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Dating can be a tricky business. It’s like taking a chance with somebody and then trying and figuring out if the two of you share a common language. It’s like going for a long boat ride with a complete stranger and then gradually fathom that stranger. Romance, passion, understanding; you will have a lot of such expectations from that stranger. But it takes a while to figure out how it will turn out. However, if you are enamoured by a FTM transgender guy and can’t wait to date him, things can be even more challenging.

While dating a FTM trans guy, you can’t just take anything for granted. And if you have only dated cis guys before, this is definitely new terrain for you. You are nervous, excited, everything. However, if you follow a couple of tips while dating a FTM transgender guy, you are going to be alright. If you are lucky, then maybe not just alright but you are totally going to rock in your new founded quest for love!

FTM Trans Guys are Unique and Different

Now just because you are dating a FTM transgender guy, that does not mean you can assume that all transgender guys are carbon copies of each other. You cannot just read stuff about FTM trans guys from the internet and then uncritically apply it to your man.

It’s not that straightforward. Just like all other guys, they come from different backgrounds. Their race, religion, culture, etc. is bound to influence their personalities and behavioural patterns, pretty much as it happens in the case of everyone else.

So, you have to treat your trans guy as a unique person with a distinct individuality and try and figure him out naturally and organically. However, it is also important to realize that all FTM trans guys have different transitioning periods. His transitioning period has a massive impact on his behaviour and moods. You have to keep that in mind while dating a trans guy.

Having said that, you have to walk that tightrope between understanding his nuances and yet, treating him like a regular guy. You have to understand that your trans guy’s sexual, romantic, social and emotional needs are going to be the same as anyone else. The need for optimal emotional and sexual fulfilment in a relationship, the craving for romance, all these expectations are natural in any relationship. But at the same time, you need to consider that his needs might be different from the cis guys you have dated before.

Be Prepared to Face Labels and Stereotypes About Your Relationship

Now, this can be a bit tricky to handle. But with a bit of maturity and understanding, you can get past this phase. Since you are dating a FTM trans guy, it is quite possible that others will judge your relationship. They might label you as ‘gay’. That’s just the ‘not so favourable’ baggage that comes with dating a trans guy and you have to learn to handle it.

It is natural that you might get terribly angry at people labelling your sexuality just because of your partner’s identity. It will seem cruel and insensitive. But you have to learn to live with it. You cannot change societal perceptions overnight. But with a bit of tolerance, you can totally prevent it from affecting you or your relationship.

You just have to remember that any relationship is an intimate and beautiful bond between the people concerned. As long as you and your trans guy are discovering love, passion and emotional intensity in your relationship, you shouldn’t be bothered by anyone else’s opinion on it.

You Have to be Prepared to Support Your Trans Guy

This can be the most challenging and yet the most beautiful part of your relationship. And it is no different from any other relationship. Everyone has certain issues, some vulnerabilities that need to be addressed. We all are incomplete in ourselves which is precisely why we need a relationship. There are times when we need to constantly hear,’ hey you are wonderful. You are the best.

It is pretty much the same with your FTM trans guy. Transitioning is a challenging business. It takes up a lot of his mental and emotional energy. So, it is natural that it can create abrupt mood swings and emotional issues that only a loving partner can address.

Coming out in the open as a transgender guy can be daunting. There are times when the families of trans guys are outrightly hostile towards them. That is why it is so important for you to support your transgender man.

Make Him Feel Great About His Masculinity

Being a FTM trans guy comes with a lot of in-built expectations. And sometimes, these expectations can take a toll on your trans man’s mental and emotional health. That is why it is so important for you to make him feel great about his body, his sexuality and his masculinity.

The masculine feel is very important for a FTM trans guy. Even after transitioning, he faces the constant pressure to appear masculine and macho in a certain way. Therefore, as a partner, you need to constantly compliment him on his masculine appearance, his clothes, maybe that tough macho look in his eyes, his specific body odour that makes you go haywire.

If his quest for the ultimate manliness is supported and adored by his partner, nothing else can make him happier on earth.

Communicate and Find out What Turns Him On

Communication is paramount to any relationship. And especially when you are dating a transgender guy, it becomes even more important. You cannot just presume things that he will enjoy this or that. Make sure you have a candid conversation about what turns him on, what are his sexual needs.

He might have a certain grey area you should probably avoid while getting intimate with him. But there is no way you are going to figure that out unless you ask. For example, some FTM transgender guys might not enjoy certain sexual contact that is normative for female-bodied folk. You have to understand that transitioning is a tough battle physically and mentally. So, he might even be uncomfortable and nervous about certain aspects of the female anatomy. Again, there is no magic wand that is going to make you realize all of this. The only key is one on one, candid communication with your transgender guy.

And it is ultimately the same as any other relationship. Every partner has some preferences, some things they like while getting intimate, certain things they don’t like. Intimacy cannot be built by racing along a dark alley! You have to take it forward slowly and gently, figuring out your partner’s needs and likes along the way. And all that is going to make intimacy even more beautiful and worthwhile.

Do Not Obsess Over His Trans Identity

This is the most important tip to remember while dating a FTM transgender guy. You know that your partner is transgender and accordingly, there are certain things that you will keep in mind. All that is great. But at the end of the day, you have to treat him the way you would any other cis guy. No one likes being made acutely conscious of their identity again and again. That is rude and disrespectful. So, you have to take your relationship forward in a natural and organic manner. When you are out with him when the two of you are talking or having a great time together, reminding him of his ‘trans’ identity all the time is just not cool. And it’s even irritating for him.

You have to figure out your trans guy’s unique needs very subtly and gently. But that does not mean that the sole defining point of the relationship is that he is ‘trans’. You have to take it forward like any other romantic relationship. Candlelight dinners, evenings in the pub, walk on the moonlit beach, a quiet movie date at his place or your place, all the usual stuff that relationships are made of.

Do not Ask Him Uncomfortable Questions About His Past Life

Transitioning is not easy, as it is. It is like discarding an old life and embracing a new one that you have always wanted. When your trans guy is focusing all his physical and mental energies on being the complete man, the last thing he wants is uncomfortable personal questions that take him back to his past life.

Honesty is certainly a key to any good relationship. But there are certain boundaries. And you cannot breach those boundaries unless and until the other person is willing. Maybe, at some point in time, he will himself open up about his past life. He might himself make you a confidante in his life history. But that is for him to decide. Just because you are dating him, you cannot keep on asking your trans guy uncomfortable questions about his past life.

Just let him be. If he has to share something with you, he will by himself. Take things forward slowly and gently.

The modern dating market is pretty saturated. It’s all about ruthless competition. And the typical dating behaviour of a cis woman doesn’t make things any easier. Well, an exception is always there but humans tend to interpret things through generalization. It’s natural. So, generally speaking, a cis woman is in the habit of playing constant games and making men go on chasing her till they are exasperated, tired and totally confused.

The ambiguous and rather manipulative behaviour of a cis woman has also got to with the fact that she actually has no clue as to what exactly she is looking for. And that is the usual thing to happen when you are in a woman’s body by default. You take it very casually, the whole thing about a woman. You are a woman because you have a woman’s body. It doesn’t mean for you much beyond that. You don’t spend hours thinking about being a woman, pondering on the beauty and ecstasy of femininity. You just take everything for granted.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is not a woman by default. She is a woman by will and her strong desire to be one. She doesn’t let her body become an impediment in her journey as a woman. The extent to which she is willing to go in order to physically alter her body if of course her choice and decision. But she is a beautiful woman inside out. And that’s because she lives and breathes femininity and womanhood. It’s a matter of life and death to her. And that is precisely why getting a transgender girlfriend is in a different league altogether.

If you think dating a cis woman is the ultimate thing, you have probably just seen the tip of the iceberg. You have just seen the societal manifestation of what people call a woman. But if you want to date a real woman, you have to get a transgender girlfriend.

There are many reasons as to why you should date a transgender girl. Let’s discuss some of these here:

She Understands Your Needs and Desires

Now, you might say that the same is true for your average cis woman. But it isn’t. A cis woman just responds to your needs and desires in a way that is guided by her hormones. It’s like because she is physically a woman and she needs a man, she lets you make those moves and then responds accordingly. She is just playing by her biologically identity. But she doesn’t really understand your needs and desires.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is in a unique position because of being born in the wrong body. She is a woman but because of her past experiences, she understands the male perspective and male psyche very well. She understands his needs and desires in totality. An average cis woman cannot even come near her understanding of men simply because they haven’t had that intimate peep into both worlds.

Because a transgender woman has this in-built sensitivity, she responds to male attention and admiration with genuine and heartfelt gratitude. When in the last time you remember a cis woman responding with gratitude to your efforts at getting to know her? Most of them have probably either snubbed you off or treated you as if you were a creepy stalker who was harassing them.

To be honest, it’s not entirely the fault of cis women either. They are bought up with a worldview that essentially sees men as perpetrators and women as victims. Therefore, their natural instinct is to ward off male attention by creating a halo around themselves or by playing games with men. A transgender woman is not bought up with that worldview. Because of her past life experiences, she has a very complex and nuanced understanding of how men are. So, she does not judge them. She responds to them with an open heart and understands their needs and desires.

She is Beautiful

There are a lot of societal myths about trans women concerning their appearance. These myths essentially brainwash you into believing that transgender women are manly, coarse and they do not bother with their looks or appearance. In reality, these are just a bunch of lies propagated by a hypocritical society that still finds it hard to accept a transgender woman.

The reality is that a transgender woman is way more beautiful than an average cis woman. If you check out the profiles of trans women on any transgender dating site, you would know what I mean. Even if you just google ‘trans women’ you would come up with images of women who could give a Victoria Secret model a complex.

A trans woman puts in a lot of effort when it comes to her appearance. She takes great care of her skin, knows how to apply make-up well and is always dressed up perfectly for the occasion. On the contrary, it is the average cis woman who is slovenly and careless about her appearance. How many cis women you know would turn up for a date in a pair of jeans and a casual t-shirt with a face that looks like they have just woken up and walked straight out of the door? Probably many. A transgender woman would never do that. She would go to great lengths to select an appropriate dress, footwear and accessories for the occasion. Finally, she would also select an appropriate look for her face. And when you do meet her, it will be like a Hollywood diva is sitting with you!

She Accepts You as Who You Are

With a cis woman, you need a lot of filters. You can hardly be your original self with her. She has way too many expectations. And in order to fulfil those, you are always trying to project an image. The real you have to be kept hidden. And that can get very stressing and frustrating for a man. None likes to go on pretending forever.

With a transgender woman, you can be the real you. She has had such a challenging life full of complex experiences.  A trans woman has undergone so many turbulent emotional states that she is mentally very mature and understanding. She knows that a person has many sides. She won’t necessarily judge you for things that are probably a very big deal for a cis woman. Even if she has certain doubts about something, she would not dramatically flare-up. She would coolly and calmly discuss the situation with you. A transgender woman would not get upset with you every now and then over trivial matters.

A transgender woman also has a more fluid conception of masculinity. She would connect with you as a person. With her, you don’t have the pressure of constantly having to project a certain masculine image. With her, you can be yourself.

She Might be Your Soul Mate

The whole idea of dating should be ideal to find a soul mate. But does the concept of soul mate really exist these days? It seems like a far-off thing from fairytales and the past. The disillusionment with the idea of eternal love has got something to do with the dating patterns of cis women and men.

Modern dating has become a game, a show off the venture. It is anything but love. It is natural that modern men have become disillusioned with the idea of finding love. And they just go from girl to girl, taking her out on expensive dates, buying gifts for her. But somehow, they lose that will to create a connection with the other person’s soul.

A transgender woman might just be the soul mate you have been long looking for. She doesn’t have the kind of expectations from you that a cis woman has. She doesn’t play toxic games with you. She doesn’t judge you constantly. With a transgender woman, you can be your real self.

And it’s only when we drop the façade of presences that real love begins. Or at least the possibilities of it begin. In order to get anywhere even close to real love, two people have to communicate with each other’s souls. And for that to happen, they have to connect with each other at a very genuine level.

Modern-day cis men and women are not falling in love with each other. They are just falling in love with each other’s reflections that they chose to call man and woman. And that is why they are so unhappy in love. They end up thinking there is no real love. But when you date a transgender woman, you have finally met someone who is willing to look directly into your soul. She is beautiful outside but she is not shallow. She is also beautiful inside. She has a heart of gold. And if you are lucky, maybe in her, you have finally found the soul mate you have been long looking for.

Two-spirit is a gender that is found in only North American who fulfills one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations indigenous groups. The mixed gender roles encompassed by the term historically included wearing the clothing and performing the work associated with both men and women. This English term emerged in 1990 out of the third annual inter-tribal Native American/First Nations gay/lesbian American conference in Winnipeg. 

A direct translation of the Ojibwe term, Niizh manidoowag, "two-spirited" or "two-spirit" is usually used to indicate a person whose body has a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit. The term can also be used more abstractly, to designate the presence of two contrasting human spirits or two contrasting animal spirits (which, depending on the culture, might be Eagle and Coyote). Will Roscoe writes that male and female berdaches have been "documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America, among every type of native culture."The term berdache was coined by western anthropologists and used until the late 20th century, mainly to describe feminine Native Americans assigned male at birth. 

The term is however inaccurate and can nowadays be considered offensive. Non-natives who use this identity are often accused of "appropriating Native culture." The history of two-spirits among Indigenous American culture dates back thousands, of years and has been documented in more than 130 North American tribes. Throughout history, a person who was recognized as two-spirit was someone who identified with both male and female gender roles, and so two-spirit is essentially a third gender recognized in Indigenous cultures. 

The perspective among Indigenous Americans was that having this third gender was a strength their society benefited from. In the Zuni culture, a person's gender was not assigned at birth but was grown into 3 or 4 years of age. Two-spirits were not thought of as just a man or just a woman but as embodying characteristics of both genders in a single person, making them a more whole human being.

This Two-Spirits encourages the belief that, by avoiding the pressures surrounding an individual, they are capable of establishing their own identity. This identity for native Two-Spirit individuals arises from an acceptance of their native cultural values and a rejection of Western values. This rejection specifically applies to Western conventions regarding race and sexual identity as the Two-Spirit person’s identity is maintained by their sexual orientation as both male and female and their commitment to their culture or ethnicity.

Awareness of multiple genders and sexual orientation has recently taken a limelight in the media, however misconceptions and stereotypes still linger because of this. Before we start to dive into this subject matter, it is important to know simple terms such as gender, intercourse, and sexuality. Gender is what people feel within themselves, according to cultural understandings. Such as girls are soft and compassionate, whilst men are less so. intercourse is a biological term which directly refers to the genitals one was born with. Sexuality is whom one is attracted to sexually and emotionally. This may or may not align with their gender.

Gender fluid is an identity that seems to be regularly mistaken. Gender fluid refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. It is a gender identity which can be described as a mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.  Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation. It is solemnly as what they feel like inside, and gender fluid people never seem to stick with a single gender identity.

Many celebrities consider themselves genderfluid, such as Miley Cyrus, Tilda Swinton, DJ Ruby Rose, and Andrej Peji?. Standards for each gender has been ever evolving, from more intense beliefs, to sneaky yet still beliefs.

One of the main misconceptions for people who are gender fluid is that their gender is nonexistent, however, an individual who is gender fluid experiences a constant shift between the gender spectrums. There are some people who fall under the Trans spectrum that do not feel dysphoric about their gender, but it is well known that most do. Gender Dysphoria is a feeling of your physical body not matching up with how you feel internally that it should be. Many people would describe the feeling of dysphoria in many different ways, though all of the ways that it is described make it clear that it is a negative feeling.

Many people who are gender fluid will date bisexual or pansexual people, those who are attracted to two genders or are attracted to people no matter what gender they are. Some people who are gender fluid will use pronouns other than he/him or she/her. Some will use the gender-neutral they/them, or another term that they choose and use regularly. Along with different pronouns, sometimes they will use gender-neutral terms for themselves while dating. Instead of having their significant other calling them their boyfriend/girlfriend, they will term such as “date mate” or even a term as simple as “partner” or “significant other”.

Many people who are gender fluid will often dress and appear as unisex or androgynous, though in some cases they will decide to mix objects that most would place within gender categories. A good example of that would be someone who decides to wear masculine appearing clothing, with makeup or another part of themselves appearing feminine.

It is recommended that when coming across a genderfluid person, that you politely ask what pronouns they would like to be referred as. Some people who experience fluid gender don't use the word "genderfluid" for themselves. Some people with fluid genders call themselves by a word such as genderqueer, bigender, multigender, polygender, or other words. This can be because the people haven't seen the word "genderfluid," or it can be because they don't think it describes them well. It's important to understand that each person has the right to decide what to call their gender identity and that they're the only one who can do that.

Some genderfluid people find that their environment does not influence their gender identity to change. They find that their gender fluidity is unpredictable and happens randomly. Other genderfluid people find that their gender changes depending on the situation, and is influenced by inside or outside sources. For genderfluid people who think their changes in gender might have to do with their menstrual cycle, they think it might be caused by how the natural hormone levels rise and fall during that cycle. It’s possible that a person might think that they tend to feel male during their periods even if that’s only rarely the case for them because the incongruence of that situation would feel noticeable and memorable.

The biggest thing to keep in mind for both sides of a relationship with someone who is gender fluid, whether that relationship is platonic or romantic, is being honest with each other about who you are and what you are looking for. Being open with a significant other can really be better for both people involved than one might think.

When you are looking for your soul mate, you don’t want to forcefully choose between a couple of people you met through friends. You probably have some specific qualities you are looking for in your future lover, you perhaps prefer a certain kind of look. So, it is natural that you want to talk to as broad a variety of people as possible so that the probability of meeting your soul mate increases.

And therefore, joining a transgender dating app or a transgender personal dating site might be the best bet for you. Online dating increases the likelihood of meeting like-minded people by many times. It can also be great fun as you can interact with different kinds of people from across the world. You would obviously not end updating all of them so it would be a mentally enriching experience. You will learn so much about different personality types and diverse cultural backgrounds.

If you would like to date a transgender person, then you should certainly consider joining a transsexual dating app or an online trans dating service. There are many reasons why online dating is a much better option than conventional offline dating. Let’s take a look at some of them.

You are Super Busy

That’s one of the most important reasons for joining an online dating site. You are always short of time. You are super busy with your work commitments, office meetings and at the end of the day, there is literally no time left to socialize. Every time you think of making that extra effort and going out, you just feel mentally tired and settle down for your couch and a glass of wine instead! Even if you do manage to drag yourself out, you simply don’t have the energy to talk to random people and make new friendships.

In such a scenario, a trans dating app or a trans dating site is literally your best bet. The biggest advantage of online dating is that you need to make very little effort in terms of meeting people and communicating with them. At the end of a long day, you can just relax on the couch, login a trans dating site and start getting connected with people.

Online dating is indeed a blessing for singles who just don’t have the time to go out and meet new people.

You are Shy and Introvert

There are people who are just not comfortable with face-to-face meetings, especially if these are of the romantic types. Shy and introverted people are somewhat socially awkward. So, if you are that kind of a person, it would be literally impossible for you to strike a conversation with random people at a party in the hope of finding a soul mate. Even if you are super attracted to somebody at a get-together, you just won’t have the courage to approach them and initiate a conversation.

In such a scenario, transgender dating websites are just ideal for you. In online dating, you can communicate with a person through just textual chatting. So, you don’t have to deal with the awkwardness of face-to-face interaction. On a trans girl dating site or a trans dating app, you can take the interaction forward slowly, at your own pace. Online dating is perfectly suited to the temperament of shy and introverted types. There is no pressure on you to go out of your way to talk to somebody. If you start getting along well with somebody and would like to see them for a face-to-face meeting at some point in time, then it’s great! But even for that, there is no pressure on you that you have to meet someone for a date outside. You can just keep things limited to the online medium for as long as you wish.

You are Afraid of Rejection

Now, this is a common reason behind joining transsexual dating sites. You are a self-conscious person and because of negative past experiences, you want to avoid meeting a potential love interest face to face.

Maybe, you have faced rejection in the past and are therefore scared of striking conversations with someone you are attracted to. Online dating then is the best and safest route for you to follow.

You Have Very Specific Criteria for the Kind of Person You Want to Date

When you are meeting someone through your friends, you have a limited pool of people to choose from. Even if you happen to be the charismatic sort and can confidently strike a conversation with strangers at a party, your options are still limited. Not everyone likes talking to random people. So, you will probably just end up being labelled as a freak by some!

On the contrary, if you join a transgender dating site or an online transgender forum, your chances of meeting the love of your life increase manifold. You have very specific criteria for the kind of person you are looking for. You are super-specific with regard to what their physical appearance should be like, what their educational background should be like and what kind of mindset they should have. Now it’s common sense that you can find such a person only after a lot of hit and trial. That is, you have to be able to converse with a really large number of people so that the chances of meeting that right person increase So, for you, a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site is just ideal.

Blind Dates Are Not Your Cup of Tea

Blind dates can be fun and exciting for some. But that’s only a very specific kind of crowd that likes going all crazy and haywire. It’s not for everybody. If you are not comfortable with the idea of a blind date, then online dating is for you.

Let’s accept it; a blind date is just a super bizarre phenomenon. Ok, you meet someone you don’t even know and then the two of you are super bored! It’s probably awkward and you don’t quite know what to say to each other because you just don’t have any prior connection. And love or even attraction requires some kind of a basic foundation.

 An online ts dating service or a ts dating app lets you precisely build that kind of foundation. You can spend hours, days, even months talking to somebody. You get to know someone slowly over a period of time. You figure out their likes, dislikes, temperament, everything. The attraction sort of grows on you with time. And then when you finally go out on a real date with your love interest, it would be nothing less than magic.

Online Dating Can Give You New Friends!

If you are the kind of person who likes making new friends, then online dating is just the right thing for you. Free transgender dating sites or transgender dating websites would enable you to meet such a fascinating array of interesting people from all across the world. And obviously, you can’t date all of them! Some of them become your good friends.

Looking for a love interest or a partner is the obvious reason behind joining an online dating site. But it has so many benefits you never thought about. It can even give you friends for a lifetime. And that’s such a beautiful feeling. Now, you would say that you can make friends offline as well. Of course, you can but it’s just not the same thing. The probability of meeting so many exciting and interesting people so easily is very limited offline.

Online Dating Saves Money

Now, this is a big advantage with online dating. If you are trying to look for your love interest offline, then you should be ready to part with a lot of cash! You will try out dating different people. Most of these will not work but you would have already spent a lot of money.

If you join a transsexual dating app or a transsexual dating site, you can literally save a lot of money. All you need is a computer and a decent internet connection. And you are good to go. Of course, when you do find your love interest, then money will have to be spent. But during the process of searching, you literally don’t have to spend anything. And that’s a huge advantage.

Your Personality isn’t that Great

A great personality is a prerequisite for impressing people offline. You have to be the kind of person who walks into a room and everyone’s eyes are on them. And it’s not just about looks. There has to be a certain magnetic pull, a certain irresistible charm to your personality.

So, if you think your personality is not too much to talk about and you just can’t impress people when you meet them face to face, then online dating is good for you.

Whether you have that magnetic personality or not doesn’t matter much in online dating. In such kind of dating, people usually have specific criteria about the kind of person they are looking for. It is more about your education, profession, hobbies or interests. So, from thousands of profiles available on a transgender dating site, you can select a few that match your interests. So, in online dating, you don’t have that kind of pressure to exhibit that magnetic personality or something. You just go with the flow. So even if you are an average looking person with an average personality, the chances of finding your soul mate are high.

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When you are in a relationship, there comes a crucial time when you got to introduce your partner to your intimate circle of family and friends. For a guy, introducing any woman to his friends and family can be intimidating. ‘Will they like her?’, ‘Would she be able to get along with them?’, all these questions preoccupy your mind. And if you are dating a trans woman, things can get even trickier.

Trans girl dating is no easy feat to accomplish, even in these so-called modern times. When it comes to certain things, most peoples’ minds are still stuck in the Middle Ages. If you are dating a trans woman, you have to be literally prepared for the worst of reactions from your family. So trans girl dating isn’t for the meek. You have to be super strong in your determination and in terms of your love and commitment to your partner that no matter what, you will always stand by her.

However, nothing in this world is impossible to accomplish if you try it out the right way with a cool head and a zealous, fighting spirit. If you discuss things with your trans girl at every step and proceed with a plan, then your family and friends might just accept your relationship. Just do not rush into making any impromptu revelations! Wait for the right time and chalk out a strategy.

If you follow a few basic tips, then the whole process of introducing your trans lady love to your intimate circle is just going to get easier and hassle-free.

Tell her that You Love her to the Core

The most important aspect of trans girl dating is mutual love and respect. As a guy, it is important that you take her fully into confidence before communicating your relationship to your friends and family. Your trans woman has to be ready for the whole thing. It is a big deal for her. She is about to be introduced to her boyfriend’s family. She wants to be her best version in front of them. But at the same time, her identity is very important to her. She has literally battled societal prejudices and censure to be able to live the way she wants to. So, it is natural that she is quite a bit apprehensive about the whole situation. So, you have to be constantly by her side and communicate your love and commitment for her.

It’s reassuring and comforting for her to hear it out from you again and again that you love her to the core. You got to assure your trans woman that no matter what, the two of you will be always together.

Your family will not quite layout a red-carpet welcome for the two of you once you tell them about your relationship. And you know that. So, while it’s good to hope for the best, be prepared for the worst as well. You have to reassure your trans woman that even if your family doesn’t accept the relationship, you will be with her. Tell her that irrespective of the way things work out with your family, your relationship will remain as it is.

The love between the two of you is what eventually matters. You think that it’s probably the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. But that’s about it really. The future of your relationship shouldn’t depend on their reaction. And that is why it is important for you to constantly communicate to your beautiful trans woman that your love for her is rock solid.

Consult her Before Making any Announcement

Now, this is the most important aspect of trans girl dating. You think it’s the right time to introduce her to your family and friends. Maybe, she doesn’t share your opinion. And you have to respect that.

Your trans woman has to be comfortable about it. It is a big step. You are choosing to make your relationship public and therefore, her comfort level is what matters the most. Talk to her clearly; give her reasons as to why you think it’s important to tell your family about the relationship at this point in time. And if she is still not convinced, it’s ok to postpone it till she feels comfortable.

The whole idea of taking this next big step of announcing the relationship to your intimate circle of people is to take it to the next level. Maybe you guys are thinking of marriage at some point in time. And that’s why you think it’s important to take it to the next level now. Whatever be the scenario, this shouldn’t become a point of conflict in your relationship. That is simply not worth it. If she is not yet ready to meet your friends and family, just postpone it for some time.

Plan it Out

It’s not a good idea to make the revelation to your friends and family randomly! You have to plan out the whole thing. The two of you got to figure out when is the best time to communicate this to them. Not just that, you also have to discuss what is the best way to communicate this to them.

If you already know that your family will be way too prejudiced against your trans woman, then you can’t just tell them everything bluntly in one go. You have to do some groundwork before you tell them the actual thing. Maybe, you can try and create a positive impression in their minds about trans people. Just try having general conversations about trans people first. The goal is to slowly reduce their prejudices. And then when the right time comes, you can tell them the exact thing.

It is also important, to be honest with your trans woman regarding your family’s attitudes. If you have specific family members or friends who would be vehemently opposing the relationship, warn your girlfriend in advance. Tell her candidly that these particular people might just be rude to her so that she doesn’t get so shocked by their reaction. However, her respect is of utmost importance so you have to draw the line somewhere. If you think their reactions will be too much for her to handle, it is best to make the announcement when your partner is not around.

You have to Stand up for your Lover

A guy who loves a transgender girl should stand up for her, no matter what. And this is true of any relationship. When you love a woman and have made a commitment, you have to honour that despite all societal disapproval.

You have made the big announcement in front of your family and friends. They still do not accept the relationship and some of them are way too disrespectful to your trans woman. Now, this has to be the saturation point for your tolerance. You have to tell them categorically that she is your lady love and disrespecting her is not ok. You have communicated to them all about your relationship and whether to accept it or not is their wish but that doesn’t change your relationship status with her.

If someone disrespects your trans lady love, you can’t just ignore the whole thing. You have to tell them firmly and strictly that you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour again. When you are in a relationship with someone, loving them doesn’t just mean making those ‘I love you’ declarations. You have to demonstrate your love in life’s circumstances. And that includes standing by her in all conditions, even if that has to be at the expense of a friend.

Keep up the task of Convincing your Family

If your family hasn’t accepted your relationship yet, that doesn’t mean they are never going to accept it. If they are being disrespectful to your trans woman at this point in time, then better keep her out of all this. But you should keep up the communication with your family from your side.

You have to be adept at the art of convincing. Many people who are completely against something the first time they hear of it change their thinking down the line. This is the way human psychology works. So, you just have to be patient with your family.

If nothing else works, just leave it on time. Time can do wonders to a situation. After a certain point, they will realize that what exists between you and your trans lady is indeed true love. They tried their best to dissuade you from dating her but that didn’t work. Your relationship became even stronger with time and despite all societal disapproval. So, your friends and family would eventually realize that nothing can separate the two of you. They might be hesitant of outrightly declaring it because of ego issues but they will slowly accept your relationship.

So, you have to constantly do a balancing act between your trans lady love and your family. You have made it clear to them that they cannot disrespect her. But you still have to keep the channels of communication open.

Trans girl dating is new terrain for most cis men.  Most of them have probably never ever thought of dating a trans woman as it isn’t something that fits into the typical societal Mould. And even if there are a few who are fascinated by the idea of dating a trans woman, they are scared of societal disapproval. Society is still very prejudiced against transgender people so they probably dismiss the idea thinking it’s not worth the risk.

But most men don’t have an idea about what they are missing on. Love with a transgender woman is a euphoric experience. It’s something that leaves you utterly hypnotized and transports you to a different land altogether! If you have only dated cis women, you have just touched the tip of the iceberg. The kind of passion and raw emotion that a trans woman can bring into the art of lovemaking, a cis woman can’t even get anywhere near that.

Dating a trans woman is like exploring an altogether new dimension of the universe.  And for those who don’t judge people on the basis of silly societal norms, it’s a great way to meet an amazing and beautiful woman who values her femininity to such a great extent. The whole idea of making love to somebody whom society technically doesn’t allow you to date is such a novel one in itself.  It is a rather sublime and beautiful transgression. And if you have the courage and guts to make this transgression, then the rewards will be great.

These days you can easily meet a trans woman through a trans girl dating site or a dating site for transgender woman.  

Making love with trans women is surely an experience of a lifetime. But it is important to keep a few things in mind while making love with transgender females. If you follow these points, then your lovemaking would surely have the kind of passion and intensity that most couples can only dream of!.

There are two kinds of Transgender Women

Coming out as a trans woman is a different experience for everyone. Most choose to undergo medical transitioning while some skip it completely. Many trans women undergo certain medical procedures but not all. So basically, some trans women have had vaginoplasty while some haven't.

Vaginoplasty is a procedure that creates a surgically implanted vagina. Now, this surgically created vagina is fresh and might even feel better than the vagina of a cis woman.  So, this is something you have to keep in mind while making love to a trans woman, whether she has had Vaginoplasty or not.

With the trans woman who has had vaginoplasty, your sexual experience would be quite similar to the one with cis women. When you stimulate her vagina in the act of foreplay and intercourse, it would give you the same pleasure as the vagina of a cis woman. However, in the case of trans women who don’t have a vagina, the entire experience of lovemaking is different. So, it might not be for you if you like lovemaking to be somewhat conventional in a heterosexual way. You would enjoy making love to a trans woman without a vagina if you are bisexual. Of course, even if you are not bisexual, you can still enjoy the whole experience if you are open to trying out new things. If you are the kind of guy who has a fantasy about anal sex, then this is your best chance. And the amazing thing is you are having anal sex with a woman. Even if the trans woman doesn’t have a vagina, she is still a woman so the whole experience is within the matrix of a man and a woman making love. You can meet a different kind of trans women through various trans woman dating sites or transgender dating websites.

You have to take the Lead

The stereotypes about trans women being masculine and aggressive are well, basically just stereotypes. That’s why many guys have this misconception that in lovemaking, it’s the trans woman who calls the shots and the guy is generally in the submissive position. This is just not true.

When you actually meet a trans woman through a transgender dating site, you will realize that she can be incredibly shy. In fact, it is advisable that while dating a trans woman, a guy should make the first move. Trans women have all those super feminine fantasies of her sexy, muscular guy holding her and taking her to the bedroom. She wants her man to take the lead. So, in that sense, she is quite similar to a cis woman. While making love to a trans woman, you also have to be very gentle as she still might be in the process of getting used to her new vagina.

Trans Women have Stunning Bodies

This is a big advantage when it comes to making love with trans females. She has a stunning body that is way more well-proportioned than the body of an average cis woman. So, it’s good to take her stunning body into account while you are ready to make love to her!

A well-sculpted, beautiful physique is not just great from an aesthetic point of view while lovemaking but it also increases your chances of being able to try out new positions while having sex. Your trans female with her gorgeous and super flexible body makes it a pleasure for you to navigate different positions and undertake some novel experiments in lovemaking!

Do not expect her to jump into bed just Because she is a Trans Woman

Now, there are many stereotypes surrounding transsexual people. And most of these stereotypes are just terrible manifestations of society’s general bigotry towards trans people. So, when you are dating a trans woman through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, do not judge her by any of these stereotypes.

For deciding when is the right time to ask a trans woman to take your relationship to the next level that is make it physical, follow the same rules that you do with cis women. Just because she is a trans woman, that doesn’t mean she is some kind of exotic kink to satiate your perversions. She is a woman like any other and you cannot presume things about her just because she is trans.

If you’ve met her through a trans dating site and you guys are out together for your first date, please do not straightaway announce that you want to sleep with her unless you get some very strong indication from her side that she is looking for some fun. She is a beautiful woman so treat her with the dignity that every woman deserves. Get to know her first and after a couple of dates when you feel that there is strong mutual attraction, make the move only then.

Lovemaking with a Trans Woman can be quite a Passionate Affair

Now you might say this can be true for any love affair where two people have great chemistry. But that’s just not the case, when you are making love to a cis woman, there is a certain frigidity about her that doesn’t allow her to open up completely. Your lovemaking might tick all the boxes technically but when it comes to passion, she is just not able to show you her wild side 100 percent because there is a certain hesitancy on her part.

With a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating site, you can be assured that there would be no such hesitancy. When you go out with her on a date, she will be all feminine and ladylike. And when it comes to lovemaking, she would certainly expect you to make the first move. But when the two of you are in the throes of lovemaking, you would get to see the wild, animal side of her.

When it comes to passion during lovemaking, no cis woman can get even dream of competing with what a trans woman is capable of. She is passion personified. So, when it comes to her sexual appetite in the process of lovemaking, you will be just left gasping for breath! That is the kind of ferocious intensity a trans woman is capable of.

Do not have any pre-conceived Notions about your Lovemaking

Just because she is a trans woman you’ve met through a trans dating app, please do not harbour any pre-conceived notions about the kind of lovemaking that you guys will indulge in. Many men get influenced by whatever they see in transgender porn and they expect similar kind of stuff from a transgender female in reality.

If that is your intention of dating her, then don’t even bother. She has a lot of attention already and she doesn’t give two hoots to anybody who wants to use her to satiate their fetish. If you date her, respect the boundaries. Do not ask her inappropriate questions about her body parts. And when it comes to lovemaking, just follow the approach that you would with any cis woman.

The basics are the same. Lots of foreplay so that sexual tension between the two of you begins to build up and then take things from there. Just go with the flow. Do not treat transgender porn as some kind of manual that teaches you how to make love with a trans woman. Infact, get trans porn out of your head completely. You got to know that in those videos, there is a well-rehearsed and staged fantasy act being put together and offered for public consumption. It’s not reality. So, when it comes to lovemaking with a trans woman, you just have to follow the basic real-life approach. Just feel the passion and go with the flow.

Too bad that for most people, connecting with potential partners via ts dating apps or platforms has its limits. Who doesn’t know the feeling when the exciting chatter with a new match or contact gives way to tedious and monotonous discussions of topics you’ve covered again and again? In case you are new to online dating, be prepared to make such experiences.

While chatting online with people you cannot see, communicating only via text messages and emojis, can become boring very quickly due to the nature of the conversation, another risk you face every time you open your ts dating app is the ‘what’ you talk about. Too many times, a lovely and wonderful meeting in the virtual room of a site has devolved into tedious accounts of the respective person’s day. If there were a  rewards or points program that gave you a penny each time someone asks you, after a gap in communication, “How are you?” or “How was your day?”, we would all be millionaires already. 

Don’t misunderstand, though: Sharing details about your day and your life has its place in online dating. How someone replies to “How was your day?” tells you a lot about what this person values in life.

Yet if they say the same thing for three days in a row, or their replies grow shorter by the minute, then you know you have hit boredom territory. 

Since yes, chances are high that your date or chatting partner also shares this sense of listlessness while engaging with you. If you don’t act now, you might ruin what could have been the start of a great romantic journey for yourself. Therefore, you have to ensure that you keep every online date you have as memorable and fun as possible, both for your sake and your partner’s.

Easier said than done, however. There is a certain degree of creativity needed in order to spice up your conversations, especially if you haven’t seen the hide nor hair of the person you are talking to. And while you might consider yourself quite the open-minded, flexible person who could excel at an improv class if these were still a thing (at least in person), you might eventually run out of ideas as well.

This is why we have gathered a list of tips that can help you turn those monotonous conversations into memorable and delightful moments of the budding romance.

Tips on how to get creative with trans dating online:

– Share meaningful details

When the inevitable question of “How are you?” or “How was your day?” arrives in your inbox, consider one-word replies banned for life. Think about the reasons instead:  Why do you want to say you’re fine? Why was your day just okay, as opposed to great or wonderful? Add these tidbits to your answer. Being honest will motivate your online dating partner to reply in kind.

– Speaking of honesty: be truthful

You signed up for this transgender dating app or this trans dating site to find a real connection and long-term romantic partnership. Leave the posing and flexing for hook-up culture. Admit to driving an ancient car because it is more fiscally responsible. Own your career trajectory, wherever it has led. Share your struggles with your identity (especially on dating sites for transgender women, men, and other folks). Only if you are honest will you find people who share your values and outlook on life, which is the basis for a successful relationship.

– Ask questions

Even if you are nervous or unsure if it is okay with the other person to simply pose questions, this will help get conversations going. Most people love talking about themselves, so seize that to your advantage. Think about what you would most like to know and start with that.

– Think of new topics to talk about

Yes, this might be a no-brainer, but all too often, online chats are centered on just telling each other what you have done for the day. If you go for this strategy every time, both you and your date are going to lose interest soon enough. So off you go! Find new topics that are interesting enough to help you talk with your date at length and with vibrancy. The first and best place to start is, of course, the other person’s profile. Check out their interests and hobbies. If none are listed, put on your detective hat and inspect the photos they uploaded. Look for the context, and ask about it.

– Use outside resources

Once you have exhausted the new topics you thought about, there is nothing wrong with involving outside help. This can come in the form of a fun news article or blog post that caught your eye, or simply a trailer for a new series or the announcement of a new album by a band you or your chatting partner cares about. You will be surprised how such a little gesture can bring you closer together and kick-start a passionate discussion.

– Expand your repertoire

As in, surprise your dates once in a while! Show them something they do not expect to see when you start the chat. It may be a video of you singing their favorite song, or a photo of your pet (or child) delivering a thoughtful or funny message. By sprinkling in surprises into your online dating chats, your potential partners will always look forward to receiving a notification that they have a new message. It might also, in turn, inspire them to reply in kind and think of surprises for you.

– Embrace your inner child

Not necessarily by talking about your childhood interests (although that can be a fascinating topic all on its own), but by being silly together. Yes, even when you are only conversing online you can have fun with antics and banter. You can post photos of yourself wearing crazy headpieces and costumes. You can play games as if you are together. You can compete with each other about who can tell or find the funnier jokes. Do not think that, just because finding love online is a serious topic,  that you need to stay ‘on brand’ with that tone all throughout your online dating experience.

– Go beyond simple chatting

Of course, you will want to limit your online dates to messaging or the occasional voice message at the beginning. Yet once you are comfortable and, most importantly, have established a foundation of trust with the other person, make use of the many opportunities that technology has already developed. Hop on a video call – or plan on for a time that fits both you and your date’s schedules – and allow your match to hear your voice and see your face. This would help you carry on conversations for a long time without becoming easily tired of having to type everything you want to say. Needless to say, this also opens up your dates to new possibilities, like a shared dinner over video chat or a game you both enjoy.

– Flirt!

Seriously, get that charm on and use it to your advantage. Only if that is your talent, though. Awkward moments are inevitable, but you don’t need to ask for them. As an alternative, simply be your nicest self. Respect the other person and show you appreciate them taking the time to engage with you.

As you can see, there are so many ways through which you can improve your experience on ts dating sites. You do not have to limit yourself just because the nature of online dating has you taking through a keyboard without a visual of the other person. Be creative and let your mind rule over your physical boundaries.

But hang on… how do you know what is the right strategy to use? 

A valid question, the answer to which depends on the respective situation. Think about how your date engages with you and determine which vibe you are getting from them. Serious or playful? Cheery or restrained? This can give you an idea of how to start being more creative with online dating. Once you have begun, do not be afraid to experiment. Try out different approaches and see how your potential partner reacts. This will help you practice, give you more insight into the person you are communicating with, and help filter out those who definitely don’t fit your expectations. 

And hey, if you have exhausted all options and are at the end of your list of ideas, it might be time to genuinely take the experience offline! Sure, that’s another thing that is so easily said but poses challenges when it comes to execution. But if you apply the same creativity to this step, you will certainly find a way that fits both your and your date’s lives and personalities.