the latest trends in male fashion and then picks up male apparel that is suitable for his body type. He also joins a trans dating site or a transsexual dating app to look for a prospective partner. In fact, he is always on the lookout for the best transgender dating sites. A trans man also goes through a transgender blog and becomes part of a transgender forum where he gets to learn from the transitioning experiences of other trans guys.

Medical transitioning is just a part of the entire transitioning process. What matters most is the confidence with which transgender guy can embrace the male world.

It’s all about Striking a Balance

Balance is the underlying principle of life. It’s the same with female to male transitioning. A FTM trans guy needs to find the right balance. Some trans men try to overdo the masculine guy part. They go all over-aggressive, domineering and try to feign insensitivity just to show how tough they are. That’s just not needed. Being a man doesn’t mean that you have to feign some kind of toxic masculinity. Just like everything, hyper-masculinity has some negative traits which need to be avoided.

A real man is all about empathy, kindness and magnanimity of heart and spirit. He is a tough guy on the exterior but his heart is soft and vulnerable. He can do anything to take care of his lady love and also has compassion for human beings in general. This is the kind of guy a trans man should want to post transitioning. And this is the type of guy any woman would fall for once she meets him through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating site.

During transitioning and after it, a FTM trans guy has to find his unique sweet spot and project a masculine image accordingly while he is dating someone through a trans dating app or a transsexual dating site.

Chances are, you want to not simply survive but thrive as a trans guy, both in private and on online dating sites for transgender folks and allies. While there are many tools you need to have in your metaphorical self-care kit, building confidence is chief among them.

What exactly is confidence?

Before we dive into a list of tips and suggestions on how you can build it, we first need to define what we mean when talking about confidence. Self-confidence often overlaps or is used as a synonym for self-esteem or self-efficacy. While there are similarities, it is interesting to note the differences, too:

 – Self-efficacy:

Refers to your belief about your own abilities regarding specific tasks. Self-efficacy basically is the real-life concept that corresponds with the famous Henry Ford quote: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”

 – Self-confidence:

Meanwhile, reflects your general belief about how likely you are to fulfill a goal. Your past experiences play a huge role in both self-efficacy and self-confidence, but self-confidence refers to a broader view instead of focusing on specific tasks.

 – Self-esteem:

While often used interchangeably with self-confidence, is quite different from it. Self-esteem reflects your belief in your overall worth as a person. Viewing yourself as a “good guy” is a statement of self-esteem, for instance. In that, it is even broader than self-confidence, and improving your confidence will help your esteem, too.

Obviously, the lines between them are blurry, and there is no linear trajectory you can follow. You may have enough confidence to think you’re capable of learning to make bread, yet at the same time lack self-efficacy and you assume your first attempts will be horrible. And whether or not you can bake a killer loaf, you hopefully still think that you deserve love and happiness.

Why is building confidence essential for FTM trans guys?

Insecurities and self-doubt are core components of ill mental health and poor well-being, so finding ways to improve your confidence will definitely help you.

As a trans guy, whether you identify as FTM, genderqueer, nonbinary butch, or else, building self-confidence can be especially tough. Questioning societal standards and stereotypes of what it means to be “manly” and finding your own way takes a lot of energy, perseverance, and yes, confidence.

So how do you build it? Think of it as a muscle: you need to train it to strengthen it.

Here are several useful tips you can choose from and try for yourself. See what works for you and maintain it until it becomes second-nature to you. Your confidence will never falter again. 

Understand Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Even if the mean voices in your head (or on the internet) want to tell you otherwise, everyone has unique skills, both hard and soft, as well as talents in various areas of your life. Likewise, you will have areas in your life you do not excel at.

While many of these will remain the same after your female-to-male transition, some may have changed. As a rule of thumb, make sure that you know what you are good at and what your weaknesses are. Once you understand these areas, you will have a clearer mental image of yourself and what you will need to improve your self-confidence.

Be a Friend to Yourself

Unfortunately, some FTM trans men are their own worst enemy. It is impossible to build your self-confidence if you are the one constantly putting yourself down. If you want confidence and high self-esteem, you need to foster an attitude of love and acceptance.

When a negative thought arises, ask yourself: “Would I say this to about my best friend to their face?” Catching yourself when your inner voice turns self-deprecating is the first step to stop the habit. Once you notice it, actively work against it. If you think, for example, “I didn’t manage all I wanted to do today, I’m such a loser”, and notice it, tell yourself that you are human and some things take more time than anticipated. You tried, and that’s what’s important.

Remember and Celebrate Your Successes

Please steer clear of grievous mistakes like downplaying your success or only focusing on what you are struggling with. Such an attitude will not help you build self-confidence. Focusing on the negative aspects of your life will only drag you further down. However, if you create a habit of celebrating your successes (no matter how small they are), you will soon feel more confident.

These celebrations can take various forms: taking a walk for yourself, giving yourself a break to enjoy a cup of tea or coffee, spending time with a friend to cheer for your achievement, or simply giving yourself the satisfaction of crossing the item off your to-do list for the day.

Remove Things That Bring You Down

Out of sight, out of mind –  this affects reminders of your shortcomings or of negative experiences as well. Be sure to hide or get rid of items that evoke negative thoughts when you see them.

Beyond the shirt you wore to that horrible breakup, these things can be as varied as mean friends, a job you hate, or a habit you have gotten into. Reflect on the impact these have on your life and eliminate them for good.

Smile At Yourself In The Mirror

Looking at your reflection can go a long way in helping you accept yourself. When you do, be sure to smile. If you do this every day, you will feel happier and more secure in yourself over time due to something called “facial feedback theory”. The expression on your face has been shown to help your brain register and intensify the emotions it perceives on your face.

Improve Your Posture

Just like smiling at yourself, sitting up straighter, or striking a “power pose” has been proven to boost confidence in studies. It might feel awkward at first, but remember that stepping outside your comfort zone is a core component of your journey towards more self-confidence.

Do Not Compare Yourself To Others

Every person is unique. Just because this FTM person achieves a very masculine appearance and maybe has better muscle definition than you does not mean you have ‘failed’ at being FTM. You differ in your genetics, your socio-economic backgrounds, and much more – focus on yourself and don’t measure your progress against that of others. Easier said than done, sure, but so essential to keep in mind.

Take Risks

There is no better way of building self-confidence than taking risks. Taking risks shows – mainly to yourself – that you are confident in yourself and your abilities. If you now think you have to do something scary or dangerous to achieve this, think again: Simply getting out of your comfort zone and trying something new counts as a risk in terms of building self-confidence.

In essence, this point is all about living your life to the fullest. Take a moment to reflect on what you would like to try and do. Learn how to skateboard? Sign up for a transgender dating site? Strike up a conversation with a friendly-looking stranger? Sure, you might find that you do not like the outcome of something you do, but you may forever regret not giving yourself the opportunity to try. Your self-confidence will definitely thank you!

Be Persistent

At the end of the day, there is no miracle cure for low self-confidence. There is no pill you take or action steps you follow once and overnight, you are filled to the brim with confidence. It truly takes time and effort to build up. Therefore, you should be persistent, see mistakes your make as learning opportunities to help you avoid repeating them in the future, and never give up. If you lose sight of the journey, don’t beat yourself up. Life happens, we get busy. Simply get back on track and resume your self-confidence practice.

On a final note, if you are struggling with self-confidence and do not know where to start, find a trusted friend with whom you can share your troubles. Having a strong support system will help you be more confident and give you the foundation you need to begin building confidence on your own.

Get ready for the most fun you’ve had in forever! Once you feel confident enough, it’s time to sign up for an ftm dating site. There are many transgender dating apps out there, and platforms that facilitate online dating for trans women, men, and others have increased. You have ample space to search for other trans singles or trans allies who are looking for a serious relationship.

If chatting with potential dates is outside your comfort zone… treat it as practice for your self-confidence boosting journey! You might find the perfect partner without expecting to. 

Too bad that for most people, connecting with potential partners via ts dating apps or platforms has its limits. Who doesn’t know the feeling when the exciting chatter with a new match or contact gives way to tedious and monotonous discussions of topics you’ve covered again and again? In case you are new to online dating, be prepared to make such experiences.

While chatting online with people you cannot see, communicating only via text messages and emojis, can become boring very quickly due to the nature of the conversation, another risk you face every time you open your ts dating app is the ‘what’ you talk about. Too many times, a lovely and wonderful meeting in the virtual room of a site has devolved into tedious accounts of the respective person’s day. If there were a  rewards or points program that gave you a penny each time someone asks you, after a gap in communication, “How are you?” or “How was your day?”, we would all be millionaires already. 

Don’t misunderstand, though: Sharing details about your day and your life has its place in online dating. How someone replies to “How was your day?” tells you a lot about what this person values in life.

Yet if they say the same thing for three days in a row, or their replies grow shorter by the minute, then you know you have hit boredom territory. 

Since yes, chances are high that your date or chatting partner also shares this sense of listlessness while engaging with you. If you don’t act now, you might ruin what could have been the start of a great romantic journey for yourself. Therefore, you have to ensure that you keep every online date you have as memorable and fun as possible, both for your sake and your partner’s.

Easier said than done, however. There is a certain degree of creativity needed in order to spice up your conversations, especially if you haven’t seen the hide nor hair of the person you are talking to. And while you might consider yourself quite the open-minded, flexible person who could excel at an improv class if these were still a thing (at least in person), you might eventually run out of ideas as well.

This is why we have gathered a list of tips that can help you turn those monotonous conversations into memorable and delightful moments of the budding romance.

Tips on how to get creative with trans dating online:

– Share meaningful details

When the inevitable question of “How are you?” or “How was your day?” arrives in your inbox, consider one-word replies banned for life. Think about the reasons instead:  Why do you want to say you’re fine? Why was your day just okay, as opposed to great or wonderful? Add these tidbits to your answer. Being honest will motivate your online dating partner to reply in kind.

– Speaking of honesty: be truthful

You signed up for this transgender dating app or this trans dating site to find a real connection and long-term romantic partnership. Leave the posing and flexing for hook-up culture. Admit to driving an ancient car because it is more fiscally responsible. Own your career trajectory, wherever it has led. Share your struggles with your identity (especially on dating sites for transgender women, men, and other folks). Only if you are honest will you find people who share your values and outlook on life, which is the basis for a successful relationship.

– Ask questions

Even if you are nervous or unsure if it is okay with the other person to simply pose questions, this will help get conversations going. Most people love talking about themselves, so seize that to your advantage. Think about what you would most like to know and start with that.

– Think of new topics to talk about

Yes, this might be a no-brainer, but all too often, online chats are centered on just telling each other what you have done for the day. If you go for this strategy every time, both you and your date are going to lose interest soon enough. So off you go! Find new topics that are interesting enough to help you talk with your date at length and with vibrancy. The first and best place to start is, of course, the other person’s profile. Check out their interests and hobbies. If none are listed, put on your detective hat and inspect the photos they uploaded. Look for the context, and ask about it.

– Use outside resources

Once you have exhausted the new topics you thought about, there is nothing wrong with involving outside help. This can come in the form of a fun news article or blog post that caught your eye, or simply a trailer for a new series or the announcement of a new album by a band you or your chatting partner cares about. You will be surprised how such a little gesture can bring you closer together and kick-start a passionate discussion.

– Expand your repertoire

As in, surprise your dates once in a while! Show them something they do not expect to see when you start the chat. It may be a video of you singing their favorite song, or a photo of your pet (or child) delivering a thoughtful or funny message. By sprinkling in surprises into your online dating chats, your potential partners will always look forward to receiving a notification that they have a new message. It might also, in turn, inspire them to reply in kind and think of surprises for you.

– Embrace your inner child

Not necessarily by talking about your childhood interests (although that can be a fascinating topic all on its own), but by being silly together. Yes, even when you are only conversing online you can have fun with antics and banter. You can post photos of yourself wearing crazy headpieces and costumes. You can play games as if you are together. You can compete with each other about who can tell or find the funnier jokes. Do not think that, just because finding love online is a serious topic,  that you need to stay ‘on brand’ with that tone all throughout your online dating experience.

– Go beyond simple chatting

Of course, you will want to limit your online dates to messaging or the occasional voice message at the beginning. Yet once you are comfortable and, most importantly, have established a foundation of trust with the other person, make use of the many opportunities that technology has already developed. Hop on a video call – or plan on for a time that fits both you and your date’s schedules – and allow your match to hear your voice and see your face. This would help you carry on conversations for a long time without becoming easily tired of having to type everything you want to say. Needless to say, this also opens up your dates to new possibilities, like a shared dinner over video chat or a game you both enjoy.

– Flirt!

Seriously, get that charm on and use it to your advantage. Only if that is your talent, though. Awkward moments are inevitable, but you don’t need to ask for them. As an alternative, simply be your nicest self. Respect the other person and show you appreciate them taking the time to engage with you.

As you can see, there are so many ways through which you can improve your experience on ts dating sites. You do not have to limit yourself just because the nature of online dating has you taking through a keyboard without a visual of the other person. Be creative and let your mind rule over your physical boundaries.

But hang on… how do you know what is the right strategy to use? 

A valid question, the answer to which depends on the respective situation. Think about how your date engages with you and determine which vibe you are getting from them. Serious or playful? Cheery or restrained? This can give you an idea of how to start being more creative with online dating. Once you have begun, do not be afraid to experiment. Try out different approaches and see how your potential partner reacts. This will help you practice, give you more insight into the person you are communicating with, and help filter out those who definitely don’t fit your expectations. 

And hey, if you have exhausted all options and are at the end of your list of ideas, it might be time to genuinely take the experience offline! Sure, that’s another thing that is so easily said but poses challenges when it comes to execution. But if you apply the same creativity to this step, you will certainly find a way that fits both your and your date’s lives and personalities.