I know I have reached my individual comfort level as a pre-op trans-woman. It took a long time to find this spot tho, due to various things in my life that have happened I think that where I am now is going to be my comfort level. The point is that each of us has to find our own *comfort level*. Sometimes it is hard and sometimes easy to get to. No one should ever be looked down at or mocked because they may or may not be at your comfort zone. We each have a set of problems to deal with that ARE UNIQUE to us. I call myself a pre-op trans woman (and live as female). Due to my age and underlying medical problems I will most likely never continue past the point I am at now. The people who matter to me do know and simply accept who I am. I regard myself as a woman and that is all that matters to me. I live as such 24/7. And 1 more thing do not despair at the time it takes to reach your comfort level....you will find that sometimes time is exactly the thing that is needed. You can find support from persons you least expect it from. In my case I certainly did! And that made everything much easier for me. I neither sought nor fought for the acceptance I was given....I simply did what I needed to do for myself. Remember NO ONE has the right to dictate your life style or happiness level..the only one who has that right is you. Good luck and enjoy reaching your comfort level.
The Wall