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Time and again, you hear of a missing person's report and killings of individuals who had gone to link up with someone they met on a dating site. The risk is even high with our minority group; they have been instances where some of us have been beaten up, raped, or even killed for being who we are.

All in all, this shouldn't put a halt on our quest to find someone who will love, care, and cherish us. Online dating is a new way of meeting people, and it is here to stay. The next time you download a new Transgender Dating App for Android or Transgender Dating App for iOS, ensure you uphold safety when using the app.

 A laptop, phone, or tablet can't show you a person's true nature; it will mask who they are. Below is a way to help you navigate the use of a transgender dating site safely.

  Unfamiliar photo

In filling in your details, don't use the same profile photo you use in other social media accounts; use one which is unique and not on any social media platform.

  Do not disclose your personal information 

When creating your profile, leave out all details that can point out who you are, such as social media handles, contact information, etc.

  Use the app 

It is advisable to keep all communication through the app; you may find someone, and after a couple of dates, start to feel comfortable and decide to take the conversation out of the app. Yes, it is convenient to do so, but it is also dangerous. When the relationship doesn't work out, you are safe since the other party doesn't have your number; maintaining communication inside the app offers you protection until you fully know the person.

  Get a Google phone number 

After going on a few dates with this person, it's only normal to change numbers eventually.  You can set up a Google phone number and forward it to your phone; this is safe than giving your cell phone number.

  Be cautions when meeting

While using a dating site for trans woman, you always have to be on high alert. It's not advisable to let someone you have met online to know where you live. When you guys have a date, meet in a public place and use your means of transportation. Before going out for the date, let someone close to you know where you are going and how long the date will last. During the date, share any alarming scenario or any change of plan with a friend or relative.

Don't leave your drink halfway when using the restrooms, every time you walk out, ensure you have finished your drink or food, or get a fresh one. The first few dates are advisable to keep them short. At any point, you feel your safety is compromised exit the date immediately.

Put your safety first when using a transgender dating site to look for a lifetime partner. There are many creepy people out here hiding behind their keyboards.

The internet has opened up a whole new world of magical possibilities, exciting permutations and combinations! Especially when it comes to dating, the online medium is indeed a blessing. It offers you the convenience of looking for the right person at leisure, from the vantage point of your own terms and conditions. When you are looking for a trans girlfriend, the internet is your saviour, quite literally so.

Finding a trans girlfriend offline is not easy, if not altogether impossible. However, finding a trans girlfriend online is not that difficult. You just need to know the right kind of dating sites featuring the profiles of trans women and you are good to go.

It’s always best to do some research beforehand. Given the sheer number of sites for transgender dating, it might all be a bit confusing for you initially. Everything might just appear a bit too overwhelming. But if you manage to do some preliminary research with a cool head, you will certainly figure out how to go about it.

This article is going to offer you a couple of tips that would help you find a trans girlfriend online. And these tips are hopefully going to make the whole journey of finding a trans girlfriend easier and exciting!

What Kind of Trans Girlfriend You Are Looking for?

Now even if you wanted to date a cis woman, this question would certainly pop up. When you are looking to date somebody online, you need to be specific in your criteria. It is not like walking into a random bar and striking a conversation with any woman that catches your fancy!

Online dating is certainly very different from that. So, if you are looking for a trans girlfriend, the next question you go to ask yourself is, ‘what kind of a trans woman am I interested in’? Are you looking for someone very young and possibly naïve? Do you have those romantic notions of dating a very young and impressionable trans woman and sweeping her off her feet? Or do you want to date somebody older and experienced?

Do you have any particular preferences in terms of looks – height, eye colour, figure, whatever? You also need to have a certain idea about what is it you are looking for in your prospective girlfriend mentally. Would you like your trans girlfriend to be a movie buff? Would you love it if she is as passionate about music as you are? Are you looking for a girlfriend who is a book lover? Basically, you need to figure out your own interests and then decide to what degree would you want these to be reflected in your prospective partner’s personality.

Before zeroing in on prospective trans dating sites, you also need to figure out certain practical points. Are you ok with dating a trans woman who lives in a geographically distant location? Or would you rather date someone who lives locally?

Most importantly, you got to figure out what kind of relationship you are looking for. Are you only interested in exploring the option of online dating and not taking it beyond that? Or are you seriously looking at meeting your prospective trans girlfriend offline at some point in time and then take it from there?

So, you need to ask yourself all these questions before you take to a specific dating site and start checking out the profiles of various trans women.

Check the Profiles Carefully

Now some people have this habit of just literally drooling over a profile pic they like and then not check anything else on the person’s profile! Do not do that! No matter how hot and irresistible her profile pic is, just a pic is not going to seal the deal for you. Do read her profile carefully, especially her ‘criteria ‘for a partner.

Has she mentioned very specific things about the kind of partner she is looking for? Or is she open to different kinds of people? If she is open to diversity, well and good. But if she is super specific about the traits she is looking for in a partner, express interest only if you closely fulfil that criteria. Otherwise, it’s a waste of time for both of you.

Also, do check if her age in her profile pic matches the age she has mentioned in her profile. This is crucial because if there seems to be too much of a difference, then you have no way to find out what she actually looks like now until you meet her.

Do a bit of Investigation from Your Own end

Now that you have figured out the exact site for dating a trans woman and are actually chatting with your prospective trans girlfriend, it’s about time for some investigation!

Many people have the habit of exaggerating their strengths and credentials online. Some even make up stuff. That is the issue with the online medium. You can be chatting with someone day and night, get absolutely carried away. And then when you finally meet them in person, you can be super shocked as to how on earth the two seem like completely different people in terms of behaviour and credentials.

So, you have to be constantly on your guard while chatting with your prospective trans girlfriend. This obviously doesn’t mean that you go nuts and ruin any beautiful, genuine conversation between the two of you. Communicate with the other person with an open heart and conscience. However, do keep an eye out for discrepancies. If they frequently say things during your chat sessions that stand at odds with the information they have mentioned on their profile, then these are the red flags.

Also, if you find the persona they are portraying while chatting as a bit too good to be true, then also it’s reason enough to be on your guard.

It’s better to be a bit careful while chatting with someone before you make the big move of asking out your prospective trans girlfriend offline!

Focus on Genuinely Connecting with Her

You have started chatting with a trans girl on the dating site. The two of you seem to be getting along well. It’s all good. So just try to build it up organically through chatting.

Do not rush into asking her out. Focus on creating a solid rapport. Get to know her at all levels. First, try to build some sort of intimate emotional chemistry with her. And when that chemistry is good enough, the two of you will meet offline. It will be a natural progression. But don’t force it. Let it happen organically.

Listen to Her Carefully

Now, this might sound clichéd but it’s a very important step in dating that most of us ignore. When we are communicating with someone online, we get so carried away by our emotions and thinking that we hardly listen to what the other person says.

If you have to win the heart of your trans girlfriend, listen very carefully to whatever she says. As a woman, she will love it when you pay genuine attention to whatever is saying. Try to remember minute details about the conversation you had with her during your previous chat session.

Seeing that you pay such close attention to the online time spent with her will make her genuinely admire you and desire you.

Do not ask her Uncomfortable Questions About her Past or her Body

You are looking for a trans girlfriend online. You have met an interesting trans woman and the two of you have gotten chatting. But you have no right to ask her uncomfortable questions about her body or her past life. Such questions would definitely turn her off. And it would also be rude and disrespectful by any stretch of the imagination.

She is a beautiful lady who deserves your genuine attention, love and respect. She is not some fetish who is out there to satiate your curiosity on what it is like to date a trans woman. So, maintain those boundaries. Do not ask her uncomfortable questions about her past. Interact with her as you would with any cis woman.

As your relationship moves forward organically, the chances are the two of you would meet offline as well. Even then, do not intrude into her personal space. If she has to share some things with you, she will do so whenever she feels like it. But do not like a hammer it into her head all the time that you are dying to know how it is like to be a trans woman. That would be utterly disrespectful.

If you follow the right approach while communicating with that special someone - your prospective trans girlfriend on a dating site, then who knows a beautiful life-long relationship might just be round the corner.

You just have to take things slowly, organically, not intrude into your trans girlfriend’s private space and be genuinely interested in what she says and how she says it.

Too bad that for most people, connecting with potential partners via ts dating apps or platforms has its limits. Who doesn’t know the feeling when the exciting chatter with a new match or contact gives way to tedious and monotonous discussions of topics you’ve covered again and again? In case you are new to online dating, be prepared to make such experiences.

While chatting online with people you cannot see, communicating only via text messages and emojis, can become boring very quickly due to the nature of the conversation, another risk you face every time you open your ts dating app is the ‘what’ you talk about. Too many times, a lovely and wonderful meeting in the virtual room of a site has devolved into tedious accounts of the respective person’s day. If there were a  rewards or points program that gave you a penny each time someone asks you, after a gap in communication, “How are you?” or “How was your day?”, we would all be millionaires already. 

Don’t misunderstand, though: Sharing details about your day and your life has its place in online dating. How someone replies to “How was your day?” tells you a lot about what this person values in life.

Yet if they say the same thing for three days in a row, or their replies grow shorter by the minute, then you know you have hit boredom territory. 

Since yes, chances are high that your date or chatting partner also shares this sense of listlessness while engaging with you. If you don’t act now, you might ruin what could have been the start of a great romantic journey for yourself. Therefore, you have to ensure that you keep every online date you have as memorable and fun as possible, both for your sake and your partner’s.

Easier said than done, however. There is a certain degree of creativity needed in order to spice up your conversations, especially if you haven’t seen the hide nor hair of the person you are talking to. And while you might consider yourself quite the open-minded, flexible person who could excel at an improv class if these were still a thing (at least in person), you might eventually run out of ideas as well.

This is why we have gathered a list of tips that can help you turn those monotonous conversations into memorable and delightful moments of the budding romance.

Tips on how to get creative with trans dating online:

– Share meaningful details

When the inevitable question of “How are you?” or “How was your day?” arrives in your inbox, consider one-word replies banned for life. Think about the reasons instead:  Why do you want to say you’re fine? Why was your day just okay, as opposed to great or wonderful? Add these tidbits to your answer. Being honest will motivate your online dating partner to reply in kind.

– Speaking of honesty: be truthful

You signed up for this transgender dating app or this trans dating site to find a real connection and long-term romantic partnership. Leave the posing and flexing for hook-up culture. Admit to driving an ancient car because it is more fiscally responsible. Own your career trajectory, wherever it has led. Share your struggles with your identity (especially on dating sites for transgender women, men, and other folks). Only if you are honest will you find people who share your values and outlook on life, which is the basis for a successful relationship.

– Ask questions

Even if you are nervous or unsure if it is okay with the other person to simply pose questions, this will help get conversations going. Most people love talking about themselves, so seize that to your advantage. Think about what you would most like to know and start with that.

– Think of new topics to talk about

Yes, this might be a no-brainer, but all too often, online chats are centered on just telling each other what you have done for the day. If you go for this strategy every time, both you and your date are going to lose interest soon enough. So off you go! Find new topics that are interesting enough to help you talk with your date at length and with vibrancy. The first and best place to start is, of course, the other person’s profile. Check out their interests and hobbies. If none are listed, put on your detective hat and inspect the photos they uploaded. Look for the context, and ask about it.

– Use outside resources

Once you have exhausted the new topics you thought about, there is nothing wrong with involving outside help. This can come in the form of a fun news article or blog post that caught your eye, or simply a trailer for a new series or the announcement of a new album by a band you or your chatting partner cares about. You will be surprised how such a little gesture can bring you closer together and kick-start a passionate discussion.

– Expand your repertoire

As in, surprise your dates once in a while! Show them something they do not expect to see when you start the chat. It may be a video of you singing their favorite song, or a photo of your pet (or child) delivering a thoughtful or funny message. By sprinkling in surprises into your online dating chats, your potential partners will always look forward to receiving a notification that they have a new message. It might also, in turn, inspire them to reply in kind and think of surprises for you.

– Embrace your inner child

Not necessarily by talking about your childhood interests (although that can be a fascinating topic all on its own), but by being silly together. Yes, even when you are only conversing online you can have fun with antics and banter. You can post photos of yourself wearing crazy headpieces and costumes. You can play games as if you are together. You can compete with each other about who can tell or find the funnier jokes. Do not think that, just because finding love online is a serious topic,  that you need to stay ‘on brand’ with that tone all throughout your online dating experience.

– Go beyond simple chatting

Of course, you will want to limit your online dates to messaging or the occasional voice message at the beginning. Yet once you are comfortable and, most importantly, have established a foundation of trust with the other person, make use of the many opportunities that technology has already developed. Hop on a video call – or plan on for a time that fits both you and your date’s schedules – and allow your match to hear your voice and see your face. This would help you carry on conversations for a long time without becoming easily tired of having to type everything you want to say. Needless to say, this also opens up your dates to new possibilities, like a shared dinner over video chat or a game you both enjoy.

– Flirt!

Seriously, get that charm on and use it to your advantage. Only if that is your talent, though. Awkward moments are inevitable, but you don’t need to ask for them. As an alternative, simply be your nicest self. Respect the other person and show you appreciate them taking the time to engage with you.

As you can see, there are so many ways through which you can improve your experience on ts dating sites. You do not have to limit yourself just because the nature of online dating has you taking through a keyboard without a visual of the other person. Be creative and let your mind rule over your physical boundaries.

But hang on… how do you know what is the right strategy to use? 

A valid question, the answer to which depends on the respective situation. Think about how your date engages with you and determine which vibe you are getting from them. Serious or playful? Cheery or restrained? This can give you an idea of how to start being more creative with online dating. Once you have begun, do not be afraid to experiment. Try out different approaches and see how your potential partner reacts. This will help you practice, give you more insight into the person you are communicating with, and help filter out those who definitely don’t fit your expectations. 

And hey, if you have exhausted all options and are at the end of your list of ideas, it might be time to genuinely take the experience offline! Sure, that’s another thing that is so easily said but poses challenges when it comes to execution. But if you apply the same creativity to this step, you will certainly find a way that fits both your and your date’s lives and personalities.

The online dating universe is full of characters. Especially when it comes to a trans woman, there are many guys out there who have a certain characteristic trait.  Whether you are registered on a transgender dating app or a transsexual dating site, you are bound to meet these types who are fascinated by the fact that you are a transgender woman.

Now, that doesn’t mean that these guys cannot be nice. Or that they necessarily have some ulterior motives. Love can be found anywhere. It comes under various disguises in the most unexpected of circumstances. And that’s the beauty of love. But when you’ve made a list of the best transgender dating sites and are about to register yourself on one, it’s best to get some insight into these typical personality types that you will definitely meet online.

Society still stereotypes transgender people. And these stereotypes are bound to reflect in the guys from that society. As a trans woman, you have to get used to the fact that your body and personality would often be seen through this biased lens. While that doesn’t mean that you write off those guys completely, it does mean that you have to be a bit on your guard while pursuing the dating business.

There are four typical personality types you’ll surely meet while dating online. Let’s have a look at them one by one.

The Curious Guy

Now, the curious guy is simply the guy who is way too curious about a transsexual woman. He has obviously never dated a trans woman before so he is just too overwhelmed by the novelty of the whole experience. When you are dating the ‘Curious Guy’, be prepared to be bombarded with a lot of questions related to your identity, your body, how you feel, what is your story and all that. Now while this kind of guy is not necessarily the wrong type, you might end up getting offended or hurt. As a trans woman, you might get put off by his lack of interest in you as an individual and his obsession with your ‘transgender identity’. However, if you give him a chance and not judge him too harshly, it is quite possible that he begins to admire you as an individual and connects with you on a rather genuine level once the initial ‘curiosity’ phase is over.

The Experimental Guy

Now, this is the kind of guy who might have dated a transgender woman before. But he is not interested in her as an individual. It’s a kind of an experiment for him, something he indulges in to prove that he likes trying out different things. He might be a smooth operator, making you fall head over heels in love with him. He will say the right things, never offend you, and pretend to respect you. All this unfortunately has an ulterior motive. He is probably just looking for a one-night stand to satiate his experimental urge. If and when he gets that, he might just disappear.

So, whether you’ve met him through a trans woman dating site or a transsexual dating app, this is the kind of guy you have to beware of. He will be all suave and sophisticated so it might be difficult for you to find out his truth. But if you are a bit careful, you would be able to see through his shallowness.

The best way to ward off such a guy is by actually encouraging him to see you on dates without actually giving in physically. That will expose him completely. Because physical gratification is the only thing that the experimental guy is looking for so if he doesn’t get that, he will just disappear.

But as a trans woman, you have to very careful about this type of guy. He is the kind who can actually mess with your heart and ruin you emotionally. He is himself clear about the fact that he doesn’t really want to date you. You are just an object of experimentation for him. And he will deploy all his charms, niceties, everything for that experiment to succeed. Once that experiment is over, he doesn’t know you. You won’t even exist for him. So, it is very important to stay away from this type of guy.

In fact, if you are careful, you can figure out such a guy during the initial chatting phase itself. When you are talking to several guys through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, you can actually make out from the conversation what their real motives are.

The Trans Female Fetish Guy

This kind of guy is the most dangerous. And the unfortunate thing is he is not in minority. When a trans woman registers herself on a transgender dating site or a trans girl dating site, there is a huge probability of meeting such guys. Now, this is the kind of guy who is actually into a transgender woman. He doesn’t really want to date them and is only looking for sexual gratification. He is deeply influenced by the portrayal of trans women in popular culture and wants to have some ‘fun’ with a trans woman on those lines.

For any trans woman dating through a transsexual dating app or trans dating site, this kind of guy will probably the first to take initiative and start sending messages right away because he is desperate for some action. And the ‘Trans Female Fetish Guy’ is so dangerous because he can even harm you physically.

The good thing though is that if you are a bit careful, it’s easy to recognize this personality type. This kind of guy won’t be interested in hanging out with you at public places like cafes, bars and restaurants. Even if he does meet you at a public place on the first date, it is guaranteed that from the next time onwards, he would just want to have you guys hang out together at his place or your place. His only motive is to seduce you into getting physical with him. The trans female fetish guy doesn’t want to be seen in public with you. So, once you blatantly refuse to meet him anywhere other than a public place, he will understand that you have figured him out and will stop chasing you.

But even at a public place, you have to be super careful of this kind of guy as he can go to any extent to fulfil his ulterior motives. He might just try to place your drinks or something. So as a trans woman, whenever you date any guy even at a public place, it’s best to let a friend or family member know your location so that in case you are in trouble, they can help you.

Also, once the date is over, make sure you get back to your place on your own.  Never accept his offer to drop you home. In fact, he shouldn’t have an idea of where you live. The trans female fetish guy is the kind of guy who can stalk you and potentially harm you. So, you have to be super careful while dating this kind of guy. If your gut instinct tells you there is something fishy about this person, then just feel free to leave in the middle of the date. You don’t have to give him the benefit of doubt because your safety is what’s most important.

The Random Guy

Now, the random guy is actually full of possibilities. And he can be harmful or harmless depending on the situation. Suppose you have just joined a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app and you meet a guy who seems to be a bit too spontaneous while going about everything. He just clicks on the profiles he likes and then on the spur of a moment, sets a date with you.

For a trans woman, all this can be a bit confusing and scary. It’s possible that he hasn’t paid attention to your ‘trans’ identity. Even if you’ve categorically told him that you are a trans woman while the two of you got chatting, it’s possible that he was lost in his own world and didn’t pay attention to what you said.

Meeting such a guy is like taking a chance. It’s possible that he runs away the moment he realizes that he is dating a trans woman. But an equal possibility is that he doesn’t care too much about your ‘trans’ status and the two of you connect magically and wonderfully.

In love as in life, it’s all about taking chances. Some changes work, others don’t. But there is nothing that we know for sure unless we take a chance.

At the same time, it’s important to be careful while talking to guys through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating app. Make it a point to communicate your trans status clearly from your side. It’s important for your safety because some guys can be terribly transphobic.